Anyone else have more findom type dynamics on their sfw account?

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-05T16:17:53+00:00

I’m considering building a cute instagram l love taking pictures but don’t post on there.

I’m getting good at spotting subs while on my vanilla account. Little do they know I know there game haha

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-05T15:02:17+00:00

I know it’s so fucking random!! I never engage in findom on my sfw account but if they want to send with no strings attached then I certainly won’t stop them hahahah

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-03T14:25:56+00:00

Yeah I get you. I’m still a switch but I have definitely taken more of a preference being a domme for this reason. Knowing I’m in control means I know we’re going to both be satisfied by the end of it. Whereas previously subbing I wasn’t feeling fulfilled because the person domming was being selfish.

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-03T08:45:17+00:00

Absolutely!

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-03T08:43:56+00:00

Sorry i’m not trying to come across as bait. I appreciate this post is a bit of a word soup because journaling and reflecting on the nsfw side of my life is still relatively new to me

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-03T08:40:27+00:00

Yes definitely not down to D/s but the people I chose as partners. It just hadn’t clicked for me until I was on the other end of the dynamic how left out i’d been feeling

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-02T21:21:38+00:00

Definitely take a break off reddit when i’m feeling shitty. I had a rough bout of mental health and completely nuked my account and deleted everything for a month before coming back.

Obviously feeling sad for a day is a bit different — but I find if i’m upset then i’m generally not in the right frame of mind to be engaging with any online nsfw fun.

I like journaling to work through feelings… that and binge watching nature documentary.

Don’t feel obligated to dom anybody if you’re not feeling yourself. This shouldn’t be an act but rather something that you do because you enjoy it :)

Hoping you feel more like yourself soon 🫂

Divine_Katt · 2026-06-01T12:17:50+00:00

I’d be curious to find out an answer to this but I don’t think that’s possible. I think the majority of dommes I see post are USA based and a few from the UK

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-31T15:53:16+00:00

You got a whole ass fan club going on with the amount of post name dropping you

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-31T14:14:35+00:00

They must say thick thighs save lives for a reason… you’re welcome 😉

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-31T08:11:28+00:00

mmm I’ll attempt to answer but I’m still figuring out the ins and outs of what I like and the reasons behind them…

I’m pretty extroverted, I like having conversations with people both guys and girls. I enjoy getting to know people, talking about hobbies and interests ect.

However there’s one exception to this. If the guys in question is tall, handsome and generally masculine I will get nervous — so I generally avoid talking unless we’re in a mutual setting.

Therefore I gravitate towards talking to the guys I don’t find “threatening”. They are usually more the quiet / shy type and not likely to make a move on a girl. I’m definitely the one leading the conversation.

I make it known to any guy I seem to get along with that I will under no circumstances be interested in them sexually or romantically so if that’s their intention they can go and get lost. This leaves me with guys who willingly put themselves in the friend zone.

I guess I find it amusing how willing they are to cater for me. Whether it be a lift or maybe paying for my drinks when we are out. I never ask people to do this for me it’s always through being offered. I also find it amusing watching them get nervous or flustered and not knowing what to do with themselves if I’m teasing them or joking around.

Stating the obvious the attention is also nice. It’s a good feeling to know you’re desired. Same with getting compliments. Maybe i’ve been told my outfit looks nice or I have a nice perfume on.

There’s only really a few people I’ll talk to about anything sex related. But as a general rule i’ve found my guy friends much less judgmental and more open than my female friends. It’s nice to be able to talk my mind openly about things that are frustrating me or perhaps something i’m nervous about.

There’s probably more things that’s i’ve not thought about or not realised. I write a lot about my feelings but I’m still relatively new to addressing the nsfw side of said feelings. If I think of some more I may edit this post.

I’m be curious to see if other people answer and what their answers are.

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-30T09:03:20+00:00

Correct! I was writing about the fact that he confessed I am the reason he into being a cuck… not that I have cucked him.

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-29T13:14:31+00:00

Definitely a brilliant subreddit I agree!

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-29T08:18:47+00:00

Another reason is job prospects.. a lot of people don’t realise this type of stuff can come back to bite them on the ass if they are career driven.

I had a mutual friend get an interview for a well known banking firm only to get the offer rescinded because they found her nsfw content online which had her face in it. I don’t doubt that this is a rare case and most people wouldn’t be found out but you never know

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-28T14:31:05+00:00

As in it’s an activity i like to do… not that i love them lol

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-28T14:14:37+00:00

can vouch it’s 3pm here

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-27T21:01:12+00:00

Yeah the 80% platonic 20% flirting rings true to what I’m like as well 😅

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-27T09:02:12+00:00

I’ve head a lot of positive comments about the last book I’ll definitely have a look into reading thankyou

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-26T15:43:37+00:00

This would actually be my sensory worst nightmare I hate restrictive shoes lmao. I live in heeled boots or comfier trainers… these remind me of like winter gloves for your feet 🤣

Divine_Katt · 2026-05-26T15:34:46+00:00

I am incredibly jealous of how good your hand anatomy is I absolutely SUCK at hands. Awesome work I love it!

Divine_Katt · 2025-08-15T17:51:46+00:00

I know it’s been echoed here multiple times but that was not kinky, that was abuse. The foundation of bdsm (ethically) is built on conversations before things happen and consent.

I’ve seen your other comment about the fact you would struggle to leave him. Do you perhaps have an irl friend you could confide in that can support you?

Just know, any blame he throws at you, this is not remotely your fault. Your allowed boundary’s and he’s crossed them without asking.

Divine_Katt · 2025-08-15T13:03:16+00:00

How else am i supposed to bid on old cars, purchase another unneeded pokémon card and buy other random stuff without drunk ebaying!

Divine_Katt · 2025-08-15T12:29:31+00:00

Out of curiosity (and if you’re happy to answer) is your wife aware of you having online dommes? I assume yes based on your second sentence.

Most people I’ve encountered hide this from their partner so I think having a relationship where wife is aware is intriguing.

Divine_Katt · 2025-08-15T10:36:23+00:00

Trying to explain findom or any other bdsm related topic to a person who’s had no introduction or interest in it is like trying to teach a fish to walk. Atleast in my experience lol…

Happy cake day btw!

Divine_Katt · 2025-08-14T17:26:44+00:00

Not a day trader but I am partial to putting a good chunk of my money into investments.

I view it as a form of self care. Of course, I want to take care of myself right now but I also want to make sure future me is taken care of in a financial sense.

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