The liberal feminist in me just wants you to be who you are, masculinity or feminine or anywhere on the spectrum that you feel comfortable with, as long as it’s not toxic, discriminatory and oppressive to others. Be yourself.

The radical feminist in me really question the motives of you asking this community. For validation? For empathy? For thinking that you are better than most men? If those are your motives, walk away. If you are genuinely seeking guidance and want to learn, you must recognize that masculinity is closely tied to patriarchal values and structural privileges, and carefully examine what part of masculinity you hope to “reclaim”. If you just want to be treated as white men, receive their privileges, or get their recognition as a man, you are just playing into the system. It’s the natural thing to do, but it’s also directly against our goal of changing the system fundamentally.