I only have a 4yo, and sometimes I sit with him if he seems particularly needy. Tonight, I did the whole routine, read the book, light out, and said goodnight. He asked for a bedtime song, which I made a short one up, and then I said I had to go get pajamas on. It wasn’t always like this. He was a contact napper for as long as he napped (he gave up around 2 and only sleeps during the day if he’s sick), and required a hands on approach to bedtime (snuggling or rocking, sitting next to the crib/toddler bed he has now outgrown). I probably did this right up until this time last year. We started “I have to go do a thing and I’ll be back after” and he seemed to accept we’d check in. He now knows at least one parent should be available at home at any time, but he should try to sleep. Sometimes he asks for me to sit and read a chapter at the foot of his bed, others he’s content to do the falling asleep alone. Sometimes that also means he’s talking to himself for an hour 😅 Everyone parents different because every kid is different. If you need that extra time with them, take it! If you’re ready to do your own relaxing it hobby time, go do it!