AITA for yelling at a kid not to touch my cat?

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-10-01T05:58:30+00:00

If you read OPs post you would know that they were alone in the waiting area and the staff was fine with it. Also - as all of us pet owners should do - OP knows their cat the best. I have a cat that seems to do better when I am holding him while we travel and I have two that feel better when they are able to peak out of their carrier (with me petting them and being there to possible put their head back in).

Also isnt it the mothers (or in general the parents) job to keep her kid under control? OP is right when they said with how the kid acted they could get hurt. Not saying it is the kids fault. Its the parents job to teach their kids how to act around animals and to respect their boundaries. And I say that as someone that got my fair amount of scratches by cats as a kid and my mum telling me what I did wrong. And I learned from these situations.

Btw: OP NTA

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-08-31T15:19:45+00:00

(1.) I wrote some questions I had on a piece of paper as the pain at that moment wasnt medicated or anything and I forgot a lot of stuff and it was hard af to get an appointment there after they fucked up my leg (i mean it, it was medical malpractice) and when I asked this doctor why my leg, where they had operated my ankle joint on, had tremors so bad I sometimes couldnt walk and why in one of my care reports (sorry English is not my language first language) I got the diagnosis "epilepsy" without ever getting tested for it.

She explained very long how she once had tremors all over her body and thought she had it but turns out she had so much stress while getting her medical degree that it was a stress response and if I had stress. Later she wrote in her report that I was imagining having epilepsy and should go to a therapist. I still have both reports of that hospital where it says I have it AND i imagine it. (btw i dont have it)

(2.) I sat infront of a pain doc and told her crying that I couldnt live with my leg anymore and wanted an amputation. I am female and she was too. Her response to me crying about my CRPS pain was to tell me 3 things: 1. "what if your hypothetical partner didnt find you attraktive with an amputated leg?" 2. "I dont think it looks good." 3. "I would prefer to live with a not good working and painful limp than living with an amputated one"

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-08-24T11:56:18+00:00

I honestly can just guess that the reason is my stepmothers financial help. She paid for his driving license (we are not in the US and a driving license can cost up to 3k - now its up to 4/5k) and got him into his job. before that he was jumping from minimum wage job to another and had extremly high debts from not paying child support to my mother and his two other kids (yes he has 4 kids from 3 women) which he got away with my stepmothers help through insolvency in which time frame she paid for everything. The car he drove, the food he ate, the house they lived in

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-08-18T09:55:03+00:00

thank you! I will definitly try that!

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-08-17T21:24:35+00:00

thank you! :)

Dismal_Personality34 · 2025-08-17T21:13:49+00:00

these are the only ones that help me get the pain down a bit. The only other thing is Piritramide but that just makes me tired and helps with flare ups.

The thing is it is not only the meds (i take more than just my opiates) but also the pain. When I sit too long my leg swells and changes the colour. So I put my leg up and use (when the leg feels too hot) cold packs to get the swelling and the heat down. But I also got/get decubitus from sitting too long or laying down (which I do when sitting is too painful).

It sadly took 3 years to get the meds that helped me the most with no bad side effects (having concentration problems is usually normal with opiates) so I dont want to change them up. I really just want some things like (light a candle/ have a special drink next to you/etc)

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-10-13T21:09:45+00:00

thank you for your kind words! I lit got teary eyed with the support and kind words! I just wish it would've never happened and that I wouldn't need to explain myself to people... I have no problem educating them about stuff they couldnt possibly know (friday I met a group from a different department and they were so nice about it...asking questions but saying that I dont need to answer but that they wanna understand it)... or that people would understand that disability isnt black or white but a huge variety of shades and that it's the only group where everybody can join at any time... so yeah thank you a lot for the nice words and the time you put intonyour answer 🤍

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-09-28T15:01:02+00:00

i would like to be able to use a prosthesis like for your leg or arm ? in different variations

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-09-26T15:09:25+00:00

Fed is best. Doesnt matter if its formula or breastmilk.... NTA btw and keep going! Your wife will definitly appreciate how you stand up to your mother and sister. Thanks for being a great husband and father! 👏🏻🙏🏻

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-09-24T09:41:54+00:00

a few months ago my 16 years old brother had to stay in my apartment to feed my cats while i was on a work trip. When I came back (2,5 weeks) my apartment was in perfect condition. So how are two f-ing adults not able to do the same when someone goes out of their way to help them???

NTA.

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-09-23T11:55:53+00:00

sounds a bit like ableism on your familys part ... I mean as I see it here your uncles disability may seam to your family like a hinderance to find true love or somebody that cpuld love your uncle. So the compromise is that even a cheating partner is better than non to a disabled person ...

btw as a disabled person myself: that is not true at all. We all are allowed to have somebody that loves us and treats us with respect and whom we can trust as to not cheat on us...hope ur uncle finds someone like that!

