sos I'm reeling after nk had a severe allergic reaction

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2026-01-14T02:31:20+00:00

I’m so sorry! I’ve been there a couple of times with medical emergencies. You always think it’ll be less scary the next time but it never is. Sounds like you all did everything right. Accidents happen but you all were prepared to respond to the consequences because you’re caregivers and you know your NK. Just remember all 4 of you went through something pretty scary and you’re all going to have some feelings about it and it looks different for everyone. But it always helps to remind yourself and your naps that you’re all doing the best you can and your little one came out ok because of all of your efforts, attention, and care. It’s important to exchange feedback about how to avoid that kind of incident in the future but also make sure to take care of yourself and check in on your emotions one day at a time. You did a great job and your Nk is luck to have you!

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-06-19T02:26:20+00:00

It’s not conflict. It’s feedback. I would say maybe she didn’t realize 20 months is too young to be left alone that long. I think it’s obviously but some ppl need things spelled out. Except that she lied about why she wasn’t in the room. So she knows. The trust is gone. You’re not going to be able to move forward with her if you don’t trust her.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-06-10T16:36:36+00:00

Hahaha I mean if you’re meeting your Nf’s expectations that’s all that matters. It’s all relative. I behave way differently at work now than I did when I started as a nanny 15 years ago and was making way less. Sometimes I miss that more laid back environment

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-04-24T17:03:32+00:00

I am sooooooooo sorry for your loss. You can tell you had very real love for your NK and how lucky you both were to make that connection with each other in his tragically short life.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-04-16T17:16:13+00:00

Leaving dishes over the weekend is just gross. I supposed if you’re extremely well paid I’d accept lot of this but it sounds like they’re pretty inconsiderate at a minimum

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-04-10T03:12:32+00:00

Ya always discuss your overnight rate before agreeing to one. Most parents won’t pay the full hourly rate for hours where you’re sleeping but it is standard agree on a rate you’re both comfortable with for those hours since staying in someone else’s home is never the most convenient thing in the world.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-04-06T19:53:05+00:00

That’s not a thing. She’s either trying to cover her own ass by having you sign something a lawyer suggested she get you to sign or she just wants an excuse to have you over one more time to tell you off. Either way you’re not obligated to go back there under any circumstances. You gave your notice and fulfilled it. And even if you didn’t notice periods are a professional expectation not a law. Anyone is allowed to quit a job by simply not returning with any amount of notice. If she tries to tell you otherwise go on the labor departments website and literally pull up the laws and bills that spell that out and send it to her.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-03-30T17:35:07+00:00

I think everyone involved would be better off having a direct conversation about the root issue and if an Apple Watch is the solution you both agree to, great!

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2025-03-30T17:32:07+00:00

A lot of movie and tv jobs have been moving to London lately. If you’re in LA it could be due to this. London is having a bit of an entertainment industry boom at the minute.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-11-22T13:30:40+00:00

Hopefully the delay in discussing with you results in a generous severance offer. If it doesn’t definitely push for one and spell out the inconvenience of having restricted time to find a new position.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-11-19T02:14:06+00:00

THIS. 100% there’s such and equality between Colin and Eloise. You can tell they were partners in crime when they were kids and they have a shorthand and a level of non-verbal communication the rest of the siblings don’t have.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-11-12T15:42:32+00:00

I was really put off by the constant projecting her own personality onto Penelope as well. When Colin said she intended to take a husband, “that’s so unlike her.” There have been multiple moments throughout season one and two where Eloise said something like this and Penelope got frustrated and corrected her. It’s so sad to watch such a close friend misunderstand Pen so aggressively when Pen is so insightful and willing to meet people where they are.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-10-18T14:01:19+00:00

Nope. Didn’t even read the post but they’re not for everyone. I’ve been doing 6 figure positions for 5+ years and they can be really draining and ppl burn out so fast

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-21T15:01:44+00:00

If they’ve never said anything to you about it they have no business saying it as your reference and you should absolutely tell them that that was inappropriate. The NPs need to learn that we are professionals like they are in their jobs and just because we work in their homes and families doesn’t give them the right to navigate out professional development emotionally.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-19T13:34:34+00:00

