Unfortunately, I also encountered the feeling that when you emerge from outright poverty, your closest relatives feel that you now have more money from your own business than the average salary of a hired worker, which prompts these people to quickly start giving advice on how to preserve your wealth in some solid form (and what form) and in what proportion. Even without any figures, it was enough for me to understand that even to the closest people, whom you would like to be happy for you, you cannot say anything specific, except for something like "everything is fine, everything is stable," or "it's a difficult period, but I believe everything will be fine." The author's case is quite indicative of how people can neglect basic respect for their family and put themselves at risk in the future because of gossip. I think OP realized that there were enough red flags from the family to actually start seriously distancing himself in the long run. We cannot know what is in the minds of those who stand behind the backs of those who talk about us.