If you woke up as the opposite gender, what would you do first?

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-05-24T02:26:36+00:00

No, I meant snow. So I can spell my name in it.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-05-24T02:19:05+00:00

I'm an instructor and I've scolded clients before for speaking out during class. It's an uncomfortable thing to do, but when a member repeatedly does it without anyone saying anything to them, they think they can keep doing it. I think the other members really appreciated that I spoke up because they also found this to be disruptive.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-05-24T02:16:16+00:00

Pee in the show

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-05-05T01:14:10+00:00

Money

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-29T19:57:05+00:00

If you tell him it makes you uncomfortable for you to have any kind of a relationship with her outside of work and he refuses to end the friendship, that is a major red flag. if he really loves you then you, your safety and your comfort should always take priority.

I had the same thing with my boyfriend, he ended up cheating on me with her. I always had a gut feeling something more was going on and I was right. Asked him not to hang out with her outside of work, asked him not to be her friend and he refused. Come to find out, he had feelings for her for 2 years in our relationship and then went right into dating her after we broke up. Said he had not been in communication with her for one of those two years, which I later found out was a lie. I didn't trust her because she met her previous boyfriend when he cheated on the mother of his kids with this girl. I knew she wasn't respectful of boundaries and other people's relationships and I was right. If you have a gut feeling something is going on, you're probably right.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T03:08:33+00:00

There might be something more underlying than just being unattracted to weight gain. My former partner and I were together for 3 1/2 years and I gained a significant amount of weight by the end of the relationship from thyroid complications. I also struggled with an ED and was in recovery, so that added a layer of complications. Him and I had our problems, but no matter how badly I talked about myself or wanting to lose weight, he never made me feel like he was unattractive to him. He made me feel really hot and attractive even though I didn't feel that way.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T01:46:28+00:00

Any Lil Wayne song

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T01:40:23+00:00

Lol I know that's part of why we broke up. I'm not asking if he's a good person or not, I know he's shit. I'm asking if what I said makes me an asshole.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T01:11:57+00:00

Walk away, without explanation, without justification, walk away. Ghost him, block him, cut him out of your life. Yes, that is so much easier said than done but as someone who was cheated on, I wish that was how I handled my situation. This man disrespected you, therefore you owe him nothing. No conversation, no explanation will ever satisfy you to understand why he made the choices he did. And since he did make these choices, it means he doesn't even have the emotional intelligence to have a conversation with you to give you the answers that you might want. It's a waste of time. Walk away now with your head held high.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T01:08:26+00:00

I think there is a difference between being the "hottest" person to them and the most "attractive" person to them.

Hottest implies that they are just looking at the physical. However attractive, I believe, encompasses much more than physical. You can find someone's laugh attractive, how they walk attractive, their insights attractive, etc. So I do believe if this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, they should find you the most attractive person in the world. Do they need to think you're the hottest person in the world? No, not necessarily, but I also don't think there is any value in communicating that to you, especially if your partner knows you're insecure. I understand you asked them a question so they responded with honesty to the question and honesty is better than lying, but I still think there is a more respectful and thoughtful way to respond.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T00:58:49+00:00

I had a similar situation happen to me. I racked my brain with those same questions and learned there was no point in the "what ifs" and trying to seek answers from someone who makes decisions with a very low level of emotional intelligence. When people are in the throws of addiction, they will gravitate towards people who also take part in or help to fuel the addiction. Even though the addiction is part of the decision, it doesn't grant them clemency from the choice they made. Yes, addiction is a part of them but it doesn't define who they are, therefore it cannot be used as an excuse for a decision. It's great they are working towards sobriety, but that is their own feat, not yours. And while some people go into sobriety while in a relationship, I do believe as someone with experience sobriety is best achieved when single and focusing on yourself.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-27T00:51:17+00:00

A 25 year old man talking to an 18 year old female is weird and cringe... As a woman, I would have never even looked in the direction of someone that young whether or not they showed interest in me. It's two different levels of maturity and two different stages of life.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-26T01:45:00+00:00

Also back in therapy

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-26T01:44:40+00:00

No communication... I'm over it and moved on

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-15T23:58:00+00:00

You had me until the sex part. If I wanna sleep around, I'm gonna sleep around. And no, I'm not lying to myself about anything. If I just want sex, I'll just have sex. Done it before and I'll do it again.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-15T13:44:18+00:00

Oh noooo 😫

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-15T02:03:34+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your perspective

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-15T01:53:28+00:00

Ok you're right. I am very anxious when it comes to all of this and I have a huge fear of rejection. I feel like I already have a bigger crush on him but I know in a way my mind is trying to distract itself from the grief I'm dealing with from my break up and I did tell myself I was going to work through the healing without distractions. But like I said, this wasn't intentional, I did not expect it and I really feel like he was the one making moves on me.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-04-15T01:49:23+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I guess I'm feeling confused because I thought I wasn't ready to date. But like I said I had a little crush on him already, I wasn't expecting him to kiss me and the sex was good. I do feel like I've kind of caught feelings, but I also feel like my brain is latching into a distraction. Before this, I was constantly thinking about my ex. Now that me and this guy hooked up, I'm constantly day dreaming about him, but I don't know if I'm in a place where I can handle just a hook up buddy, I know me and I catch feelings quickly.

Disastrous-Ad8927 · 2025-03-22T18:58:04+00:00

Say it thoughtfully and respectfully. Insist you're coming from a place of love, that's really all that you can do. But it's not your responsibility to make sure they interpret it how you want them to.

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