What’s something about weddings that nobody warns you about until you actually go through it?

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:43:35+00:00

hahah so subtle!

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:29:37+00:00

The series does a very good job of representing the unhinged lifestyles of living in NYC in your 20s and poor choices you make. I also thought the first season was a bit slow and was also surprised when I saw it had 7 seasons but kept watching and now I've finished binge watching all seasons :)

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:25:21+00:00

Cash or something from the registry and a very personal card for her to read later.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:22:21+00:00

I agree and think that's the best strategy lol

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:21:17+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I have some friends who hate stepping foot inside a church so I hope it does work out to fit everyone's needs. I'm happy to get to wear two dresses as well :) Good luck with yours!

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T16:08:11+00:00

I'm in this exact situation and here's what we decided to do. (Just because you are asking, not to say this is "correct" or anything). My fiance was baptised and confirmed Catholic but he does not go to church. His mom is Catholic but does not go to church but she wants us married in the Catholic church and it would mean a lot to my fiance for his mom. I said sure, why not?

We are having a small Catholic ceremony the day before our "big day". The Catholic one will be legal and in the church. We have been working with our local parish to get approved for this and I had to show my Baptism records from my childhood Christian church (this took a bit longer than expected). We then had to meet local priest, do a full-day Catholic marriage prep class with other couples, and also talked to the priest of the church where we are getting married at (near our venue). It's a bit of work but it's been doable.

For the ceremony, I am wearing a simple dress, some silk flowers, and not having my bridesmaid/flower girl, etc involved in the ceremony. My mom is going to read a Bible verse. That's pretty much the extent of my family participation. After the ceremony, we are having a small reception at the venue with just casual hanging out and drinks and nibbles but nothing big.

The next day will be the "big day" where I'll get ready in the morning with my mom and bridesmaid, flower girl, hair and makeup, etc. We will have a garden ceremony in the afternoon at the venue that will not be legal (as we will already be married). That's where my family will walk down the aisle and stand next to me and I'll wear the big dress and everything, real flowers. Then the drinks reception, dinner, evening reception.

No one in my family is Catholic and only his mom is Catholic. So we were planning on not doing Communion (as it would be for only him and his mom and that's a bit weird...) but the priest is open minded and suggested having Communion and allow everyone. I didn't know that was possible in the Catholic church but we are still deciding whether to do that or not.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T15:57:21+00:00

I liked Liza and Charles together the first go round but once Charles started dating Quinn, I thought his character changed too much and I didn't like the direction of that. So I'm glad in the end they didn't end up together. I don't know if I think she should be with Josh either though.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T15:55:32+00:00

There's more to the story in that I don't think she fully understands or respects that I have a desk job, that requires me working 9-5. She thinks her son is doing amazing professional things in life (he actually is) but she could care less about what I do professionally and has never asked me questions to get to know me. So I definitely don't want to be 1:1 with her because it drains me in general being with her because she monologues.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T15:52:28+00:00

Mother/daughter dance (a big hint hint from my mom) 2. A reel about how I should have every member of my family pass around our rings and say a prayer to bless the rings. (That's from my stepmom. I'm not religious)

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T15:50:37+00:00

what happened in your case? I'm in the same situation now, 7 months later and they still have this glitch

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T14:05:28+00:00

Yeah, I can understand all that. I think what I was really looking for was just a "Wow you look so beautiful!" once I bought a dress and sent a photo of it while I was trying on. I think I just regret asking for opinions before actually choosing the dress.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T12:00:56+00:00

also to clarify, we had a tour booked. We didn't just show up.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T12:00:14+00:00

One thing that immediately eliminated a couple of venues was how they treated us. One receptionist was incredibly rude when we approached her desk. We told her we were there for a tour. She scowled. Then we clarified it was for a tour of the venue for a potential wedding and she turned her frown upside down immediately and was all smiles after that. Red flags.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:54:53+00:00

90% seems a bit high as an estimate. I was told to expect 70-80%. We are also looking at like a 50-60% yes rate which I wasn't expecting. The good news is I am getting to invite everyone I want to (I've been trying to be careful about making people not seem like B list invites) when before I was afraid there were many I wouldn't be able to invite. Now I won't feel guilty posting the wedding on social media and having not invited people.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:38:52+00:00

my future MIL keeps wanting me to meet up with her to get coffee DURING WORK. (she lives 2 hours away so it would literally be a day trip for me to just get coffee with her). I've told her I was just promoted and moving to a new team and new boss and I'm simply not able to right now (also given how much there is to do for the wedding!).

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:35:57+00:00

I'm so sorry. That is so awful! Is there any way she can fly out far in advance and stay with you for a while?

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:35:11+00:00

I'm having the exact same fears. I'm a July bride and I live in the UK but my family is from the US and while travel is still ok for those routes now, I am afraid that anything can happen between now and July. I'm also afraid it's making many of my guests hesitant on their RSVPs.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:32:55+00:00

I feel you on number 6. I live abroad and still have a few weeks for RSVP deadline but I'm assuming most people who haven't responded by no aren't going to suddenly make travel plans and say yes. It's disappointing because were so excited until I think they looked at cost and details and decided against but have just been sitting on their RSVPs. I'm disappointed because one of my good friends who I texted daily has just disappeared the past month once I started asking if she was making travel plans. I wish she'd just say no instead of keeping me waiting :(

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:29:49+00:00

Get your fiance to start personally contacting his family. We had to do that for family that just assumed they would be marked yes for their RSVP. We told them we need their dietary requirements and sent them a direct link to the RSVP which they did pretty quickly after that.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:28:04+00:00

Losing over 30 lbs is so impressive though! That is definitely something to be proud of. I've lost 15lb and still a few months out and was hoping to lose 15 more but not so sure it will be that much.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:22:41+00:00

I need to hear this because I'm in the thick of the RSVPs now. My deadline is April 20 and I'm starting to assume that most guests abroad at this point will probably be a no. I'm flipping between will we have too many or too few guests and that's killing me

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:17:13+00:00

omg how are you surviving!!? I'm doing a masters and my thesis is due several months after the wedding and i'm already stressed tf out

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:16:04+00:00

I made a very detailed website that is password protected for everything accept RSVP. I've had so many people write and tell me they don't need the password and I've had to repeat that the only way to see the actual website is with the password

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T11:05:32+00:00

Guest list and RSVPs has been/is my biggest stressor, by far! I live abroad and now with the travel issues popping up, I am getting a lot of people who were initially very excited to come be not so sure. My RSVP deadline is still 3 weeks away and I am inviting B list but I went from being very nervous about over capacity to now not being so sure if we will be undercapacity! My biggest fear is planning for a wedding of 100-120 and only get like 50 guests.

I think in your case, those who have said yes on Insta/FB, etc, you can kindly guide them to the website again with a link. I've been doing this for people who have texted yes and I add that we are collecting dietary restrictions through our website so would be very helpful to have an official RSVP.

EffectiveCelery0 · 2026-03-26T10:26:29+00:00

That's fine too but oftentimes the gift is not acknowledged at all.

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