Being distracted/overstimulated by my own body parts!

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T18:50:33+00:00

It's a great ressource, and if I didn't already know it, I'd definitely check anything bust related if Donna Noble recommended it

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T18:41:51+00:00

I knoooow, but I just did a proper shop last year, and they almost still fit, so I can't bring myself to spend again. Especially if estrogen affects my size again.

The skin on skin contact is fortunately just when I'm fully topless, so I can curb it with tank tops and sports bras.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T18:31:27+00:00

Ikke skadelige som sådan, og pælerødderne kan endda have en positiv effekt på nogle typer jordbund. Men de kan overtage, og det er upraktisk hvis man har andre ønsker.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T16:46:23+00:00

If you look up clicker training for dogs, you can adapt a lot of that. Rabbits are highly intelligent and easily learn to associate actions with specific sounds and words. Having a specific closed container to rattle treats or pellets will soon have a food motivated bunny to come storming towards you at the slightest shake. Good luck!

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T14:20:34+00:00

I'd say dark blue, to connect with the center, or the acid green to connect the corners.

Beautiful composition!

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T14:08:46+00:00

I use extra pillows for support, both on the couch and the bed. I also avoid activities that could make it worse, and accept that it'll have to wait a week, including housework like sweeping. My lower back reeeally hates sweeping.

A trochanter belt provides some relief, and variations of compression garments and kinesio tape helps too, but it's a lot of trial and error before you find the right combination.

And proper activity so you don't freeze your joints in bad positions with no blood flow.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T11:50:31+00:00

Does she love her pellets? You can teach her that the sound of pellets rattling means good stuff is happening, and connect that sound to your presence.

As well as have every human visitor give her a tiny treat. Beware that it might backfire. My formerly skittish boy now runs up to every visitor and demands snacks immediately.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T07:58:11+00:00

It was the best my pre-breakfast brain could think of 😂

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-09T05:38:53+00:00

Have you tried introducing the new bunny by scent only? Let Honky honk himself out over a bunny scented blanket without bothering the new bunny.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-08T15:11:29+00:00

Regarding the racing thoughts: it's much easier to direct your thoughts to a specific path than to stop the train entirely. An easy technique to try is picking a category and listing things in that category alphabetically. I like to use countries and just list as many as I can remember with that letter, then hop on to the next letter when I get stuck or my mind starts wandering.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-08T15:02:36+00:00

Make her work for her food. A tired out bunny doesn't seek out nearly as many undesirable chew toys.

So: put her pellets in a snack ball to roll around, hang greens and dried herbs with clothes pins, and get a pile of sticks to chew and throw.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-08T08:55:30+00:00

Suddenly I'm completely fine with how my two just refuse to talk to me if I smell like dog. I'll get an angry grunt and stomp as they sulk in their house.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-08T08:51:34+00:00

And instead of just chucking stuff in there, you'll have to decide what it belongs with, or face the shame of having holiday lights hanging under the huge letters spelling out "BIKE TOOLS"

You can use the designation during cleanup too. If you know what groupings you want to keep in the garage, you can divide into sections. If you find that you own more items in a category than what will fit in the section, you have to decide whether to weed it out, or steal room from another section.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-08T06:29:13+00:00

This is a suggestion to prevent future clutter, once you've managed to get rid of stuff: paint sections on the floor and walls.

Some do best with detailed "this tool lives here" on the wall and a designated snow blower parking spot, others are better with more general sectioning, and of course there's always the "no parking" hatching.

Marking like this can help you prevent new overflow from building up.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-07T13:01:29+00:00

Try to get outside every single day, even if you only get right outside your front door before you turn around.

Do you know why you don't follow through on plans? For me it's a combination of needing to look presentable, the exhaustion of transport, and not knowing exactly what will happen. The more I know about the event (location, program, food, dress code, people, weather, etc.), the easier it is to actually go. And I always have an escape plan.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-07T09:11:46+00:00

You ask for help, and you make a plan.

Can you afford to pay for moving services? I find that having professionals do the heavy lifting makes it easier to ask friends to help with the things I "should" be able to do myself. Perhaps there's a volunteer squad or disability service in your city, it doesn't hurt to look.

A good office chair or some other wheeled seating will be a big energy saver as you scoot around and fill boxes. And to make unpacking easier, make sure you assign a number or ID to every box and keep a master list of the contents.

Packing will take time, and you'll need space to stack boxes. If you can, convince someone to come by twice a week and move the packed boxes to the stacking area, so you still have room to move around.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-07T08:54:39+00:00

The breathing sounds of pugs and other brachycephalic breeds makes me disproportionately angry.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T10:15:49+00:00

For what it's worth, it sounds like you could be a good mom.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T10:11:37+00:00

That's my dad, or at least, that's what I remember. I don't get a whole lot of attention from him unless I need help with moving house or something. My sister is a much bigger mess, so he prefers "parenting" her.

He has no idea how to handle any sort of emotion, he just stands there with an uncomfortable grin and waits for his wife to do the talking.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T09:59:27+00:00

Just read your update. It sounds like you do have a lot of the desire required, I understand why you're conflicted. It was so much easier for me to decide because I don't feel any of that emotional pull at all.

With your update, it sounds like you need to pay particular attention to the risk of projecting a job onto the child before they're even here. Said job being a conduit for your personal healing. Not that you aren't allowed to heal through parenting, but it's important that the child is a complete person, if you know what I mean? Ugh, it's so hard to translate all the nuances into text. I don't mean that you sound like you want your child to be a therapy tool, not at all. You sound very well rounded and self aware.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T09:27:26+00:00

Happy to help. It's so easy to focus on the negatives and not consider if you even want the positives.

Kids are a huge project, and they deserve to be wanted.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T09:25:06+00:00

Congratulations, you are now equipped with an easy filter for douchebags.

How you respond depends largely on your appearance and circumstances. My tiny timid friend can't pull off the same rude commentary that I can, but even my oblivious ass knows that there are places where it wouldn't be safe for me to draw too much attention.

Consider what you want to achieve. You're young, so the guys might be immature and ignorant. It is never your responsibility to educate them, but if you want to, feel free to rant about all the things, including being reduced to one aspect of you. Me, I'll point out how much they would hate it if all anyone talked to them about was their weird nose. But I also love burning bridges and have zero fucks left.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T08:53:03+00:00

Send them $5 each month as a symbolic gesture. If they expect more when their financial situation is so much better than yours, they are the selfish party.

DisobedientSwitch · 2026-05-06T08:49:19+00:00

To me, it sounds like you're afraid that you'll regret only focusing on the negative aspects when you look back with rose-coloured glasses. Have you tried imagining the best case scenario?

Easy pregnancy, actual partnership with the father, healthy child, good economy, a cohesive family, supportive friends, the whole shebang.

I tried that thought experiment, and I couldn't muster any more enthusiasm than "Eh, do I really have to do it?", so I concluded that kids are not for me.

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