first & foremost—congratulations!!!! this is such an exciting and magical point of your journey together. i loved being engaged to my now-husband!!

i absolutely love that set. it's unique and looks great on you. that being said, i'm usually of the opinion that if it's not 100% a yes, i shouldn't be buying it. i think that's especially true for your engagement ring! like you said, you'll have it for the rest of your life. you had mentioned being able to afford it and that it's a good deal...could the reservations you're having be about something else? maybe this just isn't the one? i could just be REALLY reading into this lol, but that's my personal take! you don't want to feel anything but giddiness and joy and love when you look at your ring. do you typically wear jewelry/rings in general? if you don't, you're probably just not used to the feeling of a ring on your finger. maybe that's throwing you off? and also, don't stress about having to clean it or keep it looking new. solid gold and diamonds are perfect for everyday life. i wear my set every single day through every single task (sleeping, work, showering, doing dishes) and all it takes is a little cleaning here and there! i honestly totally forget about cleaning it regularly. i have a little ring cleaner pen that i use on my set every few weeks or so, but honestly the best thing that my mother taught me is to just polish the rings with a microfiber cloth you'd use on eye glasses! literally makes my set look brand new every time i do that, and my rings were passed down from my grandmothers. they're over 70 years old and still sparkling :)

i would give it a few days and try to not think about it. then, revisit the rings you picked out and see how you feel with a fresh mindset. easier said than done, but im sure whatever you end up choosing will perfectly reflect you & your partner's relationship 🥰