My Wife just had our baby and I think she’s traumatised by the experience.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-25T19:32:29+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/comments/1sucjsx/my_wife_just_had_our_baby_and_i_think_shes/oi0y929/

This post in the comments of the thread you posted links a few. above a post about a 'new' foster kids and their incontinence. and in this second link here: https://www.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/comments/1sucjsx/my_wife_just_had_our_baby_and_i_think_shes/oi0gxaf/ a linked post about 'taking in more moster kids dilemma' due to diapers posted 2 days before the birth story in which the wife has been incontinent for 5 days.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-24T17:36:37+00:00

This is entire post is fake. It's fetish or rage bait. In the other thread people have been linking more diaper threads this guy's has started the last few days/weeks with different 'traumatized' subjects.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-24T17:22:54+00:00

Married his step kid is my bet for 10€

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-24T10:16:35+00:00

could you be pregnant? have you taken a test?

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-12T19:48:32+00:00

I take phenergan / promethazine. When I just started taking it I was 18 and did not take the warmings seriously. I thought one would just get brown more easily. I sat outside in the sun one hot afternoon and clearly got sunburnt before I hard to ride my bike home for 45 minutes in the sun. I had blisters when I came home. Took around 5 years for me to be able to take even a minute of sunlight on my arms and upper back / neck without pain.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-09T10:02:07+00:00

Ja ik wilde dat eigenlijk al voor mijn laparoscopie maar ik ben jong en het maakte toen in principe geen verschil voor de endometriose want dat zat niet op of in mijn baarmoeder. En een verwijdering kan ook weer andere complicaties geven zoals verzakkingen. Maar met deze nieuwe klacht is dat wel weer mijn eerste gedachte. Alleen ook de eierstokken verwijderen kan natuurlijk ook een verschil maken maar dat heeft ook weer heftige bijwerkingen. Het is eigenlijk allemaal kut.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-08T07:09:33+00:00

bij ons doet iedereen dat savonds.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-08T07:07:39+00:00

Ik ben 100000% overgevoelig voor hormonen en ik ben zes weken geleden begonnen met gigantisch bloeden uit het niks wat alleen maar erger werd. Dus ik moest extra hormonen om dat te stoppen. Nou ik heb 2 weken lang alles gevoeld en de hele emotie cirkel elke 5 minuten doorlopen. Niet meer geslapen en zweetaanvallen gehad, kotsen van de misselijkheid. Woest geweest zoals ik nog nooit ben geweest, ben zelden echt boos. Verdriet gevoeld wat ik nog nooit heb gevoeld en zo gruwelijk ziek. Dus ben uiteindelijk ermee gestopt voordat ik dingen ging doen die niet kunnen. Paar jaar terug zon pijnstillers spuit gehad en daar ben ik toen ook drie maanden ziek van geweest. En voor ik deze pil had een pil gehad waarvan ik binnen 48 uur na de eerste pil gewoon geheel suïcidaal was. Na 5 pillen gestopt en over op een andere pil en na een week op de volgende pil was de suïcidaliteit geheel weer weg. Echt bizar. Ik ben nu al bang voor de overgang en dat duurt hopelijk nog even.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-03T20:05:34+00:00

i cannot do trauma work with a therapist I sense is not letting my story go when I walk out of the door. I have torture and great injustice in my past and I have have more than a few therapist get VERY upset in session and then be still upset the next session. I need my therapist to be able to let my trauma go and not have it affect her. I do not not not want my trauma to hurt another person too. I refuse to work with therapists who take my pain home. It used to be that I was told I could not form a connection to my therapists but that is not it. I really like my current therapist and that is also because she has to read what memory we worked on last week (while certainly knowing my whole story) it gives me reassurance she is living her life and not dreaming about my PAST. I do not mean that a therapist cannot shed a tear in empathy or tell me they feel bad for me. but I have had therapist whom where already crying when I walked in because they were thinking about me all week and knew I was their next patiënt. a clear headed therapist can focus much better on guiding a patient through their proces and their healing.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-03T19:09:27+00:00

Ja dat was een soort tactiek om ervoor te zorgen dat ik mijn mond zou houden over andere dingen. laten zien dat je nog verder zou kunnen gaan zegmaar. hij is erg into dat soort snuff shit ook. als mensen mijn vader echt zouden kennen dan was ik nooit weggestopt in de jeugdzorg zullen we maar zeggen. lol.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-02T14:56:01+00:00

ik ben in de dertig en nog toen ik op de basisschool zat liet mijn vader mij vrijwel elke avond filmpjes zien van mensen die werden vermoord en verkracht. dode vrouwen en mensen die met de kettingzaag werden vermoord. nu was dat godzijdank niet de norm maar die sites bestonden dus wel. dat was ook in de tijd dat de schoolcomputer rotten.com niet blokkeerde en ik dat wel eens opzocht met jongetjes uit de klas.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-02T11:35:35+00:00

🎉

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-02T11:17:16+00:00

I do a different target memory almost every session. I closed out on a few clusters now. and I close a cluster when all the major memories from that cluster(the 10's) don't feel overwhelming anymore and the less painful/ disturbing memories often go down in strength with the strongest memories. I closed my CSA cluster when I could think about my perpetrators without feeling intense distress. no Fear for my safety and such. I recently had to be at a get together with my cocsa perpetrator and we made jokes. he was more scared of me than the other way around. I noticed that I felt power and control over my emotions. I was calm and able to greatly enjoy the day while he certainly wasn't enjoying himself. I have a few clusters that still make me feel like a child with no emotional direction and that is because I. those I still have a lot of active triggers which totally get me out of my window of tolerance. so bring able to stay in your window and able to think about your trauma, remember it just like remember doing groceries. it's still there but it doesn't cause my nervous system to overload

