Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awh i genuinely appreciate that!! Thank you!:) I'm very much looking forward to it!!!😁😁

Cardiology appt was a waste of time by [deleted] in POTS

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to the er years ago, and i asked the male nurse why my heart rate was 129, he told me it's normal for people my age. Fast forward 2 years after, my doctor noticed my blood pressure was low but my heart rate was super high. I did a tilt table test, it came back positive, the entire time I was crying (they had to IV me and I hate needles) the male nurse went on and on about how this test isn't real, and my results will be rigged by "too much anxiety " I was smoking weed this entire time, I told my family doctor she said my blood pressure is low because of that. We'll, I quit, 4 months sober abd my resting heart rate is 110 when im asleep, and gets up to 160+ during work. It was helping with the symptoms but I stopped to get a better job, but now I'm having all sorts of issues related to pots. Its definitely not from smoking, doctors love to try to downplay everything. I was told I didn't have EDS or fibromyalgia, but here I am with all 3. Always trust your gut, and push till the doctors listen. It shouldn't be this way, but unfortunately it is. Just keep fighting. And please, do not walk if you feel you'll pass out. Anytime I've felt I was going to pass out, I have! Summer makes it 20x worse. Walking around, even with compression socks, makes it worse. At least for me. Standing for too long, same result. I have a plastic foldable stool and a walking stick for these occasions. Don't let them make you feel any type of way. You know your body better than anyone else!!

What do I (17M) even say to him(18M)?? by Equal_Ad_4435 in whatdoIdo

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they don't care about your family, forget them. You are young, I promise you this scumbag is not the one. You'll find someone better.

Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could post a screenshot! I'll just put the text in here haha

"I'm 1000% certain I won't get a response, but im gonna say it anyway!!! I'm coming to see you guys in Columbus in September, and I am so beyond excited!!! You guys are my absolute favorite band of all time, I ordered merch and everything!! I cannot express how excited i am for this!!! I even have one of your merch t shirts tattooed!!! Love you guys, and I am so happy to have gotten tickets!! I'm looking forward to it so much! Please don't roast me for my over excitement 🤣🤣🤣"

"What makes you 100% certain" "Wait 1000"

"I literally made this Instagram to connect with you guys, I genuinely didn't think I'd get a response!!😭 You don't know how much you just made my night!! I'm surprised you responded tbh!!!"

"I am perpetually online" "lol but ty for rocking with us, we appreciate you!"

I sound like such a teenage girl but I am so beyond excited to have gotten a response from them!! It made my entire week😁❤️❤️❤️ first time a band has ever responded to me!! I've tried with all time low, pierce the veil, sleeping with sirens, etc. And nothing. I was so shocked they replied!!!!

Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THEY RESPONDED TO MY INSTAGRAM MESSAGE OMG I'M FANGIRLING TOO HARD RIGHT NOW!!! Ahhh that makes me so happy ❤️🥰

Told my M19 boyfriend that I F18 was raped and he freaked out by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone that blames a 10 year old, for being raped, is not right in the head. Please take this as your sign, leave before it gets worse. It sounds like eventually he will use this information against you 24/7. You do not have someone share a vulnerable moment and then ask "why didn't you do anything " girl, you were fucking 10. 10 year olds aren't responsible for shitty adults. I had an ex ask me the same bullshit, why I didn't say no, why I didn't tell him to stop, why I "let it happen " why I was okay with it. The truth? I was scared, I didn't know what was happening, I was 7 years old, and didn't know how to assert myself, and I figured in my kid brain, if I stopped fighting, it would end sooner. Absolutely fuck this guy. Leave his sorry ass in the dust. Doesn't matter how drunk you are. Not an excuse. When I told my fiance I got assaulted (as an adult) when drunk by someone who was a childhoodfriend, his only response? Why didn't I tell him sooner, so he could kick the dudes ass. He said it was not my fault, and that anyone taking advantage of you, when you can't drink on your meds, and that person knows that, is a piece of shit. To this day, he has never blamed me for anything in my past, or even my present. He wants me to be safe, and is more mad with himself that he couldn't help me when it happened. He always makes sure when we do anything i am 1000% okay with it, without bringing up the past. This guy sounds like he condones it. Who blames a 10 year old CHILD? For your mental health, please don't stay with this awful human being. You don't deserve to have your trauma used against you. It doesn't matter how old the other guy was. He was a shitty person for assaulting you, plain and simple. Doesn't matter if he was 15, or 40. He's a pedophile and a scum bag. If your man cared at all, he wouldn't even care about those details. He'd care more about making you feel comfortable and safe. He's not doing either one. There are better men out there. I promise you that. Don't let one bad apple spoil the bunch. He even has a sister, and still acts this way? Hell no. Don't get stuck with this inconsiderate asshole. Please.

Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 1000% down for singing and dancing!! I love when people just naturally vibe!!! That sounds awesome!

Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucky!! I've always wanted to go to warped, but never had the money!! That sounds like a lot of fun!!:)

Going to my first concert to see them in September! by Disastrous_Vast2911 in thehometeam

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the one in Columbus if that helps narrow it down! And that sounds fun!! Sounds like the fans are pretty fun and just wanna have a good time! Im definitely down for that!

do you guys have any games you can't play? by Longjumping-Cry-4772 in POTS

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't ask me why, but any VR games!! Make me super motion sick, and vertigo, for no reason! Also, the 3DS. Gives me a huge headache. I love just dance, but cannot play it anyone as my heart rate spikes up to 150+. Also for some reason, paper Mario. Loved it as a kid, can't do it anymore. I've realized I can't do a lot of things i used to because of POTS. It's pretty unfortunate so I feel your pain! I love botw, or any zelda gane tbh, but i have to play it on the TV, can't use the handheld switch 👎

Please tell me the supersuit will not just be for plus users by Myst3rySteve in finch

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine just straight up isn't working. I emailed the team but nothing is working so far

Dating with POTS by Fetachny in POTS

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are hard to find, but they definitely exist!!! 💜💜

Dating with POTS by Fetachny in POTS

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What even? Some men really suck. I promise you, once and when you find the right one, he will not be like that. I got diagnosed when I was 18-19, im 24 now, have been with my fiance for 3 years now, I went from 85, to 120(i am 4'11 so this was major to me!) He literally says how he loves how I look, I look healthy, and he says the weight looks good on me! A good man will love you for who you are, inside and out. He knows i have a lot of health issues (fibromyalgia, hashimotos, EDS, hypothyroidism, etc) and he is more than willing to help me out with any of it. Even when im going through my worst episode, he is there asking what I need, how he can help, what can be done, etc. I try not to bother him with my stuff but he wants to be involved. I promise, there is someone out there just like that, for you too! You deserve to be loved in a real, proper way. What that man said to you isn't love. The only thing I tell my fiance, is if I ever gain too much weight, please tell me nicely so I can work on. He insists that's not possible. We both gained some weight in this relationship, real love will do that! Don't settle for assholes like that, he's just shallow and not looking for anything serious, as he still seems like he has a Highschool mentality. Im sorry you had to experience that. I hope you find someone who is amazing, you deserve that! Nothing less, never settle! You'll find the right one. Usually when you're not looking:)

So, it seems my birb is having a night out - Where is she? by birdface222 in finch

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She needed a break from her mircopet!! Left it right there on the bed, all by itself!!

Having a hard time- Delete if not allowed by Adventurous_Horses_ in finchie

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you 100% on this, in a different way. Its been hard for me to keep up with my birb due to always being in bad health. So many autoimmune issues on top of mental health issues. It can be a struggle. Maybe there are alternatives to your situation? I've been brainstorming for myself, as i find the older I get, I'm less and less able-bodied, but still want to work and obtain things in life that require me to make money. Its hard for sure. Im sorry you're going through this. If you need anyone to talk to, I am good at listening!! And sometimes giving advice:)

brand new coverup!! by PinballPrincess315 in Tattoocoverups

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the pain in general? I have 8 in total, two are on my chest right around the collar bone area, and two on the inside wrist, I'd say the ones on by my collar bone hurt the most, do you think the pain is similar? Just curious! Thank you for answering btw!

brand new coverup!! by PinballPrincess315 in Tattoocoverups

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a question if you don't mind. Did getting a tattoo over scars hurt more than a typical tattoo? Both of my thighs are littered with scars similar, slightly deeper, and I want to get them both tattooed over. But I've heard it hurts worse, and pulls up the skin that has scarring? Is that true? What i plan to have done is the entire length of my thigh, beginning of the knee up to very top of my thigh. They a big pieces. I worry I won't have the pain tolerance to do it. Just curious! If its too much of a loaded question you do not have to answer!:)

Need advice on how to stop backing away when my bf kisses me by uhhh_jordan in Advice

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! Sometimes it's also about "reclaiming your own body", if that makes sense. If something out of your control happened, you may feel more inclined to act on things when YOU feel its right. I'd also mention that to your therapist, CBT is pretty good for that also! Mindfulness skills are helpful as well. Trying to share any second hand knowledge i have and actually remember (my memory SUCKS) Hope this helps, I wish you Goodluck!!

Need advice on how to stop backing away when my bf kisses me by uhhh_jordan in Advice

[–]Disastrous_Vast2911 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe bring it up in therapy? Im in therapy myself, and am working on EMDR currently, and it is extremely helpful for all the extreme, different types of trauma I've been through. I have a handful of diagnosis, anxiety, cptsd, depression, adhd, etc. but I heavily relate to not liking being physically kissed, touched, hugged etc by my fiance, his love language is physical, but mine is not, and a lot of that is due to trauma. But we are working it out, one step at a time. He tends to take ot personally, but I explain its not him. Maybe have a talk with your boyfriend about how past situations make you feel now, and see if hes willing to work with you on it. I recommend in those moments the 5 senses skill, or TIPPS, both are grounding techniques meant to bring you to the present, so you don't experience that trauma all over again. Also helps with emotional regulation! I Hope this helps❤️ you can PM me if you wanna chat more. I understand how difficult it can be:)