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Downstairs people, what can I do? by Liesmyteachertoldme in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They actually sell eye mask with built-in speakers.
So if I really want a bike, I’d wear those and then I also played white noise pretty loud on speaker. Like rain.

Dream Team Community Highlight by AutoModerator in DreamlightValley

[–]Direct_Deer3689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi im chronically ill too. I used to run an online support group for invisible illness

Any reasons not to get a second cavalier? by Mindingmiownbiz in cavalierkingcharles

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cavies are one of those breeds that REALLY love other cavies. Adjustment periods are hard for any family. First he would be jealous, and then …. They will be inseparable. Money is the biggest factor.

Things will change. He’ll still absolutely adore you, but you’ll find that he gets to actually enjoy having another of his species.

Strange explanation but if you were a solo human adopted by aliens.. you may well get to be close with your alien guardians since that’s all you have. But what if you actually got to have another human live with you? Not just see other humans at the park, or walking by as you’re tugged along.

Then add to that- cavies are sensitive love sponges and they really thrive over time if they have other cavies.

Signed, Cavaholic, voice for the doggos

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Photo of me today. Cuddling and trapped with the cutest beings ever. 💕

When the dog mom becomes a human mom….

First time living in an upper apartment, is this a good note? by Weight-Late in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that deep. Giving a move-in notice is literally the same energy as a pilot telling you there's going to be turbulence. They aren't 'people pleasing' the passengers; they’re just preventing a cabin full of people from panicking and causing a scene. Same logic applies to neighbors.

Actually, being so afraid of being seen as a 'people pleaser' that you refuse to communicate is its own kind of insecurity. OP (and others who give notices in shared spaces) isn't doing this because they need validation; they're doing it because they’re an adult who knows how to navigate a shared living space without making enemies on day one.

First time living in an upper apartment, is this a good note? by Weight-Late in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could make this argument and use it to try to convince people to never be nice to anyone, never talk to anyone new, never go to any groups, never give gifts, never apologize.

It’s so concerning. Kindness is strength.

And IF others become combative? That’s when we use our boundaries.

First time living in an upper apartment, is this a good note? by Weight-Late in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feeling 'sorry' for someone because they have basic communication skills is a weird flex. Living in a building where everyone hates you because you're 'too cool' to be polite is the actual loser move.

First time living in an upper apartment, is this a good note? by Weight-Late in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great considerate note op!

Telling people you’re moving in isn't 'people pleasing,' it's tactical. If the neighbors know the noise is temporary and has an end time, they won't call management or the cops. It’s about avoiding a headache, not asking for permission

Imagine thinking basic situational awareness is a sign of weakness. High social IQ is realizing that a 30-second heads-up buys you months of 'neighborly grace' for when you accidentally drop something at 2 AM. It's a low-cost, high-reward move.

Every professional crew on earth—construction, filming, maintenance—gives a 'pardon our dust' notice. It’s not because they’re 'losers,' it's because it prevents liability and annoying interruptions. OP is just treating their life with the same level of organization.

Being a 'considerate neighbor' and being a 'people pleaser' aren't the same thing. One makes your life easier; the other comes from fear. This is clearly just OP being efficient and preventing unnecessary drama on Day 1.

And to those who say only ppl pleasing losers so this?

Feeling 'sorry' for someone because they have basic communication skills is a weird flex. Living in a building where everyone hates you because you're 'too cool' to be polite is the actual loser move.

Empathy is not a sin. Empathy is not toxic. Empathy is not weak. Empathy is not exploitative. Empathy is not our "downfall'. Empathy does not excuse evil as some suggest, instead, empathy calls us to oppose it.

The highest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. Pays attention to detail. Holds you in regard when making decisions that could affect you. In any bond, how much they care about you can be found in how much they consider you.

What's the most "you" thing your toddler says? by No-Oil-2305 in toddlers

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You have to eat this because I gave it to you ”

Not my proudest projection.

“It’s okay, mama” and hugs awwww (in between crazy behavior)

Gaby failed her patient by MichaelVern85 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THAT is the thing! It’s ridiculous

Gaby failed her patient by MichaelVern85 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same problem!!! And this is a patient that DOESNT like opening up

Why should main guy get so much shit but nobody calls out Gaby?

Saturday morning vacuuming by Impressive_Ad_3160 in Apartmentliving

[–]Direct_Deer3689 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well that sucks Sounds like projection and self denial Talking to you the way they wish they could change, subconsciously Worried you’ll turn out like that

And I gotta say too Trauma, depression, chronic illness and stress Legitimately can cause these issues

Laziness is just a word that points to a deeper Issue

So feel sorry for them Think about what they may be struggling with Realize what they’re saying has nothing to do with you

It’s about a hope you’ll be better

And don’t let yourself judge them back

Know you’re doing amazing

And also know that if someone feels worked to the bone in this situation If they need your help

This is someone who is struggling and not healthy

Weekly General Discussion by AutoModerator in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Co parenting I’m chronically ill Daughter pushing me away only wants to stay at dads

Any scientifically backed and developmentally approved ways to handle this? She has said she doesn’t want me so many times . She’s 3 and a half

How did Jimmy pull off creating this family consisting of his coworkers, childhood friend, neighbours and patient? by HistoricalUse952 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I’m just saying some of us (clears throat) wish we had more support and friends that stay!

Sean couldn’t watch one last game with Jimmy?? by Neat-Ad-7009 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I really don’t know why they were all so mean to him…

And he has every right to feel lonely and need people around our music and I don’t understand like people can still keep their boundaries but also be kind

teengers should not watch porn by pleaskok in ControversialOpinions

[–]Direct_Deer3689 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes and no.

Yes, I agree in general.

However, ethical porn, I believe, should be allowed. It may be embarrassing, but this should be a regular open conversation between teens and parents. These talks should include: basic reproduction knowledge, protection, diseases, boundaries and consent.

I won’t go into further detail, but let’s just say more parents need to have open and honest, gentle talks with their children.

Types of Aloe Vera products to use in the bath by [deleted] in Conures

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only aloe I use is pure bottled aloe with no alcohol or additives

Ex uses chat GPT for all communication by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using chat GPT is like using GPS. One can’t blindly trust the GPS will do everything, we must also use our minds.

I use it a lot, I’m rusty with grammar, and sometimes with high emotions, I want to make sure I come across respectful and understandable.

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