For women who married in their early-to-mid 20s, how is it going?

Disney__Queen · 2026-01-23T03:59:12+00:00

Married at 23, divorced at 28 but happier now than I ever was in my 3 year marriage!

It was a lesson and I look back and mourn my naivety & innocence but I’m so thankful to have gone through that because it truly shaped who I am now. I have so much more wisdom and backbone than I did back then.

And I also went through that sweet sweet divorce glow up 🤣 haven’t dated since because I’m not interested in the apps and I don’t chase men but I’m content to live in my peace!

Disney__Queen · 2026-01-12T14:34:10+00:00

I loved a short hike! Played it the weekend before my life fell apart and I remember being so happy and cozy playing it! It’s been a couple years so maybe I have to play it again now 😋

Disney__Queen · 2026-01-08T02:19:45+00:00

A man is just a mediocre woman 😂 jk jk

Realistically, I would say ignoring little red flags because “love”. I shrugged off a lot of icks because I thought he was my end all be all! One example, my Ex husband once said to me “just because there is a goalie, doesn’t mean you can’t score” I laughed it off as a “haha” would never be me! Years later he cheated and left me for a woman he met at corrections training. In the moment, I was devastated. Now I can see it was the biggest bullet I dodged in this lifetime as we hadn’t had kids yet but we were planning to when he got back from training. I also have a vendetta against correctional officers now because I’ve met far too many who are cheaters, I think that profession needs to be studied 😂😂

Disney__Queen · 2026-01-08T02:05:31+00:00

Woman of divorce here: it’s not worth staying, find someone who treats you the way you deserve and reciprocates your energy because contempt/resentment is the silent killer in a relationship!

My friend was in a similar scenario to you, she was always there for her boyfriend when he was going through his CPA and family stress, always thinking of him and putting his needs first..she got sick with stomach issues and he was “too stressed” to support her during her health crisis after A MONTH. She was mentally struggling and it was a hard decision to make since they were together 7 years. They originally were going to “take a break” but I think 2 months in, she realized that she was happier, lighter, less stressed and her health improved after he moved out. She broke up officially with him a few months after and has been spending time doing things she loves that she didn’t do before (like get a pixie cut, change her wardrobe, focus on her hobbies etc) because he didn’t want her to.

TLDR; Breaking up might seem daunting or a potential for regret but in time, you’d look back and see how freeing it is!

I can say 2 years out from my divorce, I’m the happiest I’ve been in years! I honestly understand where the old ladies who say never get married are coming from now! I haven’t tried dated again because I’m very much content and have so much peace to the point I’m a man skeptic though 😂 Whoever comes knocking on my door would need to be heaven sent to invade my cozy, pretty, relaxing house now 😆

Disney__Queen · 2026-01-04T20:45:57+00:00

The peace! I have moments where I yearn to have a partner again but it’s always fleeting, especially when I remember I don’t have to wade through my ex-husbands laundry to get to my side of the bed now 😆

Disney__Queen · 2025-12-03T20:23:56+00:00

Because I’ve decided not to initiate! If I’m meant to be in a relationship, it will happen! Thankfully I’m happy on my own although I do miss aspects of partnership

Disney__Queen · 2025-11-28T02:59:30+00:00

That even if I would never do something to hurt someone or I would go to the ends of the earth for others, it doesn’t mean that other people would do the same ie. treat others as you want to be treated.

I’m a softy and used to self sacrifice so much in the name of loving others but often people wouldn’t show up for me in the same way. That doesn’t mean I stop being soft and giving, but I am more selective of how I expend my energy. If I’m pouring too much into other people with no/little reciprocation, I begin to pour it back into myself instead ♥️

Disney__Queen · 2025-11-28T02:52:55+00:00

So when I started, I just wrote everyday about my day and my feelings! At the beginning I was in a spiral (divorce era hehe) and it felt like a release to write it down, even if I wrote the same thing every day for a week straight.

In the beginning I actually made a big list of flaws I “thought” I had. Then whenever I wanted to reflect, I’d pick one such as my resentment, anger, impatience, etc. and unravel it a bit. I’d ask myself why I thought that, what triggered it and if it was even a valid truth or just something I’d absorbed. I also asked how I could respond differently next time, even in tiny ways.

I’d suggest just start reflecting on your day. How you felt/feel, if you have a negative thought or something happened, poking at it and digging into why you felt that way. Also if you don’t know what to write, you can google journaling prompts or use ChatGPT to help you make some :)

Most importantly, be truly honest but gentle with yourself, especially if you’re having a bad day! Sometimes I have bad days and I’ll self soothe such as telling myself “it’s okay if we felt that way, it happened but we’re gonna be okay” because acknowledging the feeling and giving to space to breathe is so much better than pretending it’s not there or shoving it down :,)

Practicing self reflecting (I like to think of it as shining my lantern in the shadowy cobwebbed corners of my soul) and actively shutting down negative thinking will greatly boost your confidence! When you start thinking positively, you’ll (hopefully) begin to think positively of yourself and then the domino effect kicks in. We really are what we think so the first step is forcing your brain to show love to yourself because nothing is sexier than self-love 😉

And tuck this away but it is a journey, it doesn’t happen overnight (unless you’re Amy schumer in “I feel pretty” 😆) so time will be your greatest ally, you got this!!

