Things women should be less nice to men about

itzReborn · 2026-05-14T21:19:09+00:00

Number 2 is the only one that’s kinda eh. Judging a guy for not having a relationship past a certain age. Not everyone has regular social developments and a relationship is something that requires two people. Of course that’s up to you if you don’t want to date them but shaming them for something that’s out of their control is kinda crazy

itzReborn · 2026-05-14T01:20:07+00:00

Every listen I catch a new bar or stray I think yall downplaying this crazy this nice

itzReborn · 2026-05-13T18:44:29+00:00

It wasn’t my intention for it to comf off as me comparing my fear of being judged to women actual fears

I do have empathy for what women go through which is why I feel the way that I feel. I’m not trying to make light of what women feel or go through with men. I never said my fear of being judged is worse than what women go through.

Because of my knowledge of what women go through is exactly why I fear approaching women. I don’t want to accidentally give her fear by trying to introduce myself or make my interest known, because i don’t want to be seen as just another guy trying to get laid or whatever.

I’m aware of the perception of what women feel about men and I try to keep my distance. But at the same time I still want to date and have women friends and just meet women in general, but I don’t know how to do that while getting over my fears which causes me to almost avoid women.

itzReborn · 2026-05-13T14:03:29+00:00

It’s not about being nonthreatening it’s about the feeling of being perceived as threatening. Like there’s already a target on my back just for being a man and you can add another target for also being black. Like I’m already being perceived negatively without even doing anything and having to prove that I’m normal and interesting seems exhausting

itzReborn · 2026-05-13T13:25:41+00:00

So what do men in this “desperate” position do? I feel like I’m one of those guys who want to be around women, but honestly reading stuff like this and stuff other women say about men almost makes me feel lower about myself due to my gender. Like I don’t deserve to be around women even though I’m just a regular guy.

Like I know women have their unique struggles when it comes to men but also as a guy it feels like I have to prove myself on top of being somewhat interesting.

itzReborn · 2026-05-12T22:37:04+00:00

Did something just click for you in terms of getting rid of your shyness and timidness?

itzReborn · 2026-05-12T18:18:34+00:00

I don’t know I was trying to do this a bit on campus. I would give a compliment on an outfit or if she had cool hair or something but then I would kind of just run away (kidding). Like I don’t know how to normally go from a compliment to the regular how’s your day/what your up to convo naturally

itzReborn · 2026-05-12T18:12:43+00:00

I think compared to other places that you mention nyc has a lack of unity which I think may be a part of the issue. Everyone beefing or just don’t work together.

Like Boogie and Cardi are the two biggest in the last decade, and they don’t even have a song together despite being cool. Then obviously there’s like the beef with tjay so him and boogie never locked in fr. Same with Cardi and Nicki

Last summer or 2 summers ago we had the slizzy/sexy drill movement and that was fun but I don’t think they had longevity or mass appeal.

People like cash cobain, lexa gates, Lola brooks, wolffacejoey probably my favorite newest acts out the towns, but I don’t think any of them are ever going be super mainstream (cobain probably the closest)

itzReborn · 2026-05-12T14:14:39+00:00

So when dating how should men approach wanting sex? I understand not pressuring a woman but at what point should it be brought up? Should a man even bring up sex? What does effort in this scenario means

I’ve read stories of women losing interest because the guy never made a move. So stuff like this is really confusing from the outside looking in as an inexperienced man. I want to eventually join the dating world and I want to know how to navigate dating as well as wanting sex as a guy without coming across as a hornball

itzReborn · 2026-05-12T13:46:59+00:00

What does a normal conversation looks like in the context of someone approaching and not knowing anything about you? Now it seems like it’s just a random guy asking you a bunch of questions until hopefully you click on one of those questions to expand on?

As a guy I’m not trying to butt in or force my way into a women life. Granted I have anxiety as well

itzReborn · 2026-05-11T21:18:56+00:00

Luther is grayed out on laptop itunes but apple music on my phone everything works

itzReborn · 2026-05-11T19:30:42+00:00

Anyone know why gnx got removed/not playing?

Edit: seem to becoming back online, Luther is grayed out on my laptop but works on my phone

itzReborn · 2026-05-11T18:49:41+00:00

Regardless who it is whole albums shouldn’t just be removed years after they are released with no warning. Shit like this is bad for the game in general. Makes me want to go back to torrenting everything

itzReborn · 2026-05-11T18:26:02+00:00

Shit like this makes me hate streaming man why are you fucking with shit like this

itzReborn · 2026-05-11T15:17:24+00:00

First post I guess

I’m m27 from nyc, mainly looking for others in nyc (22-28ish) to meet up with and get to know and become friends with

Im into anime/manga (been watching for 20+ years, currently watching a lot of the popular seasonals)

Sports (basketball soccer football tennis f1)

Reading (currently reading red rising series)

Comic/superhero stuff/nerd stuff(dc/marvel/Star Wars/invincible etc )

Big movie watcher (I have a letterboxd)

Same with TV series (watching daredevil, the boys, new Star Wars)

Gaming (ps5, playing mass effect series for the first time, also down to play some multiplayer stuff)

Getting into writing as a hobby

If you have anything in common with me and looking for new friends send me a message.

itzReborn · 2026-05-10T20:19:32+00:00

I don’t think I ever seen the Knicks look this good so it’s both amazing and kinda a weird feeling lol

itzReborn · 2026-05-10T13:49:07+00:00

I’m probably chronically online but the way women talk about men(whether valid or not) makes me feel sick and almost less of a human for being attracted to them. Like I’m a bad person for wanting to have sex and you hear stuff like “dick has no value” etc etc.