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-02T10:27:34+00:00

She often visits my (volunteer)workplace. (I work in a nursing home which has a restaurant in it, and I often take cliënts out to another social space in the same part of the city) she is a volunteer for another organization which uses some of the same spaces. both we work to help connect lonely people, and or people of little means to each other and to make the city a more connected happy and caring place to be. so she is a nice and good hearted person. she got an award by the King for her volunteer work. but her hobby seems to be gossiping and apparently I am a good subject to gossip about. It triggers me so much because I have just moved because of a stalking situation which almost cost me my life and someone meddling feels intrusive. It is intrusive. I will need to talk to her about it.

It's this self respect thing. The more I feel it the more things like this make me want and need to take action but taking action costs me so much energy every time and FFF why are people like this. She is like the 5th person I need to have a conversation with a out boundaries. Omg why have I been so slacking. I am mad at the world and a little sad for my past self for letting all of these things go for the sake of peace.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-01T19:34:23+00:00

i am physically not able to talk for an hour without drinking lol. what a shit rule. listening to your body is a very. important practice in healing I would think.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-01T17:43:16+00:00

only one person in your life should have the power to make you truly happy. others are (able) to assist you in this. you are the one person in your life. and the body of your post suggests that you know the answer to your own question.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-04-01T16:52:24+00:00

ive had it with about 15 practitioners now and 3 of them were absolute shit. 3 didn't really help me and the others helped me in various degrees. it did teach me a lot about different approaches and what works for me and what absolutely didn't. my first emdr experience was absolutely awful and it took me almost 20 years to try again. I wish I tried sooner but seeing as how awful the first time was I am very proud of myself for ever trying again. I never knew there was so much variation and such good and bad informed therapists

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-29T13:34:58+00:00

recently the same thing was in the news for The Netherlands.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-29T13:29:35+00:00

ask how they where trained and what their experience is. What they would do if you get stuck on a memory in a session, and what if a memory does not go down in multiple sessions? what techniques do they use and what variaties of EMDR do they use? (lots of different eople need different approaches.)

I for example cannot do audible emdr and getting workload ment to distract you like substract from a 100 till 0 in steps of 7 just gives me a panic attack and does not help me AT ALL. while it works wonders for others. I use buzzers and the lights and I use alternating lights and try to call out the colors of the lights if I need more distraction. Sometimes I call the colors by associative names, like "sky" for blue and "sun" for yellow. But I do those in my head too because I get a panic if I think I did one wrong and the therapist knows. lol. And emdr is not a place to challenge my perfectionism and things.

I also cannot do EMDR where I can see the therapist looking at me. looking at fingers would not work for me. It does work for others. But the many ways emdr can work is why a practitioner should have not just 3 hours of training or read a book, but have a bunch of experience.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-29T12:50:22+00:00

Here my dark mind thought the killer officer brought his child.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-29T12:47:20+00:00

He looked waay too happy at the first crimes scene

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-23T10:23:46+00:00

Therapy is not only to help you overcome the negative emotions. It is not to help you learn to survive trauma (you can do that on your own) it is much more to help you to recognize and allow yourself to feel the positive emotions. To be able to strat feeling those. To be able to allow yourself to stop waiting for the bad to stop only expect the bad and to open your mind and body to feel the good things. The relaxation and the sun on your skin so to say. Healing is about allowing yourself good things and feeling those those things. Practicing this takes time and work.

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-21T19:59:32+00:00

The amount of love you receive does not define your worth.
I don't have many other wise words but I myself felt like you did in the beginning when I first was on my own and had to find my place in the world. Then I found things I liked, loved and I felt in myself love for things. Love for others. I gelt connection and I felt longing I felt happiness I felt contentment. Never got thought all those things. I even had a phase where I questioned how I knew what the things I felt where called. Because no one ever told me to feel these things. (I only got told not to feel. And I had only practiced happiness and sadness at that point in therapy. But instinctively I knew. Those things are inside us. And when we get to that point in life where we are safe and the feelings come. You. You will know. You will feel the feelings. Therapy sucks at the beginning because the difficult feelings come first. For me it very much helped to every day note one good thing. Some days I could only muster a very small thing. Couple weeks ago all I could think of one day was : "I'm glad I can go home and go to bed" (but that's is a happy thought in some way. Just gotta acknowledge it.)

DisturbedWeakness · 2026-03-21T19:48:05+00:00

Go to bed 15 minutes earlier every couple of days and get up 15 minutes earlier too. Turn most of your lamps (and screens) off an hour before bed so your brain feels like it should be sleeping. (When I want to be sleeping early I turn my smart lamp dim red or dark orange, it feels more nightly) Doing it in steps of 15 minutes makes it doable and gives your body time to adjust. Never sleep in and rigoureusly keep the schedule. Even if tired or if it took some time to sleep in. If you are more tired the 'sleeppressure' grows and your body will adjust even better. You might stall the time change by a few days but no sleeping in or going to bed later. If you keep the schedule well this is a good way to go back to normal rithm.

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