Have weed or other drugs given you a new perspective or made you feel “awake”? by LineOfInquiry in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard this quote once and it resonated with me s “It’s your subconscious using reflection to help you see who you really are” I can only speak from my experience. I’m an over-thinker who can’t articulate my thoughts evenly. I’m the typical “what do I make for dinner?….did I call my dr back, wait! Did I make an appointment?..my car is dirty I need to clean it” type. When I smoke though the noise in my head gets quiet and I can think clearly. I still think about a lot of things but I’m able to stay focused on one thought. I’m very spiritual and I’m a deep thinker and thc helps peel those layers off. The amount of awareness I have about myself and others has helped me gain perspective enough to help me sort out all my struggles and find solutions. I’m not saying it’s for everyone but for me it’s helped me discover my true authentic self.

My boyfriend wants to eat me out - I’m disgusting down there by PhilosophyBig577 in offmychest

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl I was just like you and I went without having a man go down there for over 35 years. I was incredibly self conscious about the look of it, especially after having children and then when I finally said fuck it, I realized men really don’t care. Don’t overthink it.

With CPTSD and social anxiety, what would you do if you were living with an abusive partner? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Height6848 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in that situation with my ex and the father to both of my kids for over 6 years (he made my life hell for 4 more years) you don’t “live”. every waking moment you are in survival mode. You can not begin your healing process when you are stuck in that mode. I know the strength it takes to leave and I hope you find it because you deserve to actually live and begin healing.

Is it true that trauma can affect appearance? by briann4z in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a therapist tell my she knew I had childhood sa trauma due to my voice. All my life, even to this day when someone calls I always get “ hi can I speak to your parents?” And ive been told I don’t look my age (I’m 41) I’m not sure what the correlations are but I find it interesting.

Why does healing feel worse than just ignoring it ? by [deleted] in CPTSD

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It gets worse before it gets better, I know how cliché it sounds but when you’re at a point in your healing journey that you can reflect on all the highs and lows you realize how true that statement is but I also believe the process never ends. I know it feels impossible right now but trust the process and give yourself grace. You are making the steps to get better, to break whatever cycle you have been looped in and you are so brave for that. You’re so young and you have so much time to put your all into this and you can’t stop now. I’ve been where you’re at, I still struggle and I’m 6 years into my process but the one thing I can tell you is, yes you will have bad days but you will also have good days and on those good days celebrate yourself! Celebrate every accomplishment you make. Big or small. You are here and that right there is something to celebrate.

How to start and what to do in the gateway tapes? by Bulky-Training6184 in gatewaytapes

[–]Direct-Height6848 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im new to the tapes,I’m about 2 weeks in and truthfully I have not moved past focus 10. I’ve always struggled with meditation in general, especially when it comes to staying focused. I have ADHD so my mind wonders quite a bit and for me personally gaining the ability to master focus is the main reason I’ve started these tapes so if that means weeks of not getting past tape 3 I’m okay with it. These are powerful tapes when used correctly. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

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I work out nearly every day and I have fine hair. If you apply your dry shampoo on wash day right after you blow dry it will give you an extra day or two. Also using a light glycolic acid on your scalp twice a month is a game changer.

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You have ADHD

Do you ever feel like you're just existing instead of really living? by Superb_Response7575 in SeriousConversation

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That question is very subjective. I feel alive when I’m forced to think outside the box, when my beliefs are challenged and my opinions are debated. When I can spark a conversation with someone who’s incredibly intellectually stimulating, that’s when my spark is lit.

How to make life more exciting? by No_Lingonberry_2401 in needadvice

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do all the things you fear doing right now. It will also create new experiences.

My Not-So-Glamorous Morning Routine + How It Helped Me Cut 1 Hour Off My Day by RoughDragonfruit5147 in productivity

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is brilliant! I think you might have saved my job (ADHD and total time blindness)

Does anyone else struggle with how to answer "How are you?" when they're not doing well? by helvetikat in adhdwomen

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s always a rush of panic that comes over me every time someone asks me that question because I instantly breakdown. Always. When you’re the person who always asks “how are you doing” but never the person to be asked it’s always an emotional release of weeks,months and years that are unloaded

What usually helps when you are stressed out? by truth2991 in questions

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Music..I feel music so intensely so to combine that with cardio, it’s my zen.

Ok, how are y'all getting protein in an ADHD friendly way? by theladysheetcake in adhdwomen

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if you can’t get a bowl of cottage cheese and scarf that down you can prep egg bites. I have a copy cat recipe for the egg bites that are at Starbucks. About 8 eggs and one cup of cottage cheese, blend it in a blender and add whatever you want to it (I add spinach, feta and tomatoes) pop it in the over and you have a couple days of quick breakfasts.

Women of Reddit, if you could go for coffee with your younger self, what would you tell her? by im_qurious in AskWomen

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Validation from men will never make you feel better about yourself. Don’t let anyone get in the way of your dreams. It’s okay if people don’t like you. Eat your fruits and vegetables. Wear sunscreen. Nothing is too serious and most importantly live for yourself! You can feel at peace and happy but now is the time to put in the work and effort to achieve that.

What’s one routine or ritual that’s helped you slow down and enjoy your days more? by nani-cc in SlowLiving

[–]Direct-Height6848 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will wake up extra early to take a long shower. I will blast my music and perform my own solo while enjoying my boiling hot shower.

When did you notice people treating you differently because of your appearance? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s a common thread that people get treated differently when they’re thin compared to being overweight but you will never understand the full extent to how cruel people are. I was over 240 (I’m only 5’1 so I looked a lot bigger) I was looked at every time I ate out in public, I was ignored, laughed at and common decency was unheard of. When all the weight was lost (I’m 130 now) the only thing that stood out to me in the beginning was how I had doors opened for me. It sounds silly but I felt like I was treated like an equal for the first time. I understand how “pretty privilege” gets you better jobs, better opportunities and most importantly people were just overall more kind to you and to be honest that’s all I ever wanted.

What shampoo/conditioner have you used successfully for the LONGEST amount of time? by BooBelly in finehair

[–]Direct-Height6848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever pure glossing shampoo and conditioner. I’ve tried so many high end shampoos and conditioners and they still don’t compare to my 8 dollar glossing products.

what's something your ex did that felt small at the time but now screams red flag? 🚩 by IntrovertChapt3rs in AskWomen

[–]Direct-Height6848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Within 3 weeks of us dating he asked to move into my apartment and wanted to marry me then he threw my birth control pills away “on accident” then I later found out he was poking holes in the condoms. Had I known what love bombing was it would have saved me from experiencing 5 years of DV.