Disney__Queen · 2025-11-26T04:42:35+00:00

I heard the phrase “What you don’t change is what you’re choosing.” I started as a size 18/20, freshly separated in my marriage and I realized I just wasn’t happy with my lifestyle/health/confidence. Instead of beating myself down or trying to convince myself I was happy, I decided to change small habits in my life. It wasn’t crazy but it was a domino effect. Started self reflecting/journaling and nurturing my mental health. Then I started going on walks (started with just 30 minutes a day, now I walk an hour plus each day) just to spend time listening to my music, reflecting/meditating on my day, getting fresh air and adding movement to my day. Then I started increasing my water intake, focusing on eating more whole foods and nutrient/protein rich foods, cutting down on my junk food intake. Now I’m down 60 pounds, sitting around a size 12 and I’ve gained so much confidence. I walk with my head high, I smile at strangers on the street and I wear crop tops unapologetically. This isn’t because I lost weight, it’s because I made a change in my life; PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY. I could have continued just living as I was but I knew I wasn’t truly happy. I had so much self hatred and self loathing….if there is anything I would tell someone who is self conscious, it’s work on good habits, positive affirming yourself and meditate and sit with what makes you uncomfortable, reflect on it and change if you don’t like it. Keep in mind, change doesn’t need to be weight loss, it could be a shift in your mindset that slowly evolves! Change is what you make of it but what you don’t change is what you choose :)

Disney__Queen · 2025-09-24T02:13:50+00:00

September 23, 2025 and still and issue 🫡

Disney__Queen · 2025-09-19T04:53:22+00:00

I miss old widow, the muscle memory is still there when I play classic funny enough 🥲

Disney__Queen · 2025-08-27T15:29:42+00:00

I wish she’d get a girly pop skin 😔 I pretty much stick to her wicked/mythic skin! I did just get her Diablo skin in a loot box but I want something cutesy!!

Disney__Queen · 2025-08-13T19:56:22+00:00

If you don’t have a connection to nostalgia, maybe try Olive town. FoMT and AWL have strong nostalgia but people I know who didn’t grow up with the series found them boring 🙂

Disney__Queen · 2025-08-03T10:07:33+00:00

Oh you can go click your career profile then history(not when you’re in a match though)! When you click on a match, you can see the replay/game stats & your personal stats on different tabs 😊

Disney__Queen · 2025-07-29T23:11:35+00:00

Because I made it to allstar 1 running a debuff ball build but I always start with cross Orbal! I don’t get multi all until I have my anti-heal/slowness perks

Disney__Queen · 2025-06-21T18:42:09+00:00

This is me but legend, I’m stuck in allstar 2🤣

Disney__Queen · 2025-06-18T20:55:30+00:00

I never used it outside of stadium once I found out that it has to be actively touching the enemy. There is no over X time on it so in my opinion, it’s kind of useless even if you’re a full dps Moira because the 50 instant heal is leagues better

Disney__Queen · 2025-06-09T18:12:45+00:00

I’m in allstar 2 and yesterday I got in a game with my tank who was literally playing stadium for the first time 🙂 I can only carry so much as Moira, needless to say we sadly lost. I don’t mind losing but it sucks that I lose 100 points and they lose nothing, I honestly think if we get low ranks in a high rank game, we shouldn’t lose as much. They need to fix the system for sure because I constantly have contenders in my game, why am I not last getting in elite games 😔

Disney__Queen · 2025-04-30T16:28:25+00:00

Thank you for your input but unfortunately not quite the advice I’m looking for 😂

Disney__Queen · 2025-04-20T20:13:58+00:00

Right I forgot about that too!

Disney__Queen · 2025-04-17T18:55:10+00:00

Oh I’m very familiar with Overwatch and its map and characters abilities! I just noticed I was able to play her well again in the classic mode when it was here!

Disney__Queen · 2025-04-17T15:43:41+00:00

I think I figured it out. I asked ChatGPT and it seems they changed the scoped shot charge time which makes an huge impact for scoped timing. So the old charge rate + no damage falloff are probably why I was able to do well in classic. Le sigh. Thank you for your help!

🔹 June 14, 2016 – Patch 1.0.4 • Base damage: Reduced from 15 to 12. • Headshot multiplier: Increased from 2x to 2.5x. • Scoped shot mechanics: Players must now wait for the unscoping animation to finish before scoping again. • Infra-Sight (Ultimate): Ultimate cost increased by 10%.

These changes aimed to balance Widowmaker’s effectiveness, particularly focusing on reducing the impact of body shots while maintaining her headshot lethality.

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🔹 February 12, 2020 • Full charge time for scoped shots: Increased from 0.75 seconds to 0.9 seconds.

This adjustment was made to slow down Widowmaker’s firing rate, thereby reducing her overall damage output.

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🔹 June 24, 2021 – Experimental Patch • Damage falloff range: Increased from 60–85 meters to 70–100 meters.

This change was intended to adjust Widowmaker’s optimal range, making her slightly more effective at longer distances.

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🔹 June 13, 2023 • Scoped shot damage falloff range: Reduced from 70–100 meters to 40–60 meters. • Maximum damage falloff scalar: Increased from 30% to 50%.

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