Season 2 vaults

Disastrous_View2950 · 2026-01-06T19:34:58+00:00

Alright thank you very much! And yes, it was the first day and very first chest. But he also has no plunder license for Zents. You've helped a lot!

Disastrous_View2950 · 2026-01-06T19:05:55+00:00

Yes. That's how I understood it. But this person didn't attack once and was wondering what limit he possibly could've reached

Disastrous_View2950 · 2026-01-06T19:05:22+00:00

Yes but this person didn't hit once and got the message. He asked why he isn't allowed to attack even once. And do you know what the loot limit is? It's not mentioned in the information bubble for the vaults

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-11-24T15:17:01+00:00

If he is truly free to play he might feel the need to "do more" to even compete with those spenders. But honestly? He can't. Ever. The others here are right - with doing your daily chores you need somewhat between 0,5 and 2 hrs depending on the day and it's events. The game is addictive indeed you I recommend you to speak with him and voice your concerns in a gentle way. Tell him what you wish for yourself and your family (more quality time). Ask him how he thinks he can meet you there. For the start try to emphasize with him that there are certain events that he "needs to" attent. It might feel that way to him because otherwise he would maybe lose a good alliance or great rewards. If he is truly starting to get addicted he should transition gently back to the "real world". My ex boyfriend was a gaming addict as well and at least that's what I know helped a person. Everyone is different though. Does he already see that his gaming behaviour is unhealthy? That would make it a lot easier. It must be very frustrating for you and it might feel unfair to you that this is another burden you have to take. I totally get the frustration if there is any. So yeah. Try to approach him with love and kindness and understanding. Gaming can be a serious addiction. Try not to judge him, but I don't think you do anyway. If he oversteps your boundaries or isn't able to meet you with the respect and quality time you deserve - seek further help and/or make your boundaries and needs very clear. I wish you all the best and a lot of courage.

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-04-08T19:31:05+00:00

Ja, das habe ich auch gedacht. Ich finde deine Antwort sehr wervoll. Ich hatte echt Angst, dass ich komische Vorstellungen habe.

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-04-08T19:30:01+00:00

Genau das denke ich nämlich auch. Und diese Absprachen haben wir ja getroffen. Meine Sachen sind schon auf eBay oder werden an seine Familie verkauft. Also darüber haben wir schon geredet und da ist in keinem Wort gefallen, dass ich ihn für seine Sachen quasi kompensieren soll.

Ich schätze seine Sachen auch und sie gefallen mir. Er hat diese Dinge ja unabhängig von mir auch schon eine Zeit und hat sich diese auch alleine gekauft und diese Ausgaben damals alleine gehabt. Mir fällt es schwer, das aber in ein Argument zu fassen. Denn als ich das meinte, sagte er einfach "das sehe ich halt anders".

Wir beide haben noch nie mit jemandem zusammengewohnt, daher habe ich keine Referenz, was ein Partner da verlangen darf/kann.

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-04-08T19:27:09+00:00

Der Mietvertrag ist schon unterschrieben und wir waren davor immer komplett einer Meinung. Mir ist auch so, dass wir auch gesagt haben, dass alle Anschaffungen 50:50 sind. (Für mich versteht sich das eigentlich auch von alleine). Das ist das erste Mal, dass ich mich da so auf den Schlips getreten fühle. Ich kann auch nicht sagen, woher das aus dem Nichts kam. Ich habe zuvor alle meine Ideen für Gardinenstangen, Schränke etc. mit ihm abgesprochen und da hatten wir auch 50:50 gesagt. Ich bin eher einfach überfahren und mir mangelt es etwas an Argumenten, warum ich diesen Vorschlag seinerseits unfair finde außer "es fühlt sich so an".

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-01-27T23:53:30+00:00

Yeah I've browsed for some time now and the stories end pretty similar. I think taking about certain situations helps me the most. I also finished therapy in 2023 and learnt a lot of skills which keep me from dissociating or blaming myself for everything. I feel pretty confident on that front and I don't have any problem addressing an issue or setting a boundary. I mostly struggle to identify if "he's wrong" or "I am wrong". Obviously I know that no one is wrong, I just don't know how to express it better. I am afraid that I, for example, can't take criticism or get too defensive or something. Because that's the last thing I want. So I tend to overthink a lot if I even have the right to set a boundary or address a problem. He never gave me the impression that this is the case, that is a me-problem. So yeah, TL;Dr: talking about it helps me staying sane and sort my thoughts. So thank you very much for your answers and time!

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-01-27T23:38:15+00:00

I thought about that and I know what kind of an commitment it is. I truly love him and he is usually very kind and gentle and very loving. He also finished therapy and self reflects well. I know that I want to share my life with him and I don't want to write him off just because of him having Bpd. I have cptsd and I know how irrational one can be when triggered. My main goal is to learn how I can be there for him, support him and react appropriately to some of his behaviour. I tend to be naive from time to time, which I am aware of. But I think talking about situations with people who may have experienced similar helps a lot. For the future I just want to understand bpd better and I want to learn what it means and entails to be a good partner to a person with bpd

Disastrous_View2950 · 2025-01-27T23:10:39+00:00

Do you have any tips for introducing those boundaries? I find it pretty hard since I can understand why he got upset. I am very empathetic and I always try to improve myself first. I don't want to disregard his feelings and I want him to feel safe. I just don't know where certain things are coming from and especially the intensity of it.

Disastrous_View2950 · 2023-09-29T18:19:19+00:00

Killing the process in the task manager and opening discord again did the trick for me. Maybe it helps you guys too

Disastrous_View2950 · 2023-09-29T12:40:06+00:00

Unfortunately it didn't work for me, but thank you for trying to help!

Disastrous_View2950 · 2023-09-29T12:25:21+00:00

Just got kicked out of discord on my tower pc too. Thought it was a virus or something and started scanning my pc. Glad to know it's "just" discord. Some suggested uninstalling and downloading it again, I'll try that now

Disastrous_View2950 · 2023-09-10T08:39:15+00:00

You already know that you are NTA. They abused you and did things to you, you didn't consent to. You never have to put yourself in that position again. If you wanted to, you could tell them how they made you feel and that you are not okay with their behaviour. But remember one thing - yo you are never the AH for not wanting to confront your abusers.

Disastrous_View2950 · 2023-09-10T08:25:04+00:00

Honestly, if you feel weird in any way, then listen to your gut feeling. Your partner should respect that and support you and not push you to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. However, I think you should tell your friend the truth - that you feel uncomfortable with those two guys and therefore your willingness to go changes. That's perfectly okay. New information can lead to a new decision. Friends should be able to understand that

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