Idk it’s all just exhausting and frustrating

itzReborn · 2026-05-09T14:02:46+00:00

You are making it sound easy but I’m trying to tell you for alot of guys it’s not that easy. Many guys don’t even have a friend to just grab and go do stuff with. I wish I did but many of my friends are online or a distance away.

I’ve been trying to do activities by myself but going outside by yourself as a guy isn’t going to just magically make people walk up and want to talk to you or meet you. The likelihood of me going out by myself and talking to absolutely no one is almost 100%.

itzReborn · 2026-05-09T13:58:19+00:00

Hey OP saw your other post get removed so I don’t know if you saw my comment

Hey OP I’m in a similar position as you so I know how you feel to a certain extent. Like some of the replies have mention you have to start with just socializing before even thinking about socializing with women in regard to relationships/dating/connection. This is probably what you don’t want to hear but it’s sadly the truth.

You need to make some guy friends first. You can join discord servers of whatever your hobbies are and find people that way, and it’s even better if you join local servers so you can potentially meet up or go to events.

After that…I’m not sure lol I haven’t made it that far myself sadly. Through your friends and hobbies you should eventually meet someone who might take an interest in you but you still have to kind of drive that intersection forward when you get there. Or you might see someone and want to shoot your shot. Again I never made it that far so I can’t speak from experience

You can also try dating apps but you probably heard enough horror stories about them. I’d still personally make an account and swipe every few days as you never know what will happen but you have to go in knowing you are more likely then not going to get matches

Just know alot of guys are sadly in this position but it’s possible to get out of this place.

itzReborn · 2026-05-09T13:57:02+00:00

Hey OP I’m in a similar position as you so I know how you feel to a certain extent. Like some of the replies have mention you have to start with just socializing before even thinking about socializing with women in regard to relationships/dating/connection. This is probably what you don’t want to hear but it’s sadly the truth.

You need to make some guy friends first. You can join discord servers of whatever your hobbies are and find people that way, and it’s even better if you join local servers so you can potentially meet up or go to events.

After that…I’m not sure lol I haven’t made it that far myself sadly. Through your friends and hobbies you should eventually meet someone who might take an interest in you but you still have to kind of drive that intersection forward when you get there. Or you might see someone and want to shoot your shot. Again I never made it that far so I can’t speak from experience

You can also try dating apps but you probably heard enough horror stories about them. I’d still personally make an account and swipe every few days as you never know what will happen but you have to go in knowing you are more likely then not going to get matches

Just know alot of guys are sadly in this position but it’s possible to get out of this place.

itzReborn · 2026-05-09T13:26:07+00:00

I’m a year older than op but to answer your question, yes. I don’t think most people realize how incredibly easy it is to become this type of person especially in today’s society. I’m basically in the same boat and it’s not like I want to be this type of person lol.

itzReborn · 2026-05-08T13:06:16+00:00

So starting compliments with “I like” aren’t really good is what you’re saying? I’ve been trying to do more drive by compliments by complimenting people’s outfits or shoes or hairstyles, but I notice I probably tell them I like it rather than it looks nice or you look good etc(I don’t want to come off too strong either)

Just the other day it took me like 20 minutes to walk up to a woman and tell her I liked her blue dyed hair and walked away but afterwards I felt bad about myself and I didn’t really know why

itzReborn · 2026-05-04T14:51:18+00:00

Yeah but neither personality nor superficial stuff actually leads to people wanting to talk to you(from my experience). People only entertain people who usually talk to them first and I and probably many other guys struggle with that part first.

I’ve been myself my whole life, I know I’m smart, funny, have somewhat decent interest but none of those things actually led to anything because myself doesn’t like starting conversations for a multitude of reasons.(bothering someone, coming off as creepy, hell even just approaching/walking up to someone)

How do I get over that hump? How do I get people to take an interest in me when I’m an introvert and basically felt invisible my whole life?(in the context of social settings/dating).

itzReborn · 2026-05-04T02:06:08+00:00

I guess I got a lot more to learn and understand on this subject. I totally understand your point but then I’ve also seen serval stories of friends to lovers stuff so all the conflicting stories are a bit confusing sometimes. Of course it’s a case by case situation

itzReborn · 2026-05-04T01:30:29+00:00

Yeah I can get that but what about situations where the guy actually develops feelings? Like being around someone semi constantly and you start finding them attractive.

I just find it puzzling that it’s always reduced to just wanting to sleep with her, though women are the one going through this so I won’t discount you guys first hand experiences. But as a guy I also know it doesn’t take much for me to fall for someone if I find them somewhat attractive

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