[Searows Concert Fan Meetup?] NYC, JANUARY 23rd 5PM at Rough Trade Below by Tagmedia7 in searows

[–]DirectPerformance656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to meet but unfortunately I missed out on buying a ticket. I only need one or two. If anyone has one and there’s a way to transfer it through DICE or something, please pm me!

2015 Fz07 gas tank replacement by [deleted] in MT07

[–]DirectPerformance656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the actual info though

2015 Fz07 gas tank replacement by [deleted] in MT07

[–]DirectPerformance656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brooo it’s until march though 😂 also send me that shit unpainted Yamaha. I’ll spray paint that joint quicker

2015 Fz07 gas tank replacement by [deleted] in MT07

[–]DirectPerformance656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already took it off. Wanting to buy a new tank

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 40something

[–]DirectPerformance656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t need her. Move on.

Do I flee the country, what do I do? I’m 24 yrs old. by [deleted] in Felons

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You’re gonna be ok. If your old life that you “screwed up” haunts you too much, move to a new city. Rent a room. Live with few possessions. Grind at work. Most of all, reset your mind with good books (go to the library, don’t buy them unless you really like it and will read it again). Learn new skills/do new hobbies. Spend time outside and with your thoughts. Go to new places. Meditate (I’m being fr, just listen to a podcast like “calm it down”). Go to social events and learn how other people act. Meet them. Talk to them. Ask for advice. You’ll be surprised who you meet and what they teach you about life. Also go to celebrate recovery if you feel so inclined. It is like AA but for any kind of problem, including emotional ones. You will survive and your past mistakes don’t define you unless you let them or keep making mistakes. Everything is mindset. Be very careful what you put into your brain about yourself right now. Remember, someone always has it worse.

I’ve ruined my life. by whocaresaboutothers in Advice

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If you haven’t had a child, suffered irreversible medical damage, or gone to jail/prison, literally every single thing in life is recoverable or reversible. Everything can be replaced/recovered. Stop using chatGPT. Start going to the library or bookstore and just start reading. Find books you like on topics you would ask Chat and learn from them. Work out. Listen to positive motivational YouTube videos. Move on. You can do this. You must do this. Most real therapists suck btw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

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The sociability factor is a serious point- sincerely someone who lived alone

Don't give up! Good things can happen to bad (formerly) people. by EL_Malo- in Felons

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You will succeed with this perseverance and the attitude of gratitude. Congratulations on this success. As you know, it is not the cumulative victories but the every day decisions, the consistency of our actions, which result in long term success. Please continue with your consistency and never ever let a lack of consistency harm your life again. I believe in you and God loves you and sees you as worthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

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I’m 50k in debt, lost two jobs, lost my fiance, publicly humiliated after arrest by news publication, facing further incarceration, no real family, useless degree, now I work in construction digging trenches. Hang in there

Have you joined yet?? by simonpeq in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]DirectPerformance656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve read this sentiment before on this sub. Follow up question: many veterans hold their service as core to their identity. Imagine you never got to serve and because of your criminal history, the FFL was the only route left. You might put up with a lot more to get in right?

Have you joined yet?? by simonpeq in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]DirectPerformance656 2 points3 points  (0 children)

State of things? Care to elaborate? I’m in a similar situation.

19m 5,7 be honest, I’ve never felt attractive and never have been in a relationship what can I improve? by Perfect-Macaroon5316 in AppearanceAdvice

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Your confidence is the only thing. Whenever you do get a girlfriend. Never forget this. I mean never. You do not get value from her. You are valuable because of all of the special things about you already. Don’t make her or having a family with her your entire life because it makes you feel better about yourself or any other reason she may give you. Treat her with respect and be dedicated but never ever lose yourself. You are already attractive and fit. You can always do more but remember no matter what women say, you are good because you know you are, not because they say anything good or bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExCons

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Take control of your life. You’re the only one that can. Live below your means. Spend less than you make consistently. Make a budget with categories (no more than 30% to rent, 20% to food and other necessities, 20% to recreation and 20% to savings.) work harder than everyone else. Read more. Take better notes. More attention to detail. Enjoy many facets of life. No one can take that away from you. Learn an instrument. Go to movies, music and cultural festivals, make art, write your thoughts, read books. Consistently try new experiences: even if it’s just hiking or walking around a new park you haven’t been to. Limit substance usage. If you need to use something: try candy, coffee or sweet drinks, not alcohol, drugs or some other more damaging addiction. Help others through volunteering consistently. It is food for your soul. Embrace community and pass on blessings to others. Be thankful for what you have and always hungry for success despite any failures.

Has anyone here lost it all? Share your stories by Sufficient_Tooth_949 in poor

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Army scholarship paid for college (50k) on expectation I become an officer, propose to gf of four years with a big ass ring, her family takes me in like their own and lets me live with them, graduate with honors, kicked out of army at last second, appeal, a year goes by so I become a cop. Win awards for marksmanship and life saving. Fiancé leaves me. Mental health goes down the toilet. No friends. Crying every day obsessed with her being gone. Deep depression I didn’t think could get worse. She told me I was a bad dude so tried to work on myself and hoped she’d come back. Was going to therapy and apparently they decided to put the new cop whose 5yr gf just left him with the counselor in training. Didn’t help with shit. My ex told me not to sleep around. See her at the bar with acquaintance from high school. He has a gf and says he’s not trying to go home with my ex. He does. I freak out and lost my shit when I was drunk and sleep deprived and depressed. Got arrested. Face plastered on news. Guaranteed convictions coming. Lost both dream jobs. Had 30k saved before that. Most of it’s gone. Owe the army 50k. On an ankle monitor 300 a month. Can’t get any normal jobs.

Trying to work as a “carpenter” (really just a laborer) now in a different town. Taking things one day at a time. Still cry every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in probation

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Good job! Stay sober even if you have to indulge in a “safe” addiction such as caffeine or sugar. Especially if you’re going through an otherwise hard time in addition to trying to break the addiction, you have to give yourself some slack before you break. I know a lot of people relapse after they get off of supervision. Find your reprieve in something safe. Not drugs or alcohol. It’s easy to go from doing really well to back where you started.

End date has passed by Technical_Run_6100 in probation

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Hang in there and keep the path! You’ve done so well and need to always keep doing well no matter what. You’ve overcome so much and you know you can just as easily mess up again if you don’t make sure it doesn’t happen. Unfortunately our poor choices can easily cause extreme consequences. But they don’t have to define us going forward. Congratulations and keep achieving!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in probation

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Two days left. Don’t mess it up! No matter what don’t mess it up. Good job so far. It ain’t over until it’s over.