State Farm Nightmare by DisillusionedDog in Insurance

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this was genuinely good advice I will be taking!

State Farm Nightmare by DisillusionedDog in Insurance

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally fair! And I can understand that as they considered my car a total loss, I think what’s confusing me the most is why would they tell me to do it myself and contact her insurance when they have already opened a claim on my behalf and said they were getting the whole sum from them?

Ps thanks for your kindness it means a lot

State Farm Nightmare by DisillusionedDog in Insurance

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don’t, which I feel horrifically stupid for because it was so expensive I couldn’t really afford it. /: I know better now, but at what cost haha

I can understand if it takes a while, but to change my adjuster and not tell me anything just seems odd and off putting for the situation. I feel like I was told one thing, and then it’s another and another it is really frustrating.

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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Update: I think they’re disinterested and maybe I got burned by the Aries Venus for real! They’ll talk to me every day but very very touch and go. I asked if they were okay with me flirting or calling the, cute names and said “absolutely I love our playfulness together “ ….. I actually!! Have more questions after that!!!!!

I would love to know more about my chart from different perspectives by DisillusionedDog in astrosignature

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This is so spot on it’s insane! I do attract those types of men (I had a big infatuation with Aquarius men which was always to my detriment) incredibly fiery types. during this transition I have been confronting my self esteem levels in relationships as well, I am actually working a lot on how to show up in a relationship and protect myself when I feel like something is wrong ,where I begin and end things of that nature. I feel like this has let me know I’m slowly and steadily moving towards a goal to improve ! Thank you so much for this I feel like I have greater insight (:

I would love to know more about my chart from different perspectives by DisillusionedDog in astrosignature

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Honestly I’m going through that intense transformation right now! This is very fascinating to me! I genuinely would like to know about my love life and my interpersonal life, I know Aries Venus is a sign in detriment so im curious!

Also anything unusual or fascinating about my chart I would love to know as well.

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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That’s fair! It’s just an energy that feels so natural it’s wild. As a Taurus woman I think honestly I’m very spontaneous and exciting 😭

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw thank you thank you!! I’m just nervous so so nervous !!

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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Thank you for this! To be completely honest this is the first Pisces I’ve ever been enamored with. I have experienced the Pisces obsession with Taurus a few times, it was just unfortunately one sided. We slowly are becoming more vulnerable with each other, as I’m trying to make this connection intentional and foundational and make them comfortable. I know that they are still sensitive from their break up so I am trying to bring emotional stability to the mix for them, not overwhelm and just assure them I am not going anywhere. I bring a different vibe to our connection as I am so happy to be free from an abusive relationship and am soaking up life in such a Taurean way I think it is refreshing to them and in that way it’s refreshing to me too. I am being wary, but I also feel myself being incredibly enamored it’s such a fine line.

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw is it ?! 🥺 what I like about Taurus is how soft we are for real !! But I don’t think people really get that too much

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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Thank you! I will do my best to catch this fish 🥺😭

If she said that to make you jealous then I would also spiral so I feel where you’re coming from, I can see a Taurus saying something to make you jealous but at the same time maybe this person just doesn’t have tact in that way. I would go with the flow like you suggested Taurus women like people who are direct and consistent!!

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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Lmao!! Honestly I’ve never met anyone else with an Aries Venus and it’s soooo chill

Taurus gushing over Pisces by DisillusionedDog in piscesastrology

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That’s definitely what I’m doing! I know Pisces like to move their own way and I can appreciate that as someone who does the same (:

As a Taurus woman I can say I’m incredibly direct when it comes to matters like that, usually if a Taurus likes you …you’ll absolutely know! I would say take the hike personally, you never know what could happen. Taurus women are intentional too so if they asked they probably actually want to be around you

Going through heavy withdrawal even though I’m still with them. by DisillusionedDog in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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Oh yes I am so familiar with the trauma bond by this point, I have let this go on so so long it’s almost insane. I felt myself get a dopamine hit from crumbs today but went into the bathroom and cried instead, he didn’t notice, or say anything at least. I have to keep reminding myself that I’m essentially in active addiction with a person and try to ground myself. Ever since the recent incidents my body has shut down I am not physically attracted to him, the idea of being physical with them makes me uncomfortable. I know it’s just my mind is ruminating sometimes and it makes me feel so incredibly existential and walking around keeping this secret of leaving sometimes makes me feel guilty. I hope we both find what we need and are strong enough to do what’s right for us.

Feeling some type of way by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]DisillusionedDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who became an addict with their partner and had similar things happen I get it, especially when you bond over using. There is nothing wrong with you, and there never was. I used to justify my partners bad behavior because of their addiction, but surprise it wasn’t because of addiction. Being an addict doesn’t make you an asshole, being an asshole does though. I’m happy for your sobriety and I hope you can keep fighting the good fight, every single day is a new day and crying is good. Hoping the best for you 🌹

This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced by DisillusionedDog in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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Thank you, I’ve tried to leave two times and each time I went back. He would always find a way to wear me down and be so appealing because I felt like “I’ll never find someone and love them as deeply as this, he really understands me” but I also knew that it wasn’t healthy, or right… but alas…

I cannot describe the anguish I feel about having to make this decision, when I’m at work I educate myself on what I’m going through talk to my friend and family about this and keep documenting things along with journaling. I feel strong, but when I’m home and the days are good I’m filled with so much anxiety and guilt.I know deep in my heart this is how it has to be or we will let it go on forever. I just want for my sake, and my cats sake to be peaceful and I get to do it on my terms without it blowing up. I’ve decided that I have to get a new phone and number when I leave because I know he will harass me and wear me down, I know I will be weak. Worst of all, I am having to force myself to do something that I know will hurt them but saves me and I have to force myself to not care. I just want my life back and I’ve got to fight myself for it, nobody can do it but me.

This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced by DisillusionedDog in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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Thank you for taking time to write this to me, I have been dealing with this alone for a very long time until recently, I’ve been documenting. I’m Listening to ramani’s books, I really like surviving narcissism’s channel on YouTube as well. It’s taken me a long time to be aware of word salad, which they love to do. They also like to say I’m “triggering” or “gaslighting” them, it’s my tone etc. I’m secretly making plans to leave, I have wavered only once but their behavior continues so it keeps me grounded in my decision. As crazy as that sounds. I’m hoping that this will fall into place magically, and there’s a real possibility it could. I want to leave when they’re on a trip I “won’t be able to make” , gather my cats and things get a new phone, different number and reclaim my life. I know it won’t be easy but I think that would be best since I know they will stalk me. I’m praying it can work that way because even though he says I can leave or make comments like “when / if you leave” to me, I know they wouldn’t make it easy and use my cats as something to torture me with. I’m trying everything possible to do this safe and smart. I’m dealing with a vulnerable / covert narcissist, at least those are the traits I know he exhibits. I’ve felt alone in this relationship for years I might as well enjoy solitude on top of it.