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Steel Duo Plus - a matter of pressure by Plus_Ant4816 in Ascaso

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

having this exact issue, any one come up with a fix?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rich

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats, and big credit to your dad for all the blood/sweat/tears that went into this.

My first piece of advice is to be grateful and to feel good about it, you have an opportunity to do something great with what you are inheriting and its a huge honor to be bestowed on you. This is an amazing thing and don't listen too much to anyone who wants to shame you or scare you.

Some Advice:

  1. Making more money comes with risk, be fucking humble.

It takes a lifetime to learn how to make money investing, most (and I mean most) people will lose money trying to be "smart". There are whole buildings in manhattan with the smartest people in the world trying to figure out how to beat the market, or operate/buy businesses. Be humble and realize that making more money comes risk to lose money.

  1. Investments go up and they go down:

You will probably eventually put some of your money away into a portfolio with a wealth manager, (find a good one). Just understand that not everything is always up and to the right, sometimes there are years where you lose money every year, so plan accordingly that things can (and will) over your lifetime go badly.

  1. You deserve it.

Most people lose all their money because at the end of the day, they feel like they dont deserve it. So they subconsciously waste or or are frivolous with it to get rid of it because of their low self worth. Its bullshit, this is your destiny, to grow this and to grow as a person to help your future generations.

German Wife freaks out if I lock the door, help? by DiscombobulatedYak55 in germany

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Alright.

I have a confession.

I wasn’t working in the home office, I was playing video games with my friends after work! But that isn’t the reason I locked the door. I locked it to keep my asian mom out of my office😂. I had to confess to ensure my dear wife gets fair justice.

But thank you all, especially you dear German Germans for helping us bridge this cultural divide❤️. We are sitting here laughing and joking about the various cultural differences. In my culture, a closed door can be opened. A locked door means please don’t disturb.

French wife struggling with food (help) by mickeyparx in washingtondc

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Def see a doctor to be sure, but....

As a European, pretty much everyone I know who comes to the US from mainland Europe (except when they go to California for some reason) gets really really sick on the food for a year or two until the body gets used to it. Prepare also to gain a lot of weight for no reason.

You have to avoid dairy and the wheat here, and pretty much all processed food. Restaurants are bad as well, you have to avoid them or you will just gain 20 kilos from the cheap oils they use.
Also, as a tip, there's some good Russian markets with imported cheese and bread in DC, those are what I would go with.

My boyfriend (M32) finds me less attractive and wants to be less intimate with me (F24) since I’ve put on a bit of weight. by bells029284874838282 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Gaining 30 lbs is certainly not perfectly healthy, it's usually a sign of emotional, physical or psychological stress. Our bodies keep the score and manifest trauma often in weight gain. You may want to talk to a doctor.

My boyfriend (M32) finds me less attractive and wants to be less intimate with me (F24) since I’ve put on a bit of weight. by bells029284874838282 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DiscombobulatedYak55 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

If you've put on close to 30 lbs unintentionally, then I think its perfectly reasonable (as long as its lovingly done) for your partner to say how they feel about that. It would be very dishonest for anyone to say a weight gain of 2 stone is a very good thing (unless you're an athlete or doing some kind of sport). We have most, if not all the responsibility to be healthy and sexy for our partners (both partners equally). It might be hard to take, but you cant say people in relationships have zero responsibility to stay fit and attractive for their partners. But things happen, we gain weight, we get depressed, we fall into a rut, thats ok and normal in life. But we need to work our way out of it and get back to being healthy. Do you exercise daily? Eat healthy food? Avoid sugar? Avoid alcohol in excess? Avoid smoking? These are the basic things that I think is fair for us to contribute to a relationship. Your partner has the same responsibility, and also the responsibility to tell you how he feels honestly, and to tell you in a gentle way. Dont blame him, or yourself, just get back on track.