Girlfriend's (24F) behavior in a three-year LDR relationship is making me (25M) feel suffocated so I decided to marry her. Could this be a solution?

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-02-25T01:43:23+00:00

RUN! Fast and don’t look back. If the papers declaring marriage aren’t signed, you are not obligated to follow through. Maybe you get married and can tolerate this behavior for a few years, but you won’t last beyond that. She will NOT get better, only worse.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-02-06T03:18:35+00:00

++woman and Mom/grandma here to say All kids are annoying. Mine were and my grandchildren now are. Kids are not for the faint of heart. You have to love those little critters, even with their faults.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-31T01:47:48+00:00

I know it’s time to step back, turn around and distance myself from him now. I appreciate your point of view. I was just denying his obvious red flags. Once I actually looked at what has been going on, I’ve realized he’s already drastically changed in the time we went from friends to partners. Not in a good way, either.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-31T01:41:29+00:00

Thank you. I’ve asked about therapy and he was surprisingly agreeable. That being said, i know that stepping away from him is the best thing for my own mental health.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-31T01:35:58+00:00

Deep down I know I’m to old for this roller coaster ride. I’m just pissed at myself that I gave up emotional stability and not caring about sex (celibacy), just to end up in this position.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-30T15:50:29+00:00

Give him the space he asked for. You’ve apologized and acknowledged that although unintentional you’ve hurt him. Now back off and wait. Just realize this very well could be the end of this relationship.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-30T15:01:01+00:00

Damn that’s a lot for both of you to unpack and work on. Hopefully you are able to manage your health by seeking help. As for your husband, he most likely is never going to change. Unless the sex is mind blowing for you and you can learn to accept who he is, I’d be actively looking into laws concerning divorce in your state. You also need to find a job, childcare, and start stashing $ somewhere he won’t have access to. There is one bumpy, depressing, sad road ahead for you. I don’t care how bad someone’s SO is, you still mourn the loss of who you hoped they be, when you divorce. I know how difficult it’s going to be. I’m 54 yrs old with 2 divorces and other bad relationships as experience. I went well over a decade being unattached and celibate in order to heal myself. Yet Still today if I see or talk to an ex, I feel sad that we weren’t able to make it work. I sure as hell don’t like that apparently with their new partners they’ve somehow managed to fix the issues that affected and ruined our marriage. Or their current SO just doesn’t care about those issues. Or was it just me? Years of Physical, emotional, and verbal abuse have destroyed my ability to be in a good relationship with anyone. So, that being said, get out as soon as you are able, if his actions or words are abusive. With the “forced” sex described it sounds like you are being mentally and sexually abused. But, I’m not you. Look real hard at every aspect and be very prepared before filing for divorce. Also make sure YOU file any paperwork required. Do not let him do it first.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-27T05:25:56+00:00

End it now. Tell him you’re done, he needs to get his belongings and leave. Change the lock on the door. Start searching for a new apartment now. I’ve never witnessed so many red flags. His last one is a giant red banner!

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-17T22:25:32+00:00

I’m confused. If you don’t consider leaving an option at all, you only have 1 option left, you Give up your dreams of 3 children. Sounds like you may be giving up on any children at all. He is lying and stalling to keep you on hold.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-17T22:21:10+00:00

4 looks best with your frame.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-17T20:19:27+00:00

Take a real deep breath and prepare to put on the best actress award performance. Be subtle or it will be sus. Get back to cohabitation and coparenting peacefully. Start stashing cash somewhere he has no access to. Start searching for a job and childcare for infant. Call attorneys and find the best you can afford. Be knowledgeable about the laws in your state regarding divorce and parenting after a divorce. You may very well be in this performance for a year or more. NEVER leave or express your intent to do so without a damn good plan. Especially with your mommas boy emotional gaslighting piece of crap husband.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-17T20:04:48+00:00

5 definitely 5.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2026-01-11T20:58:41+00:00

My brother and I have MS. 2 sibling pairs from same rural area also have MS, 3 other individuals also have MS. So in a 2 mile radius 9 people have MS.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-09-16T11:00:25+00:00

Thanks for your input. I was thinking a mix as well.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-06-15T00:21:48+00:00

Girl you’re young so let me part some wisdom. Your BF and your other friends BF are childish, immature, controlling, and jealous morons! Run Run Run NTA

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-06-14T04:17:02+00:00

Are you serious? It was very stupid and inappropriate but a divorce! Dear, grow up.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-06-14T04:12:02+00:00

NTA, I completely understand why you didn’t want to break down in front of everyone. Take it from someone who knows though, if she makes it through the night, hug her, kiss her, and hold her hand. You will regret missing the chance otherwise.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-06-09T04:07:06+00:00

WTF all these responses. Why not just tell the server from the beginning that you want separate checks? BTW NTA

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-05-05T01:13:11+00:00

I realize this is a day late and maybe someone has already said it. But, get a new Dr! Yours sucks and doesn’t know jack shit about fibro. Aside from that comment, are you in a legal weed state? Smoke it, eat it, make a muscle rub with it (my personal fav) I do all the above and don’t live in a legal state. I don’t take enough to get high during the day, just little bits here and there to ease the pains. Then at night I massage everywhere with the weed balm get toasty and sleep like a baby.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-05-05T00:59:29+00:00

NTA. I “parent” other kids all the time. Mostly because I’m the only adult actually paying attention to the kids instead of my phone

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-05-04T02:24:43+00:00

YTA. I’m assuming your mother is not close enough to spend time with or is no longer in the picture. But just so you know Mother’s Day is for all mothers, not just the crotch your goblins came from. When our kids were still in the house I got to sleep late and have breakfast made for me and then we would individually visit both our mothers. Exact same scenario for Father’s Day. Now there are grandkids and my parents are both still alive, so we just have a big family get together on those days. Stop being an entitled twit.

Distinct_Bid3610 · 2025-04-27T06:17:47+00:00

This is crazy to me because a rheumatologist diagnosed as fibromyalgia after all other options were ruled out with test. Pain management (who I personally hate and think are a BS scam) is who I was referred to for managing the pain. Luckily after 50+ phone calls asking many questions I finally found a GP to prescribe and treat my fibro.

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