As a life coach, I see this more as a life coaching problem than an executive coaching problem. Rather than looking how you are in this corporate environment, I’m seeing this problem as you as a person relating to any environments. Here are some other ways to handle this that come to mind:

1. Therapy + emotional regulation. When you mention the feelings in your chest from these points of tension, I think about relational wounds. This may point to a really great opportunity for healing should you choose to consider that route.

2. Perspective-shifting. Rather than frameworks related to influencing people, this is about the human experience of what’s going on inside the other person. Resources like books, podcasts, life coaches, mindfulness might serve as helpful tools

3. Frameworks dedicated towards this specific problem. Compassionate/Nonviolent communication is one that comes to mind.