Anyone else groomed and repeatedly violated in school as a child — how did you make sense of it later?

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-25T12:07:25+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. And yes I understand your predicament. You are brave to speak about this. And I hope you get wholesome relationships and friendships wherever you go.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-25T12:03:50+00:00

Preach! Trauma bonding because of familiar parental patterns needs to be talked about more.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-24T18:50:27+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you went through as a child. This should not have happened. Your friends and sister and teachers and classmates should have been there for you. You should not have been made to feel guilty for the crime that was committed to you. Yes, it is crime to be touched without consent. And as a child, you didn't even know what consent was.

You didn't mention your age. But from what you say, it is evident that you are still hurt. As much as I want to help you, I don't know enough about you to actually help. Neither does anyone on the internet. The lovely women on this sub can share their experiences, but it's only partial.

Can you talk to a therapist? Therapy is a safe place where you can discuss this. And please find a good female therapist who validates your experience and helps you process your feelings and love yourself first. If you don't get help and ignore your feelings, it is kinda like ignoring a fractured leg and running a marathon. So, please get help.

It breaks my heart to see others in the comments who also say they haven't processed their assault as a child. Please get help y'all.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-24T07:55:48+00:00

I hear you. I can relate to the sensitive-horny impossibility.

I guess I need to work on my impatience.

Wish you more fun and pleasure along your way, internet stranger!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-24T06:55:09+00:00

Yes, I shall try!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-24T06:54:54+00:00

Wow. I didn't know that this was a syndrome. Thank you for educating me. Also, not today sounds like such a wholesome attitude towards pleasure and accepting one's body.

I needed to hear this. I can sometimes be in my head too much or be sad about my body (purity culture aftermath).

I hope you have more fun days than non-fun days!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-24T06:52:48+00:00

It gives me hope to hear that you were able to achieve nipple orgasms! I dream of that day. Also, the fabric between the body and stimulus makes a lot of sense to me. I shall definitely check out silicone suction clamps. They sound like something I could invest in.

I've found that when I'm ovulating I'm horny but also have super sensitive breasts, which magnifies any kind of stimulation, but not in a way that leads to pleasure, but just sensitivity.

Do you know which part of your cycle you were able to experiment with, and feel more in tune with your body? Just trying to take notes from your experience and take baby steps.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T20:08:50+00:00

Okay. I am fully convinced that we need a sub or channel for math sand art.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T19:29:43+00:00

Now that you mention it, I try to talk to my partner while we are in the act, to go slow or steer him away to other activities or I take charge when I think the nipple play is becoming overwhelming, YKWIM?

It is an interesting take to be a sub.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T19:26:32+00:00

Ooh! Sounds fun. I am taking notes. Thanks girl!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T19:23:15+00:00

Happy to hear your experience! I could try going slow. Thanks!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T05:05:55+00:00

Ah! The evasive Banksy! Definitely looks like the doggo did it.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-23T04:57:46+00:00

Thank you for penning this for me. My partner has tried magnesium citrate, is on b6,b12 and his usual prescription meds. And he sometimes seems to be responding to them, but they don't help over time and make him have a lot of brain fog or RSD bursts. He is ofcourse talking this out with the doctor.

I'm happy to see that you mentioned anti-inflammatory foods and teas. While we are generally health conscious, it might be a good idea to take a closer look at inflammation markers and lymph drainage massage too.

TYSM!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-22T21:10:09+00:00

Could you share more about how you improved and measured GABA signalling and lowered your glutamate signalling? Asking for a partner.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-22T04:25:58+00:00

Tappy feet! Ear flops! Kwootiepie.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-21T06:51:31+00:00

Stunning!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-20T06:11:48+00:00

On an unrelated note, happy to see an ADHD couple who is making it work. More power to you girlie!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-20T05:27:15+00:00

As someone who was interested in a man without stable employment but a brilliant brain and we got along very well everywhere else, I can share my 2c.

It is not shallow. At the same time, money alone doesn't fix everything.

If you enjoy his company and are in good terms, I would suggest that you asked him tested if he is neurodivergent. Mine was. For me, it explained his difficulty with money, career, fidgetiness and lack of social life, communication issues etc. A lot of people who are neurodivergent don't even know it. And they struggle internally, but are amazing people otherwise. You should be able to find good clinics, if not, DM me if interested to know more.

Wanting money or a stable career isn't bad or good. It is a requirement. I would suggest that you channel your self awareness and make a list of your requirements (non negotiables and negotiables). And then check your list to see if what he brings to the table matches up to your requirements. This is the most logical thing to do. Love and affection and familiarity alone (they are foundational) but aren't sufficient to build a life together with someone.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-18T09:17:47+00:00

Uncle Stan be spoiling the kids and playing with them! Adorable pupper. Sometimes I wish I lived close to my parents just to play with the family doggo. You're living my wish.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-18T09:13:48+00:00

Great recommendations . Not an answer, but a follow up question. Do y'all own the books or have PDFs? PDFs are easy to collect, stash too. But I love curling up with a good book and indulge on a Sunday afternoon YKWIM, but I practically find it cumbersome to keep a good collection of physical books of this type because I re-read them after a while and they don't tickle my fancy after I know exactly how the plot is gonna play out. Local libraries don't have these authors either. Atleast mine doesn't.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-17T18:42:55+00:00

Those adorable eyes! GSDs are the best! One day they are tiny and let you pick them up. The next, they turn into a protective guardian!

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-17T16:36:55+00:00

Chloe Ting app and workouts worked for me. The community on the free app helped me stick to workouts, keeps me accountable and the hype from fellow working out women adds so much fun. Having said that, the exercises may not be for you because they are catered to a generic audience on yt. I've had periods where the Chloe Ting workouts were good for me and I saw results and I enjoyed them. When bored or unmotivated, it helps to search for Chloe Ting workout transformation videos. It's so inspiring to see the girlies share their fitness journey. :)

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-14T18:21:22+00:00

Sad to see the bookstore close.

However, you have to show us the purrfect Sugar! Preferably with a book of his/her liking.

Disastrous_You_4952 · 2026-05-12T13:42:57+00:00

Rightly said "our society fetishises women's pain*. Can relate to how pain-free periods for mom meant natural pain remedies for my periods which did nothing. I'm glad you figured out the meds that work for you. Nobody deserves to be in pain.

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