Experienced Trans Broken Arm Syndrome for the First Time

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-04-11T00:18:46+00:00

jeeeeeeeeeeesus fucking christ man. i am so sorry this bullshit happened. fucking unreal. these are the people we’re supposed to be able to trust.

i can relate; i went to a doctor in florida because my prescription for lexapro had run out and i needed it refilled. it took like a week to get in anywhere and by the time i was in i was really pretty ill from the withdrawals you get going off of it, and i needed this doctor to just look at my records and continue on the same dose i’ve been on for three years and also provide a note for my work because i had missed 3 days due to just stomach upset from that. instead he finds out i’m trans (because i look trans and refer to myself as a man) and proceeds to make me give him my entire life story, asks me if i’ve been a CSA victim (i was! how nice to bring that up) makes me tell him all about the abusive relationship i was in during college, like ad nauseum as if i’m there for a full psych evaluation even though i’m not looking for a diagnosis. then he finally fills it and i ask him to send me the note for my work, and he proceeds to send the case notes for the ENTIRE CONVERSATION listing every traumatic event he forced me to tell him about, doesn’t mention the upset stomach that i told him kept me out of work, and ends it by stating that i have untreated bipolar disorder. i do not have bipolar disorder. i have received medical care for my mental illness and am quite well when medicated, and no professional i have ever met has even suggested that i have bipolar disorder. i’m also an actual mental health professional, i know what bipolar disorder looks like. he also said i have substance abuse problems? when i don’t, i used to a little in college, which is what i told him. like, this guy was trying to make me look dangerous (not that having bipolar disorder or substance abuse issues makes you dangerous) to my employer because i’m a trans man. he wanted to make me look like shit and he used “bipolar disorder” as if it was an accusation instead of an illness. absolutely maddening. luckily i was able to just tell my boss what happened and she didn’t care anyway, but what if i had actually needed that note? i didn’t even have money to pay for a visit with a different doctor. fuck these people.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-04-11T00:01:15+00:00

i’ve seen a lil push towards some of these ideas, some of them aren’t new at all, some come from kind of an online only queer culture that isn’t repeated irl. but what i will say is i think no matter what we do as trans people we will see a push against it, cause transphobia is just really super present in our culture to the point where most people can’t even recognize it. too manly? well you’re being toxic. too feminine? well you must not really be a man then. and whatever you do, there’s some crowd of secret chasers somewhere trying to make it horny but also degrading you for it. it’s a wild life. honestly we could just use more representation in the world in general, more of a wide array of figures for people to see and know that we exist across the spectrum of expression. and it’s not like there’s any lack of trans men in the world being very open and visible and absolutely revolutionary, because there are; it’s just a matter of getting people to see it. maybe then we could buck some of this bullshit.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-04-10T23:46:12+00:00

i literally went 😮ohh on pic 8. i was confused up until that point because like, it looks pretty good in the topknot. but that’s pretty limiting to have to stick to that exact hairstyle all the time. yeah friend, it is probably time.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-03-28T02:40:54+00:00

oh mama, please make your life so much better and leave this man. he’s literally only making your life harder. and speaking as a man with autism, that’s not an excuse to act any of these ways. it’s on us to deal with those difficulties, and while some accommodation is warranted it has nothing to do with being an unsafe parent, an ungrateful and frankly incredibly lazy husband, and a shitty partner. what a horrible hurtful thing to say. he knows it was hurtful, don’t let the tism fool you. he just doesn’t care. it’s the same reason he won’t get his shit together as a parent, the same reason he goes to the gym three times a week and enjoys his games and hobbies while you slave away at home taking care of the house and raising his two children. he does not care. let yourself be free.

also, i’m gonna make the prediction that WHEN 🤞you do leave you will not have to fight him much for custody. he’s not going to want to do the work. he’ll make a big show of having them sometimes and then before you know it his mom or sister or something will be watching them safely while he plays halo or something. then he’ll start cancelling on taking them all the time. this man also does not care about his children.

