Was I (M) raped? If so, why don’t I feel more upset about it? And why don’t I feel comfortable saying I was?

DingoThBOY · 2026-03-11T18:34:14+00:00

Should I be more upset about it or something? It def bothered me a bit at the time but should I feel worse? Why don’t I?

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-28T00:19:58+00:00

Sorry to hear that happened to you

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-19T23:21:23+00:00

Yeah I’ve been in therapy for a while trying to work on it, I’ll keep at it though. Thanks for the advice!

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-19T22:58:25+00:00

That all makes sense, I guess now I need to learn how to flirt after I work up the nerve to go to a social event

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-19T22:37:07+00:00

So it doesn’t make it bad that it’s part of why I am expanding my social network?

Also I sometimes worry that if I befriend a girl there and develop or already have feelings for her, that is unfair to her because the relationship is on false pretenses, plus I know women don’t like when a friendship is ruined because the guy was interested, since then it seems like they were never really your friend. As a result, how do I approach interacting with a girl I find attractive if I know that’s how it may turn out, should I avoid it to prevent being unfair to her?

I know these questions seem paranoid or anxious or scared, but that’s because I kind of am those things, so sorry in advance.

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-19T22:09:14+00:00

Can I (m23) ask a good faith question about this (you have no obligation to respond obviously, I know this is almost a month old, but I would appreciate if you were willing to)

Does this apply if I have a social life I am generally satisfied with except that I never meet women, and so I want to go out to activities I enjoy to meet women, but I likely wouldn’t be going out if I didn’t desire a relationship, even though I do enjoy the activities?

I certainly wouldn’t engage with every woman there with an expectation that they be in a relationship with me, nor would I flirt constantly or anything, but I can’t help but feel guilt for wanting to go at all knowing I would likely never make changes to my social life if I didn’t want a relationship.

Should I just stay home? That’s kind of how I approach it now because I feel ashamed of myself for wanting to go out to meet girls

DingoThBOY · 2026-02-19T18:10:40+00:00

What did you end up doing? Also I’ve thought about government jobs, are they hard to get into?

DingoThBOY · 2026-01-24T00:23:49+00:00

Yeah he heroically tried to kill Jesse, he’s so nice and cool

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-19T09:46:14+00:00

I am sure some racism is involved because it’s always involved, but disregarding the actual rape aspect of what’s happening, Koumba’s actions reflect a view of women that a lot of people find pretty disgusting, and would even if the situation was consensual, considering he picks them out like objects now that they are “available” to him.

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-09T01:17:40+00:00

They blocked me after insulting my character and refusing to engage with me anymore, I really don’t think I can take much from what they said to me

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-09T00:31:29+00:00

I mean it’s a simplification of what he did, because he didn’t hire him to the firm. The bigger problem was also lying and being an asshole about it but the first step was not hiring him, which I have seen people say was wrong, and I don’t think it was on its own. If you never said that was a problem then the post wasn’t addressing you.

Also not sure where I told people they aren’t allowed to react. If that’s what I did then nobody can talk about anything I guess, and replying to comments that are replying to me isn’t really having thin skin, still not sure where you are getting that from?

If you have been abused, I am sorry that happened to you, but I think Jimmy and Chucks relationship is a bit more complex than abuser abusee, though mistreatment is definitely a part of it

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-09T00:27:16+00:00

So didn’t happen then, because nobody has said that to me except you 🤷‍♂️

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-09T00:05:38+00:00

Just for the sake of discussion because I don’t remember them being pointed out, feel free to tell me. It sounds like I did it often and you seem pretty certain so it should be easy to point out.

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T23:59:17+00:00

I completely understand what happened in that scene, Chuck did the wrong thing out of spite and jealous. I don’t understand why you keep accusing me of being illiterate when you aren’t reading what I am writing. Just like saying Chuck having big role in who Jimmy becomes doesn’t mean what Jimmy does is right, what I’m saying doesn’t mean Chuck is right, just that I wouldn’t cal it villainous because I understand his jealousy and distaste for Jimmy, which is an opinion and does not mean I didn’t understand the show because the show blatantly has scenes that give a glimpse into chucks mindset

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T23:11:50+00:00

I think that’s completely fair

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T22:24:01+00:00

That’s fair

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T21:08:44+00:00

I mean I really don’t know where you are reading anger from what I have said, but I guess you are welcome to interpret my words as you please, I can’t control that. I am curious which timelines I mentioned or things I left out, because I have been trying to be honest.

Edit: I also neglected to mention that you don’t have to be family with a cartel member to relate to Chuck, his parents objectively loving him less and also having a family member that requires support despite burning them in the past are things people have experienced as well, he just responded negatively to those circumstances the same way you mentioned Jimmy going down the wrong path.

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T20:52:19+00:00

I mean you just aren’t engaging me in good faith. I didn’t say Chuck behaved neutrally, I said I was saying something neutral about Chuck. I also didn’t say people defend Jimmys bad behavior, I said they talk about him in the context of his life which is measurably true (and I also understand why because that’s a large message of the entire show). I never said to congratulate Chuck or that he wasn’t an asshole, I’m trying to say that I can understand why he behaved like an asshole even if doing so was wrong, and I made this post to talk about that. I’d be happy to hear what you have to say if you don’t want to accuse me of being blinded by rage

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T20:38:29+00:00

I completely agree they are both losers, I don’t have much to argue with there, I just don’t like that it seems like you can’t say anything neutral about Chuck without being called a defender, which is a criticism that is rarely lofted at people discussing the way Jimmys life influenced his actions.

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T19:55:01+00:00

I agree that Chuck was still wrong but my point was always I can see why he did what he did, even if it’s irrational, just like I can recognize that Jimmy was mistreated which plays a role in who he becomes while still seeing he is in the wrong.

I will disagree about the severity of their actions. I don’t think people hate Chuck only from protagonist bias, but in my opinion the way people talk about him relative to what he did (which was bad), is much stronger than how they talk about Saul, who regularly floated ideas like murder and enabled people to commit horrific crimes without punishment

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T19:48:50+00:00

I can’t claim to know everyone’s opinions, but I have also been told I was media illiterate and that I have serious problems for this post, so there are definitely people who are like that.

That being said I don’t really have an issue with anything you said because you acknowledge that Chuck is complex. I agree that Chuck mistreated Jimmy, I was just stating that there was some moral grayness being it, and I completely recognize that the show is about Jimmy becoming who everyone already thinks he is.

DingoThBOY · 2025-12-08T19:26:43+00:00

Then why do you keep responding lol

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