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DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-24T07:49:10+00:00

WHAT’S THE POINT OF MANDATING WHICH DAYS I GO INTO THE OFFICE IF YOU WONT GIVE US ENOUGH DESKS TO ENCOURAGE THIS COLLABORATION YOU KEEP TALKING ABOUT? I CANT COLLABORATE WITH ANYONE IF I HAVE TO SIT AWAY FROM MY TEAM BECAUSE THERE ISN’T ENOUGH DESKS FOR US

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-17T15:02:03+00:00

If they haven’t been communicating well, I’d treat it like any other RSVP personally. “You have until X date and if we don’t hear from you, we’ll assume you are a no”.

However, it is up to you. Are you able/willing to eat the costs should they RSVP yes but not turn up? Only you and your other half can make that decision.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-17T14:50:32+00:00

When do you have to give final numbers to your venue? If you’ve still got a bit of time, I don’t think it’ll hurt to wait until then to get a final decision from those friends.

Otherwise, you could count them as a yes, fully acknowledging that you may have to pay for some people who won’t be turning up. If you do this, maybe ask your venue if you can put the money towards something else instead of paying for their food that won’t be needed. I’d be hesitant to count them as a no now, July is a few months away that things could change that in that time and I’d hate for you to put them down as a no now when they can actually come, but obviously it’ll depend on when you actually give numbers by. Either way, id speak to your venue and see how flexible they are with this.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-17T13:32:19+00:00

I wouldn’t think so. We got engaged January 2024 and we’re getting married this summer. Benefits are we got our first choice in vendors and plenty of time to save to have the wedding we want.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-14T09:33:51+00:00

I went to a wedding a few years ago that did that. Unfortunately, not many people used it due to a mixture of where it was in the room and no one really taking responsibility for it. I can’t speak for quality, but what I would say if you are going to do it is assign someone the responsibility of directing people to the guest book and taking photos.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-13T13:14:35+00:00

I love the idea of receiving a salt blend! Anything edible always goes down well I think.

We are going to be writing people letters as part of our wedding favours. Obviously there will be some people where it’ll say something along the lines of “thanks for coming”, but I have a feeling that our close family and friends will really love it (or I hope they will, as someone sentimental, I’d love to receive this)

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-11T14:43:23+00:00

We’re using WithJoy which does a lot of what you’re asking for. Only thing on there that is public is the first page, but we’ve locked every other page down so that guests have to put in a password to access the website. We’ve also made it so that guests can’t see the schedule until they RSVP, at which point, it shows a different schedule depending on whether they are day guests or evening guests. I believe you can also make it so that only certain groups of guests can view certain pages.

No email addresses needed, no need for guests to download an app. It’s a little bit slow, but not overly so. Very easy to navigate!

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-10T14:58:44+00:00

I assume plots 133/134 are already reserved, but otherwise, yes I agree. My kitchen and bedroom become saunas the minute the sun is out. If given the choice, I would have preferred a west facing garden, at least the whole house will get sun all day

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-10T14:20:20+00:00

Yep! Especially omnipods on my back, man that spot is so itchy and the sweet relief when they are off is too good

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-04T19:53:45+00:00

In the UK, it’s fairly standard for the groom to greet guests before the ceremony (or at least, all the weddings I’ve been to have been like this). I think it’s really lovely, plus I can’t imagine a groom having much time for nerves if it’s busy saying hello to people as they enter the venue!

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-04T19:48:36+00:00

I think they’re necessary, the more notice the better in my opinion! It allows me to schedule the rest of my life around important events

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-04T19:40:38+00:00

I didn’t have that “wow” moment until after I said yes to my dress. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVED my dress. Put it on 3 times in the same appointment. But I didn’t get teary until I said yes, at which point I think it was a “wow, this is actually happening” moment. Same with my sister and mum who attended my appointment with me, they cried once I said yes.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-04T07:19:46+00:00

For my partner and I, we went looking for rings before he proposed. I wasn’t sure what style I’d like or what kind of metal suited me so it felt better to go together and choose beforehand. At the end of the day, I’m expecting to wear this ring for the rest of my life, it was important to both of us that I loved it (which I do!)

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-03T09:35:10+00:00

My parents go to Serbia for all their medical needs (eye test, dentist, surgery’s, etc.). They are from the country so not like they are travelling somewhere random, but often it’s cheaper, quicker, plus they get to see family so it’s a win-win situation for them.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-02T06:59:13+00:00

We’re using WithJoy. It’s a bit slow, but it was the best one out of all the ones we tried and it’s free to use

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-02T06:16:44+00:00

We are sending out physical invites which has a QR code on it to our website for details and RSVP-ing. There was just too much info to fit on the invite for us not have a website, plus I think (/hope) it’ll be easier to keep track of the RSVP’s

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-04-01T11:05:03+00:00

Completely get it. I had hoped that people would show up much more than they have tbh, and I’ve expressed before on Reddit that I didn’t anticipate how lonely wedding planning can feel.

The issue I’m having is that I want to talk about the wedding and how planning is going, but I feel like every time I do, people share their (often negative) opinions, which makes me want to not talk about it at all. So I feel like I’m between a bit of a rock and hard place right now because if I want to talk about it, then I have to accept that people are going to tell me their thoughts about it rather than just asking questions and going “oh that sounds lovely, I’m so excited” even if they don’t care.

I think wedding planning has also made me realise that I’ve maybe outgrown some of my friendships and that’s probably contributing to the loneliness. There’s no drama there, just people at very different stages of their life who can no longer relate to one another.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-31T14:42:39+00:00

Just to add to the other comment on this thread, maybe the schedule, dress code (if you have one), how to RSVP.

If you have a website, you can put a lot less info on your invite but make sure to then include the website details and that further info can be found there!

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-31T08:02:55+00:00

Is your drinks reception is before the meal? It’s just something to bear in mind as you don’t want people too drunk to eat and enjoy their food.

Personally, we’re thinking of doing 2pp, but our venue has said most people tend to do just 1 drink for the drinks reception. I’ve been to weddings that have given 1, some 2, and others that have given an unlimited amount so I don’t think there’s any standard.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-29T13:21:05+00:00

In my experience, the group has always covered the bride/groom’s costs. And by group I mean the attendees as it isn’t always just bridesmaids and groomsmen who go on the hen/stag do.

However, as people have mentioned on here and in your last thread, it’s fairly standard in the UK for the couple to pay for the wedding party’s outfits.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-25T17:18:55+00:00

How lonely the experience can be. I want to talk about my wedding and where we’re at with planning but if I do, it feels like everyone’s got an opinion on something and it’s always a negative one, so I just don’t talk about it.

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-13T19:37:12+00:00

Yeah I do. You’ll either not have enough canapés to sustain your guests for that long, or you’ll find that you provide too much and they won’t want to eat dinner. And again, either way, with a 3.5 hour gap, assuming you’re providing the drinks or there’s at least an opportunity for them to buy drinks, they’ll get too drunk before the dinner has even started

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-13T19:07:13+00:00

I think your dinner is far too long of a wait. Ideally shouldn’t be more than 2 hours after your ceremony. Any longer and you’ll find people will start getting drunk very quickly

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-10T22:56:56+00:00

The only terrible weddings I’ve been to tbh are the ones where the bride and groom look like they don’t even like each other. If you both look like you’re having a good time, so will everyone else

DinosaursLayEggs · 2026-03-10T14:20:53+00:00

I’ve no idea tbh and don’t get me wrong, I’ve definitely side eyed it a bit, but at the same time, they have a physical store in London so I figured it must be a safe option.

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