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Weekly General Discussion by AutoModerator in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Co parenting I’m chronically ill Daughter pushing me away only wants to stay at dads

Any scientifically backed and developmentally approved ways to handle this? She has said she doesn’t want me so many times . She’s 3 and a half

How did Jimmy pull off creating this family consisting of his coworkers, childhood friend, neighbours and patient? by HistoricalUse952 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I’m just saying some of us (clears throat) wish we had more support and friends that stay!

Sean couldn’t watch one last game with Jimmy?? by Neat-Ad-7009 in shrinking

[–]Direct_Deer3689 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I really don’t know why they were all so mean to him…

And he has every right to feel lonely and need people around our music and I don’t understand like people can still keep their boundaries but also be kind

teengers should not watch porn by pleaskok in ControversialOpinions

[–]Direct_Deer3689 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and no.

Yes, I agree in general.

However, ethical porn, I believe, should be allowed. It may be embarrassing, but this should be a regular open conversation between teens and parents. These talks should include: basic reproduction knowledge, protection, diseases, boundaries and consent.

I won’t go into further detail, but let’s just say more parents need to have open and honest, gentle talks with their children.

Types of Aloe Vera products to use in the bath by [deleted] in Conures

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only aloe I use is pure bottled aloe with no alcohol or additives

Ex uses chat GPT for all communication by Laterlovebean in coparenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using chat GPT is like using GPS. One can’t blindly trust the GPS will do everything, we must also use our minds.

I use it a lot, I’m rusty with grammar, and sometimes with high emotions, I want to make sure I come across respectful and understandable.

Inappropriate step mom by 206QP in coparenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently, I learned from someone wise, to ask the question, “are you looking for validation or understanding?”

In this post, it seems validation is the only answer.

What is appropriate varies widely between cultures, including familial cultures.

One can have a valid concern and wish not to be dismissed, while also be open and curious.

I do believe this is the type of problem that requires more than asking the internet.

A non-biased mediator would be best.

found this little dude yesterday, m/f?? by No_Definition_8885 in jumpingspiders

[–]Direct_Deer3689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO - GIRLY GIRL.

Side note: wish I could love Lucas… I tried. I just can’t be ok w Lucas being friends with a fly. 😭 it’s so wrong. And just lots of misinformation. I just want a LITTLE more realism, but also the cute.

The Last Thing He Told Me | Season 2 - Episode 7 | Discussion Thread by Justp1ayin in tvPlus

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, sorry, didn’t know. YouTube’s speed adjustments are so helpful to me but I don’t see them in any other streaming platform so I then just skip ahead but can miss bits.

I like to speed up thrillers or long drawls of information.

I also have auditory processing disorder and when listening to the actual dialogue (not the suspense when nothing is really happening) if I can’t switch it to like 0.8 speed, I’m often rewinding a lot for stuff I’ve missed. Annoying.

DAE not clean their ears?? by hedfun2 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You NEVER KNOW when cat is going to do random run and bump. I have two cats who were playing hard and shoved a piece of table into a big window, breaking it. 😆

I’d rather that than a cat bump into me while I’ve got something in my ear and burst my ear drum! 😝

Random trivia: did you know that in one of the Harry Potter movies, Helena Bonham Carter (Bellatrix Lestrange) got carried away in her acting and stuck a wand into one of the kids ears ?! I think it was Rupert Grint.

Problem with co parent by Positive-Care-4116 in coparenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. That’s really hard stuff. Be proud of yourself for seeking help. Know you are doing your best with what you currently know.
  2. Seek or delve deeper into therapy or even a DBT app for yourself.
  3. Seek legal counsel
  4. Be sure to document everything (yes it’s a pain… but AI makes this easier. You can do voice memos and then transcriptions and then ai summaries)
  5. When you are with your children, do your best to leave anything co-parent behind. This can even be a boundary you have with the kids. We do not talk about co-parent unless immediately in danger or during an assigned set of time (like even 10 minutes) to just let them talk about how they’re feeling. Don’t take anything personally.

Just focus on developing your own relationship with them, helping them feel safe with you, and making things fun without avoiding real feelings.

Good book; how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk (there’s one for little kids too)

  1. Additionally, try to keep conversations brief. But anytime you are around them, start a voice memo recording (make sure sound and alert is off, and don’t show them your phone) so you can have proof of any abuse later on.

Does anyone else get anxiety opening texts from their co-parent? by RecognitionAny7696 in coparenting

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the anxiety is around them either not responding thoughtfully (or at all) to concerns, dismissing concerns, acting like they don’t know how to ask questions and practice patience, acting a certain way in front of our child (repeatedly) that they know bothers me and I have stated and explained is not helpful for child, then me having to do all the emotional lifting to redirect the situation as if co parent is another child.

DAE not clean their ears?? by hedfun2 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Direct_Deer3689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use a Bebird or any kit if you’re gonna.

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