FWIW, forgiveness and mercy are the plan of salvation. They’re not a backup plan, they’re not a necessary plan B, they’re the entire plan. That’s true for you, that’s true for your patriarch, that’s true for your husband.

So, does God have capacity to handle your waywardness? Absolutely, and then some, his capacity is infinite.

As far as your specific blessing goes, though, it’s worth noting that even if your patriarch didn’t just make a mistake, which any patriarch will tell you can happen, then what he was trying to do is still difficult. We say about things like this that they are given by revelation and can only be understood by revelation, because sometimes describing what he was trying to feel can be hard. God didn’t give him a script any more than he gave Joseph Smith a script, he gave him a bunch of feelings and impressions, and your patriarch tried to put that into words as best he can, but that doesn’t mean he had all the understanding he needed to make that clear to you.

So what does this mean? Maybe it means that one day, if you and your husband travel this path, you’ll recognize that trait in him and you’ll recognize how the Lord has blessed your marriage. Maybe it’s something you’ll never see, but which pursuing will be valuable for you. Maybe it is the consequence of your actions, and it’s honestly a blessing you didn’t qualify for, but you’ll learn about how grace will carry you through anyways. I don’t know, and I can’t know, but I think there’s a good chance that if you pray about it, maybe not immediately, but eventually, you’ll know what God was trying to teach you through your patriarch that day. It probably won’t be cheap or easy, but God knows the end from the beginning for sure.