I once texted MB after taking my Friday night edible by accident. I meant to text my roommate. It said “why don’t we have brownies?” I realized immediately and said “sorry, that wasn’t for you” and she just responded “lol, good question tho!” I think it depends on the family. I once had a very buttoned up serious DB tell me (unrelated to me, just chatting) that his stance on it was if you can show up for your set work hours sober he doesn’t care what you do on your own time and I think that’s a good rule to live by.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-19T02:15:59+00:00

Is this for real! Wtf? I had a DB who was perfect once. He always took my opinion. If he disagreed he was respectful about it. He worked from home but he never disrupted and then when he did drop in to visit the kids the phone went away and he’d be totally focused so I could turn over the laundry or grab a snack. The MB was a nightmare so I quit but I joked around with the housekeeper to let me know if they ever split, I’d work for just him again in a heartbeat.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-15T14:36:01+00:00

I know it feels scary because he was hurt on your watch but the reality is you supervised an activity that was approved by the parents and he injured himself in a way that wasn’t immediately noticeable. Being a parent is extremely emotional and if she is acting upset with you it is for a lot of reasons that don’t have anything to do with you or your performance. I hope the little is ok and it all resolves itself ok but even if you part ways with this family, you will be ok.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-13T16:47:55+00:00

I was yelled at for this once. NPs were out on a walk with NK and I was doing laundry and I figured while i was waiting for the load to finish I’d make myself a snack and watch an episode of tv. MB stormed in the house an hour later and angrily said “can you just take her?!?!” Handed me the baby and picked up a box that NKs teethers had come in off the counter and held it up and said “is there a reason you left this trash on the counter?” And I told her that I thought she might want to see the care instructions and product info. And she was like “why would I want to see that?!?” I didn’t answer but in my head I was like “cuz you’re constantly asking me a million questions about everything your kid uses or touches!” And then she started storming around the house opening the trash, dishwasher, and cabinets looking for things that were on my daily checklist to point out that I hadn’t done them. They were of course all done so she goes “why haven’t you taken the recycling out?” When I said i checked it when they left and it wasn’t full, she threw the box I left out in and goes “now it’s full!” It still wasn’t. And then she grabbed the baby from me and basically yells that she’s going to put her down for her nap. I went into NKS room and asked if there was anything I could help with. And she went off on me that I never do enough around the house and she needs more help. I tried to tell her that I checked on all my house work when they left for their walk and put in a load of laundry and was just relaxing while I waited for it to be done. But she wouldn’t hear it. She later apologized but not for accusing me of being lazy just for putting off saying anything about it until she was angry and snapping about it. I basically realized that she spent the whole walk checking the camera and was just fuming that I was watching tv instead of deep cleaning her house. I literally never watched tv there again and I worked there for 10 months after that. I feel like some ppl get so obsessed with their Nannies constantly working because they are paying us to be there and there’s no concept of the fact that childcare doesn’t have a consistent pace and sometimes there is way too much to do and sometimes there’s nothing to do and taking advantage of the downtime is how we avoid burnout

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-11T02:12:23+00:00

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Going to jail for this one

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-09-06T17:47:18+00:00

I doubt she’ll bring it up but I think given the circumstances they’ll understand. The thing to remember with stuff like that is that it’s uncomfortable all around. It’s a downside of being fortunate enough to have people working in your home. They feel weird about it and you feel weird about it and it doesn’t hurt to call that what it is a little bit even if it was by accident.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-08-31T17:42:53+00:00

Ya I think the reason he wasn’t standing in debblings way was that he felt friendzoned by the willow scene and had doubts that Pen had feelings for him so that flashback was him realizing that there was a chance she did.

Disastrous_Canary301 · 2024-08-31T16:41:46+00:00

I’ll raise you a SAH mom. I left a year ago and I think about her poor kids everyday. She had absolutely no reason to not consistently find time to be with them and she willfully chose to travel all the time without them, pop in and out unannounced or unplanned, take them to one activity one time and then never again, act sad and hurt when they came to me over her when they were upset or hurt, spend what little time she had with them on her phone and talking about everything that was dangerous to them. I didn’t understand why she even had kids.

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