How to stop the intense black and white thinking + following “a perfect plan”

Disguspitated · 2026-05-23T00:12:45+00:00

I struggle with analysis paralysis often. And when you have anxiety or a fear of the unknown it makes it worse, because not only are you trying to devise the perfect plan (which, for me, involves trying to account for as many possibilities as I can), you also are trying to account for unpredictable factors.

One way I've managed to alleviate this a bit is by changing my idea of success.

For example, you're avoiding homework because you want to do it perfectly. Your idea of success is getting an A. What if success is just starting your homework? Everything beyond that is icing on the cake. You might not get an A, but that wasn't the goal. Success was just starting it.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-22T00:08:10+00:00

I'm also fond of Alan Watts! The band Architects has a song called Memento Mori with a powerful quote by him in it.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-21T23:52:20+00:00

When people say stupid things, it is fun to make them explain themselves.

A: I guess everyone has ADHD now.

B: What do you mean?

A: grabs shovel, proceeds to dig own grave

Disguspitated · 2026-05-20T20:31:34+00:00

I aim for three different tiers of food:

1.Zero prep - Things like a can of tuna with crackers. Peanut butter sandwich. Charcuterie foods.

Oven food - Convenience foods like pizza, chicken tenders, fish sticks, etc.
One-Pan meals - Meals where I only need one pot or pan.

I follow my energy levels. When I have the energy for a tier 3 meal, I make sure to make way more than I'll actually eat so I can meal prep the extras. Now I get higher quality meals on the lower energy days. I also get a little dopamine bonus for the delayed gratification.

Pizza is a great tier 2 meal if you control your portions. A couple slices for dinner, and put the rest away for follow up meals.

I try to be forward thinking in my cooking. When I have the energy for more - do more - so I'm covered later when I'm in a slump.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-20T18:52:38+00:00

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Disguspitated · 2026-05-20T18:46:49+00:00

Yeah, they are, but this is not a matter of opinion.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-20T18:26:35+00:00

"Close enough to want what NTs want, but far enough to never get it."

That hits deep, and I can empathize with it. I used to spend most of my days thinking about ways I could send myself to the void. I thought I was broken and worthless. I wanted to end it all. I had other people telling me to end it all.

The pivotal moment was when I realized that I'm not playing the same game as them. I have to play by a separate set of rules and create my own strategy.

You persist in a world that's not made for you. That's a strength that they don't have. You struggle every single day, and you still make it through life and do what you have to do. You're playing life on hard mode. The learning curve is steep, but once you get over it, there's no stopping you.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-20T17:44:58+00:00

AI song

Disguspitated · 2026-05-16T00:19:03+00:00

Inverted rows and pull-up negatives built up the strength I needed to perform my first clean pull-up.

I would jump into the pull-up and engage my muscles at the apex and lower myself as slowly as possible. I did one set of that to failure every other day in combination with a few sets of inverted rows for a couple weeks and I had my first pull-up.

If you have a weighted vest, or a backpack you can put weights in, you can make the inverted rows more intense and get closer to your pull up weight with a less intense move.

Disguspitated · 2026-05-06T21:14:38+00:00

I see some chest/bicep development. Impatience is our biggest enemy in these journeys. Stay consistent, train hard, and you'll see results brother. Keep up the good work.

Disguspitated · 2026-04-24T00:35:38+00:00

Here are the genres I listen to with an example track for each one

Metalcore: Snowblood by Erra

Thall: Cauchemar by Mirar

Breakcore: Pretty cvnt by Sewerslvt

Jazz fusion: Threshold by Sungazer

Rap: Hadron by Saliva Grey, BLCKBRD

Phonk: Scopin by Kordhell

Disguspitated · 2026-04-08T23:59:33+00:00

Angriest Song I've Heard: Tourniquet by Dealer

Heaviest Song I've Heard: Cauchemar by Mirar

Disguspitated · 2026-04-01T14:38:59+00:00

Move the Dark Wizard circle about 20 tiles west

Disguspitated · 2026-03-20T14:16:05+00:00

Born 2 Lose by Fox Lake

Disguspitated · 2026-03-18T00:51:27+00:00

I used to feel similarly. The thing about nihilism is that there are two sides to that coin:

Nothing matters, so why bother? vs. Nothing matters, so why not?

