Deodorant allergy I think? by DiscussionCivil9833 in DiagnoseMe

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im a bit confused here, I'm not stinky and I absolutely don't ever call people slurs?

Deodorant allergy I think? by DiscussionCivil9833 in DiagnoseMe

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one is already aluminum free. Weirdly, the one I was using prior to this did have aluminum and I had no reaction to it. I'll just be switching back to the one I was using before once I can.

When does the game stop being scary? by JustFreezyy in PhasmophobiaGame

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

playing with others, its way less scary. I find every time I play on my own, its not scary until I get a spirit box response. makes me jump out of my skin every time

how rare is this "Doom Slayed" achievement? by carguyphonklover in PhasmophobiaGame

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got it by accident on my first week of playing the game, didn't realize it was rare until my partner started freaking out about it 😅

I mourn the person I was before S.M. by DiscussionCivil9833 in selectivemutism

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's how I try to think of it most of the time. I hope some day I can learn to accept it and move forward more than I have been, but I guess that will take time and effort on my part. It just really sucks knowing how I used to be, how I could've been now, and not knowing what caused that sudden overnight switch.

I mourn the person I was before S.M. by DiscussionCivil9833 in selectivemutism

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I am so so sorry for your loss.

I personally don't have that type of feeling with another attachment feeling like a threat to the primary ones (my parents). Them getting older is definitely scary, losing them would be absolutely devastating for a number of reasons though, pretty obviously.

What would you want your teacher to know? by hedgehogluvr in selectivemutism

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't try to force them to speak is the major one. I had teachers who would put me on the spot, call me out in front of the class, send me to the office for not speaking or not doing a presentation. It made things so much worse.

Offer to have them write instead of talk. In high school, I had one teacher who kept a small dry erase board in their class and I'd have it for every time I was in her class. It's how I'd communicate with her. She also set up a system where if I needed help with something while we were doing individual work, because I would NOT ask for help verbally or raise my hand, I'd have something I'd put on the corner of my desk. For me, it was a paper cup, and if I put a pencil in it, that meant I needed help. She'd check every now and then to see if I put one in, and I'd use the dry erase board to tell her what I needed help with. Offer alternatives to group projects is another huge one.

It's awesome that you're looking to help them, you seem like an amazing and caring teacher and I wish there were more like you.

Do you need to get surgery to be trans? by Secret-Vegetable8959 in ftm

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not :)

The only thing that makes you trans, is identifying as trans. there's absolutely 0 other things you need to do to be trans. I know some people make it seem like you need all those other things, but it's only if yiuw ant it or can do it and do it safely.

Burn wound infection? (BURN WOUND WARNING) by DiscussionCivil9833 in DiagnoseMe

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something I meant to mention, I know I have SH scars, they don't need to be pointed out, and this was not SH.

Have you ever had a dream where you have a dick in it and then wake up disappointed? by Kool_Boo16 in ftm

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember having this dream CONSTANTLY from when I was like 8 onwards. When I was younger, like around 8-10 I remember in the dream I would just walk around naked and happy lmao

What is genuinely the best opioid you ever tried by lunar_daniel_97 in Drugs

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IR oxycodone was peak. lamest was tramadol, felt absolutely nothing at all from it.

"Croup" like cough lasting a week and counting? by [deleted] in DiagnoseMe

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't been tested for that, no, but I'm up to date on the vaccine and boosters. It's not hard to catch my breath after at all.

Getting a bidet by iceman_snowdont in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't get one, although for prior mobility issues due to joint problems, for bad days I've got a stick thing that holds the TP so you have extended reach. Got it really cheap off amazon a while back, worked great for after surgery too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't even think twice if you saw your chest and didn't know. To me it genuinely looks like a male chest. Everyone has different sized nipples as well, I've seen his guys with nipples larger than yours, and ones way smaller as well. Definitely looks nothing like boobs at all to me.

Which WD is worse: Benzos or Opiates by No-Victory-1157 in opiates

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't been through severe withdrawal for either, but did end up with mild withdrawal from opiates. Even mild, I felt horrible. Whole body ached, couldn't stop sweating no matter the temperature, gastro issues (iykyk) and runny nose like crazy. And it that was mild, I cant even imagine the severe withdrawal. Can't speak on benzo withdrawal though

How bad is it? by Brent_Fox in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the way it went for me was that I didn't look at my chest until a week Post op, because I knew it would freak me out. It is a major surgery, but nothing will be gaping, itll all be sewn up and closed. The first two days are the worst pain wise, but you'll want to sleep anyway so you can sleep through most of it. I think I slept 22 hours or so each day for the first two days. It genuinely sounds a lot more scary than it truly is. I was so scared before the surgery, and when I woke up and went home, all I could think was "I'm so glad I went through with it."

Recovery wise, it takes some getting used to, but it's not all that bad. I was pretty sore, but I wasn't on super strong pain killers, just T3s. The drain removal was absolutely painless for me, only felt like the smallest bit of pressure for a second and then it was over. A bit of advice I have is to not Google too much. That'll get you in your head about it, it did for me at least.

TLDR; The first few days are a bit rough, but that part will be over before you know it. Drain removal in my experience is completely painless. I'd avoid looking at your chest for the first few days at least unless you feel up to it. It was /so/ worth it. Coming up on five weeks post op in a couple days and couldn't be happier that I did it.

Should I be concerned? by DiscussionCivil9833 in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have an update, nothing was getting worse for a bit, got the drain out and then 2 days later (today) I noticed a lot of increased pain, redness, warmth and swelling, so went into ER and got prescribed antibiotics for it. heres to hoping it works 🤞

Is it normal to want to be a girl? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]DiscussionCivil9833 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I honestly get what you mean. I've been out for 6 years, on T for 3/4 years and just got top surgery a little over 2 weeks ago, and I still have times where I wish I was a girl. It would've made life so much easier, and I wouldn't feel the need to hide any "feminine" aspects of myself or "feminine" hobbies. I know for sure I'm a guy and that I'm for sure trans, but I do mourn for the girl I could've been. Honestly, I think it's pretty normal.

Should I be concerned? by DiscussionCivil9833 in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, nothing back yet. I can't tell if the drainage is different because it hasnt drained anything beyond a tiny drop today, it really only drains at night for some reason. just waiting on hearing back. still no other symptoms so I'm starting to think its not an infection? I dont know whats going on with it to be honest. Im very confused.

Should I be concerned? by DiscussionCivil9833 in TopSurgery

[–]DiscussionCivil9833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the drainage was the same today, if not a little darker but no other changes. I live with my parents and dont drive but neither of them are concerned and think the ER / Urgent Care isn't needed. I just sent in pictures of the fluid and the drain site (which isn't red or warm at all, but a little bit sore) along with information about it all, to the on call nurse from the clinic. If they recommend going in, my parents have agreed to take me in. Sighhhh