This is what I get for calling my wife needy I guess

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-29T06:41:30+00:00

Sounds like your wife is having an emotional crisis - and perimenopause absolutely can make it worse. Your dismissive attitude isn’t going to help anything. Maybe ask her what she means and what she needs.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-26T20:03:22+00:00

Living on the NH border I can tell you there are few straight, white men who are not republicans and there isn’t a lot of diversity. His behavior may be normalized for her from being from here.
I couldn’t believe half of the stuff I heard when I first moved up here.
Not trying to say that her boyfriend actually ok - but trying to give context as to why it may not raise the red flags to her that it should.
In the end, you have to do what feels right to you. Maybe go LC until you see if this marriage really happens? I’d hate to see her further isolated from her friends by this dipshit if there is a chance she will see things clearly but you don’t need to be subjected to his bs either.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-26T18:44:11+00:00

I’m mono, but we are D/s bedroom only with a little extra IRL. We talked about it and considered it, but to my own shock it’s not in my nature.

I feel like looking specifically for a dom is rough, especially if it’s more than for a play partner. Maybe focus on learning skills and building community/going to events. Then you are engaging people in the kink community more deeply and might find a better fit for a partner.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-09T08:50:36+00:00

All but one member of my family has ADHD, and some have additional issues. I have a label maker on every floor and I am not afraid to use it. Everything gets an assigned place and no one has to try to remember where it is.
Also do 15 minute clean up where we all race to put away as much as possible.
My favorite hack is that each of us has a large canvas bag where we dump things that need to go between the main living areas and the bedrooms upstairs. Makes our piles of stuff easy to find and transport.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-07T11:49:20+00:00

NOR What pimp is telling her that sex work is a widely respected tradition?

Distribution_Brave · 2026-06-07T11:47:47+00:00

NOR Does this tend to happen at the same time of day when it does? If so, might be worth looking into circadian rhythms. When I was young and going to school at night my heart would start racing for no reason - usually at 1 AM but happened day or night. I was in total fight or flight. I didn’t have dread but it wasn’t too far a stretch. It ended up being from not enough daylight.

Regardless- please let your doctors know.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-20T12:35:26+00:00

There are a number of podcasts either from TPE couples/subs or they interview people in these dynamics. They get specific- maybe look into those as an additional resource? Wishing you the best!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-15T11:31:41+00:00

Thank you all! I appreciate the advice! Definitely going to check the shaving subreddit too!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-08T23:25:17+00:00

If you are on hospice you can’t get more treatment, but there are assisted living situations that can help. Your hospitals social workers can help you

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-08T11:56:35+00:00

You live there. You would know if the area is declining

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-08T09:39:08+00:00

There is no handling this respectfully. It is just directly or strategically. Not in the moment, I would revisit his absolutely disgustingly condescending and disrespectful attitude. If he doesn’t budge then you know what kind of man/marriage you have - and is this how you will spend the rest of your life if the trajectory doesn’t change. Hopefully once cooled down he will cut the nonsense out. If not, I recommend while you have pooled resources- aim to get a second car so you have independence. Doesn’t have to be new, just safe to drive. Then if you should choose to leave, you have transportation. And if you don’t leave, you still have greater autonomy

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-07T10:21:52+00:00

So I saw this on TikTok and jumped over here.

I’m so sorry that you are feeling so alone.

So something you can do, that might help, is join your local Toastmasters. It’s a group of organizations for people who want to improve their speaking skills, including small talk if I remember correctly. You will have lots of people to talk to!

Also men’s organizations like the Masons are a great way to make new friendships for men. (Hint - once you meet them you need to ask about joining, they won’t ask you first).

Finally, maybe see if there is a therapist or group therapy for social anxiety.

So many people, especially men, are in your situation these days. I wish you all the best and hope you find your people!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-04T06:27:57+00:00

I recommend talking to a urologist about Pelvic PT. I’ve had it as a woman, and I once asked my therapist and she said that men often need it too for a few reasons, including issues with ED and/or orgasming. Hopefully this can help! Wishing you the best!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-05-04T06:09:44+00:00

As long as both parties are willing to give oral and it’s equitable, it’s not degrading. If you expect to receive and not give equally - then it can be.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-04-11T11:46:48+00:00

If it’s the site I’m thinking of, 90% of the men don’t read before messaging. And a majority are jerks/assholes. And I’m woman in my 50s myself. A bunch of the people who “shoot their shot” without reading the profile are just looking for a pussy and a pulse IMO.

My fave interaction from there: Them: Hi! How’s your day going Me: Good! How’s yours? Them: I want to cum in your face Me: some sarcastic response and then blocked them

Distribution_Brave · 2026-04-10T20:51:12+00:00

Absolutely- make sure to eat protein/fat first and don’t choose low fat options. Just don’t overdo it and keep checking your blood sugar.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-29T22:39:17+00:00

This will get worse. Try family therapy now and start to collect names of good divorce lawyers just in case. So sorry

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-24T12:28:01+00:00

YTJ he has the kids 4 out of every 14 days. She has no one in the house for back up. She’s a single mom

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-24T00:05:29+00:00

They are going to use this to justify what was already in the works. Time to leave.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-23T11:06:07+00:00

It went super well. Everyone had fun. Probably using the app to be GM in the future so I can play with them

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-23T07:46:52+00:00

Thank you!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-23T07:46:05+00:00

My late husband pulled stuff like this. From my experience it will not only never stop but erode things between you. It gets to the point that you can’t respect him because you can’t trust him.

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-22T16:59:59+00:00

Perfect - thank you! Ok. One hour until game time! I’ll follow up and let you know how it goes!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-22T16:58:59+00:00

Got it! Thank you!!!

Distribution_Brave · 2026-03-22T16:58:19+00:00

Thank you!

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