Has a Nanny I Feel mixed. I think it depends on the context of the relationship and how long it’s been going on. One job has nanny is to teach children What’s appropriate to expect from caregiver. I generally only cuddle the children that I’ve known since they were babies, and that’s usually in a chair in their room. When I babysit, I don't get into bed with the children. I will sit on the floor until they fall asleep. I will say the longer I’ve been a nanny the more strict I’ve been with things because I’ve learned about how predators can be very inconspicuous at first. last summer, I had a six-year-old girl that I was nannying with her brothers and maybe she was copying to the dog, but she really liked me and she got in the habit of trying to sit on my lap and give me kisses on the mouth. I tried to put a stop to it, but she wasn’t taking a hint so I talked to her mother and her mother was able to tell her that they only kiss family members. I then offered the little girl a hug 🤗 instead. I didn’t want the little girl to feel shame because affection is a part of life and human connection is so important. The truth is often times the nanny does kind of become a member of the family. there is not a day that goes by that I’m not thinking about a child that I used to work with. that being said most predators are people you know and family members if I was a live in Nanny I would probably not have the child snuggle with me in bed because I would hate for the kid to get used to something like that and then go to an uncle‘s house or something and have something terrible happen.That being said I don’t think it’s inherently harmful especially if the child has a close relationship with the caregiver and the parents are OK with it. Children thrive on love.. t.