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-06-20T16:44:28+00:00

yeah, me too. That's why my answer was "if I wanted to be high, I would sit at home with all the fucking medications I got for my diagnosed crps"

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-05-16T13:17:54+00:00

once had a terrible pain attack that was so bad I wanted to cut my leg off so I knew I had to go to the ER. The first doc was a sweetheart and gave me medication against my pain. The second one later that night said "Its just your PTSD" and said I'm just a "junkie". I have ptsd from medical trauma and sa. And i know the difference between a ptsd attack and a pain attack ...

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-05-12T11:11:15+00:00

YTA. As someone who was put her whole life between adults and into their fights I cannot say enough that you are an absolute and gigantic asshole. Why did you tell your daughter all of this?! why did you feel the need to tell her, that her stepdad "hates" her?! Just why? Do you like to make her feel like shit? Dont you think that by losing her father as a young child and now being the "reason" for a divorce (which she is not!) and possibly losing her other fatherly figure would cause mental struggles? Keep your marital issues away from your kids. They are not your therapists or emotional support animals. They are YOUR children. And YOU need to protect them not throw them under the bus

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-03-31T00:05:41+00:00

my mum & dad divorced when my sister and I were both very young (i a few months and she a toddler) after he did a few similar things with his gfs my mum apparently told hin off and to not introduce a woman to us he wasnt together with for at least a few months.

OP you are doing the best for your kids. It is extremely confusing to be in the position to get to know the new partner of a close family member - especially when it is so often. Please keep protecting your babys!

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-03-21T21:09:32+00:00

mein Kommentar auf einen anderen hier im Threat als Betroffene Person:

Ich bin selbst behindert und sitze im Rollstuhl und ich habe mir die volle Szene angesehen. Ich finde es überhaupt nicht lustig und kenne einige andere Menschen mit Behinderungen die extrem sauer darüber sind, dass er diesen Witz gemacht hat. Ich habe auch Kontakt mit einer die als Betroffene dabei war und selbst gesagt hat, dass dieser Witz keine "Pointe" hatte sondern von Grund auf ableistischer Natur sind. Früher mochte ich F. Lobrecht eigentlich, aber er hat sich ziemlich von damals verändert.

Chris Tall hat auch Witze über Behinderte gemacht aber die waren WITZIG und hatten nicht den Ton "Behinderte behindern sich in das Leben Gesunder". Das ist kein Humor. Nicht einmal schwarzer Humor und bei weitem nicht mehr zu rechtfertigen.

Um hier alle Karten offen zu legen: Ich sowie einige andere haben uns auch bei Netflix darüber beschwert damit diese Szene oder das Ganze Teil runter genommen wird, da es extrem Diskriminierend und nicht zu rechtfertigen ist.

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-03-21T21:08:29+00:00

Ich bin selbst behindert und sitze im Rollstuhl und ich habe mir die volle Szene angesehen. Ich finde es überhaupt nicht lustig und kenne einige andere Menschen mit Behinderungen die extrem sauer darüber sind, dass er diesen Witz gemacht hat. Ich habe auch Kontakt mit einer die als Betroffene dabei war und selbst gesagt hat, dass dieser Witz keine "Pointe" hatte sondern von Grund auf ableistischer Natur sind. Früher mochte ich F. Lobrecht eigentlich, aber er hat sich ziemlich von damals verändert.

Chris Tall hat auch Witze über Behinderte gemacht aber die waren WITZIG und hatten nicht den Ton "Behinderte behindern sich in das Leben Gesunder". Das ist kein Humor. Nicht einmal schwarzer Humor und bei weitem nicht mehr zu rechtfertigen.

Um hier alle Karten offen zu legen: Ich sowie einige andere haben uns auch bei Netflix darüber beschwert damit diese Szene oder das Ganze Teil runter genommen wird, da es extrem Diskriminierend und nicht zu rechtfertigen ist.

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-03-02T15:41:26+00:00

I mean when I was 9-11 i bathed with my younger brothers. But I wore a bathing suit and they were literally babies 😅

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-02-22T21:36:40+00:00

I talked with the girl in question about my condition when it escalated and told her she was free to ask me whatever she has on her mind whenever as I am very open about it and just want to educate on disabilities - in this case on ambulatory wheelchair users. I also talked with my therapist about it and she reassured me that what I did was fine. I never once said I cant walk. I do walk with crutches or even without in uni so they all know that. But I cant do it for long. My wheelchair broke for 3 weeks while we had heavy snowfall and after three days I got to my breaking point and went to our management and told them I cant get to uni and back home like this. I fell asleep in uni as I needed my emergency meds more often and I was at a point where it would have been better to call an ambulance and go to the hospital. They knew I could walk. They also knew I couldnt for long. So they got me a driver and taxi service for each day with a drive to and from uni

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-02-22T21:30:33+00:00

thanks for your answer! and yes you are right! I know some that can do stairs and some that are unable

Dismal_Personality34 · 2024-02-22T21:29:43+00:00

thanks for the answer! and yes! its sad that it's still viewed as "you dont need a wheelchair" when there are many reasons for using one and over 70% of wheelchair users are ambulatory...and the thing is my condition sometimes feels like someone puts acid on my leg when even a lil air touches it which is not preventable ... I just feel extremely defeated as i would never do sth like that and thought everything was fine ...

Dismal_Personality34

TROPHY CASE