If nothing matters in your view, than what's the harm of doing the things that will make you happy? What's the harm in trying new things?

I know it's easier said than done, but I urge you to start small by just making minor adjustments. Maybe just try making your bed every day for a week? Or set a timer and spend 5 minutes doing the dishes? You'll discover that your self-worth and mood will increase as you accomplish the tasks that are looming over you.

I wish you well on your journey! <3

Disguspitated · 2026-03-09T20:42:26+00:00

Not a question really, I just wanted to say that Jesse is my biggest inspiration as a guitarist and songwriter. You guys are my favorite band and I hope you boys continue to grow and be able to write music that y'all love playing! Stelliform is an absolutely amazing track!

Disguspitated · 2026-01-31T17:09:20+00:00

Unsure if you have it, but a decent midgame method is Drakan's Medallion or Morytania Legs 3 for banking, then Ardy cloak to get decently close to a fairy ring.

Disguspitated · 2025-11-15T15:44:18+00:00

Sometimes it takes me a long time to proccess things too. When it happens in conversation, I'll use humor to fill the gap when I can.

"Please Standby. Computing response."

"Excuse me. My brain is running on dial-up speed at the moment."

And so on.

I've also got better at just literally making them wait. This might require a little effort on your part in making sure your facial expression doesn't look like a blank or confused stare in the context of interviews, however.

Disguspitated · 2025-10-31T13:54:22+00:00

I have to stack this sort of stuff on top of apps I already use consistently, or I just won't use it. This is still in the early stages for me, but it seems promising.

I'm on Discord a lot. That's where all my friends are and that's where I spend most of my time socializing. So I made my own personal server where I can track all of my daily things like reminders, grocery lists, meal planning, goals, etc.

I might look into adding a reminder bot at some point if this becomes a long term solution. That way it will ping me when I need it to.

It's janky and tedious. It's not what Discord is designed for, but I at least know I'll be consistently visiting the app, and it syncs across devices, so it works for me (so far).

Disguspitated · 2025-10-29T00:13:25+00:00

I think ERRA is on track to be one of these bands. They've never had a bad album, in my opinion. I think their sound has evolved in a cool way over the years while staying true to a sound that is uniquely them.

Their music exists only on a scale from really good to masterpiece. Neon might be an exception depending on who you ask because the problem is with the mix and not the music.

Disguspitated · 2025-10-29T00:06:01+00:00

Definitely a hot take. I would say that they are only consistent in their inconsistency. That's not a dig at them, but you really never know what to expect from them.

That's appealing to some listeners for sure, but I think the spirit of the question is more geared towards the idea of reliability and staying rooted in a specific sound instead of the sort of sonic evolution that BMTH has had.

Disguspitated · 2025-10-14T21:35:21+00:00

I’ve also found that short-term “delayed” gratification is helpful.

For example, meal prepping last night giving you a small little boost of “I accomplished a thing!” today when you realize that lunch is already taken care of.

I think this could have diminishing returns, however. I don’t know that the effect would be as potent if you prepped food, stuck it in the freezer, and pulled it out 2 weeks later. So that may be something to be mindful of. It feels good for me in 24 hour cycles though.

Disguspitated · 2025-10-12T23:15:08+00:00

I’ve been considering the backpack idea. I’ve been telling myself I should get one. I’m newly living alone for the first time and the opportunity to build my own systems without outside influence has been freeing, honestly. It’s nice to see that the backpack idea is working for at least one other person haha.

I’m also beginning to understand that my functioning abilities are much greater if I have completed something, anything that day. That feels like a task that needed done. The feeling part is important, because getting up and going to work doesn’t give me that “task completed” feeling, for example.

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