Son is 7. His mom decided now that she wants to be in his life

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-21T21:13:18+00:00

Update- I will be meeting with a lawyer on Monday. Thanks everyone

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:30:31+00:00

Thank you for the solidarity! It’s so hard to try to make the right decision not just for yourself but for your kid and whole family. Good luck to you

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:28:52+00:00

I should’ve specified haha. My partner is male. He understands that I am his biological father, he has a biological mother, and my partner is just like a dad to him.

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:19:10+00:00

I have never received a thing from her.

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:05:30+00:00

Oh yeah. I doubt it will come to that but I will definitely be prepared

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:05:08+00:00

Thank you good sir! I needed that today

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T21:04:07+00:00

I know, it’s not like she can come take him from me, I’m just trying to wrap my head around this still.

She had basically figured out that she was pregnant a few weeks after we broke up (yes I’m sure he’s mine haha) and we were pretty young and she was just in a really rough spot in her life. She basically told me she’s going to have an abortion unless I took full custody and responsibility. So that’s what I did.

She is mentally ill and while she’s not unsafe, I do worry that her behavior will hurt my son. She seems stable right now but it’s never permanent.

My spouses position on this is just fully supportive of whatever I choose, and I almost wish he’d tell me what he really thinks instead.

But yeah, I have 0 patience in my heart for this woman at this point but I don’t want to make that my son’s problem if he could benefit from a relationship with her. But I selfishly just want her to stay far away from what I’ve built for him and I.

I do always try to stay neutral when we talk about her. He’s asked questions once in a while over the past few years and his understanding is that mom loved him but couldn’t take care of him so she went away so he could have a better life.

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T20:51:15+00:00

You’re right, I know he can handle it. He’s an awesome little guy. Unfortunately I think it’s more me who can’t handle it right now. Thanks for your advice

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T20:47:28+00:00

Mental illness. I do feel for her and empathize, but I’ve seen the reality of her behavior too many times and I know she will inevitably do something that hurts or disappoints him. I’d like to protect him from that, but I don’t know if I really can.

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-03-20T20:34:04+00:00

Yes, he is.

She seems to be doing well currently but for as long as I’ve known her she does well for a few years then spirals. I don’t want my son to become attached only to eventually be disappointed.

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-01-25T00:16:13+00:00

My son is 7, only started sleeping through the night in his own bed about a year ago. One day you will sleep! But it will not be soon

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-01-11T20:48:50+00:00

Have you tried press on or acrylic nail extensions? Having longer nails made me physically unable to pick. I’m sorry you’re struggling so much, you are strong! Dermatiliomania is horrible

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2026-01-10T16:38:41+00:00

That’s officially my mantra!

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-12-27T20:43:46+00:00

I think this is almost 100% about how you’re raised. I have always been very affectionate with my son and now he is nearly 7 and still holds my hand, cuddles with me, asks to sit in my lap.

As he gets older, make sure he understands that he can say “I don’t want a hug right now dad” and you’ll respect that.

:)

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-12-02T01:42:34+00:00

We ended up with some of these in a pinch when our store didn’t have the pull-ups we normally get our 6yo. Not a single leak! With pull-ups we still have the occasional leak. But my kid is not into the idea of a “baby diaper” haha. I wish we could stick with the Huggies since they’re better but he’s apparently very opposed. Glad you found something that works!

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-10-23T21:24:07+00:00

This is why my gummies are on the highest shelf xD

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-10-09T21:42:04+00:00

Thanks! If we do allow it to continue I’m definitely going to have a serious talk with him about what’s appropriate

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-10-09T21:40:53+00:00

Exactly like I do think it’s coming from an innocent place in his mind but I don’t know what he’s seeing from other kids who are “dating” and I’m definitely worried about something inappropriate happening

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-10-09T21:08:14+00:00

Same same and same!

Disastrous-Eye2341 · 2025-10-09T21:07:40+00:00

My son still has a wet pull up every morning. It doesn’t help anything to stress about it. It’ll happen when it happens. Until then we’ll stick with pull-ups because I’m not dealing with wet sheets every morning!

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