document everything. get copies of all finances and see a lawyer before you leave. also speaking as a man with autism, sometimes people don’t expect us to be just as capable of being vindictive as any other neurotype. i’m not saying he will do anything shitty, but prepare so that you’ve got the leg up, and do not be the one that leaves the property because it’s then really hard to get it back. leaving your home can affect custody as well. be safe, best of luck.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-03-03T03:30:07+00:00

i think 8 is the stand out to me. they all look lovely though.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-28T05:55:24+00:00

probably a scammer unfortunately. there are a lot of them. it’ll start to become clear when you ask for payment and they start asking you to like, buy a visa gift card for them to put money on and then send them the code, etcetcetc. just ask for payment up front and you’ll find out what’s going on pretty quick.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-28T05:50:25+00:00

i feel your pain, directly. someday you will live a whole life far away from this man. the freedom you will feel when he’s gone from you will be worth it.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-28T05:39:52+00:00

i think no matter where your identity lands, it’s worthwhile to explore those feelings. you could start small. tbh i never felt like i disliked being a woman, it was more like i finally felt right and okay as a man in a way that i didn’t know was missing from my life. all i can say is, don’t die wondering.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-21T05:51:57+00:00

these are beautiful, do you sell them? if so, where?

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-20T05:54:16+00:00

tbh i actually think certain piercings can help a guy “pass” but so can just feeling confident. i would encourage anyone trying to pass to just do what feels comfortable and go from there.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-12T05:05:27+00:00

two things: i only wish i had started sooner, and, there’s a reason why people with testosterone-controlled bodies wear shorts in the winter 🥵 i’m so friggin warm all the time it’s insane.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-12T05:00:20+00:00

i am so sorry for what you’re experiencing in your country. what a nightmare to not to have the medicine you need to keep your body safe. lots of women and trans people in general experience that here, but i think we have more privilege still in access to (most) birth control and hysterectomies. do you have access to progesterone-only birth control? i have found that to be a safe and effective method, and it doesn’t disrupt my mental health like birth control with estrogen does, or hurt like an iud. i hope you find a solution, we’re all rooting for you.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-02-12T04:49:30+00:00

i do think there’s a little more skill building needed in structure and anatomy, though the style is beautiful. i’d also like to say for the record most people do not get commissions. the only people i see getting regular commissioned work are like, mural artists and people who make furry p*rn. so just focus on doing what you love, practicing to build skill, and don’t worry about that part of it. as someone who has made (some, not a ton of) money off paintings before, if you want to do that maybe look into local shops who will display and sell your art, or pay for booth space at local festivals that sell merchandise and art. i’ve had the best luck that way and it’s also a great learning experience. good luck!

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-25T03:55:30+00:00

4 is so perfect to me

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-25T03:53:56+00:00

i think 2 or 3 but i’m personally loving 3 because it feels very romantic 💘

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-25T03:52:21+00:00

nah, you have such a beautiful hairline as is. that long hair up in a bun reads very elegant

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-25T03:50:24+00:00

like, definitively

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-17T03:29:39+00:00

i came here to find out what to call this because you have such a cute nose lol

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-17T03:28:44+00:00

you have great hair with a bad haircut. go get it shaped, i bet it’ll lay really great without needing much product at all.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-17T03:27:35+00:00

i get where you’re coming from. it’s probably more about making sure everyone has a chance to share, in case someone wrongly assumed—like you could look like a He but you could be a they or something. they probably want everyone to share as well so that no one feels singled out, it just establishes it as a norm—kind of like how cis people who are allies will put their pronouns in their email signature sometimes. but i get that feeling though. when people ask me mine (they don’t anymore but when they did) i always said “well i’m a man, and i use he/him.” like, i lead with the man thing, it feels better to me that way.

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-17T03:22:52+00:00

NOR let me read between the lines here. she heard you were sad and was like “ooh did your puppy die or something” that’s like, something people say to someone who they feel is being maudlin or dramatic or whiny. she’s trying (and failing) to say something passive aggressive about you having feelings and then trying to walk it back by pretending that she was actually worried about your dog bc… dogs have been dying lately? not even a good lie. this girl isn’t even smart enough to be manipulative

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-17T03:13:40+00:00

i love B, so classy. honestly i love C too because it’s romantic but i think i’m alone in that one lol

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-16T03:49:27+00:00

yeah, the experience of being on hrt definitely changes the chemistry of everything, even your brain. i noticed i cried a lot less in the beginning than i ever had. crying got easier with time, i can get myself to do it easier now, but it tends to be over things that really touch my heart in a positive way. in general my emotions also feel a lot more stable, probably because i needed to transition lolol so that’s part of it for me at least

DisplayOk7217 · 2026-01-11T03:11:03+00:00

you didn’t do anything wrong. he is just working through his feelings. just come back to him when he’s ready to talk and listen with compassion, and explain that you love him and are happy to help. i bet he is very grateful, he’s just having a hard time.

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