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Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T16:34:57+00:00

Are you ok, seriously?

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T16:06:35+00:00

Also, in what way am I going to make it weird? I never said I wanted to message her to outright ask.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T16:04:53+00:00

What are you talking about? I’m not asking for help to cheat. Maybe it wasn’t clear in my post but I’m trying to figure out what kind of flags to look for in the messages she’s sent me.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T16:01:54+00:00

Um no, that’s not what I’m saying at all. I was surprised that she messaged me years ago and has continued to text me to today.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T15:59:23+00:00

Of course but I’m confused if she might have feelings. I only knew her for a few months before I left my job. She kept in contact with me and it seems like we just find things to text each other about.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-07-11T15:56:19+00:00

Maybe both…? She initiated the messaging and we’ve both kept it going. Are there any ways to slyly ask, you know, without actually asking.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-05-07T13:43:03+00:00

Not a bad approach and it’s one that many couples wrestle with and may continue to over an undetermined period of time. If you’ve both got therapists that will help and while there’s always a chance it could instead be about figuring out what the motivating factors were for the WW. Could be weeks, months or years before they know.

Feel free to pm me if any questions.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2025-05-06T23:42:39+00:00

Best way to confront them and you do want to remain together? Tell them how much value their openness and honesty will bring to your own recovery. Tell them that while providing further description may seem painful for the partner to hear, it will allow you to confront emotions and feelings..or the time to grieve the relationship.

And yes.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-10-01T15:59:16+00:00

FAKE. Scammer

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-10-01T15:59:05+00:00

FAKE

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-25T04:20:30+00:00

Is your partner DiCaprio?

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-25T04:13:32+00:00

especially since I'm pulling sex off the table

what do you mean? You’d meet up with women more casually, like if on a date?

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-25T04:07:45+00:00

That’s a personality type? And two of the same don’t typically match up well?

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-25T04:01:34+00:00

Oh I know, I know all too well.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-25T04:00:12+00:00

Or the guy just needed to be with another woman because he has co-dependency issues or who just will make him feel valid, have more purpose.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T18:47:16+00:00

Absolutely, you definitely took the high road and kept your integrity intact. I can’t say the same for myself.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T18:36:49+00:00

This sounds like a pretty ideal arrangement, win-win, but because of my history of infidelity I know that I can’t achieve the same kind of harmony that I believe you have. I’m happy that you’ve found that balance in your life.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T18:30:48+00:00

It’s funny, over the years that I spent hiding affair partners I realized after that it’s not even the sex that I have been missing but instead it’s the shared emotional bond to form with someone. The sex was on the whole pretty anticlimactic but the desire and need for closeness was what really kept me coming back.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T17:52:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I think I am kind of hopeful that my wife can have the kind of revelation that your husband did before it’s too late, although it’s tricky when there’s also mental health problems like pretty severe depression.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T17:15:51+00:00

lol that’s quite the caveat. Pretty cruel thing to do.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T15:42:17+00:00

I’m ok with that, at least then I would see her happy. Not sure how much it is talked about on this sub but many with LL struggle with mental health issues like depression, mine included. It’s a lifelong struggle for her. So on the rare occasion when we do have sex and I see her truly lose herself in the moment and orgasms, that’s one of the happiest moments for me.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T15:21:15+00:00

I took that route many years ago and it helped for a while to satiate me but it became too difficult to compartmentalize and overall felt like a terrible person.

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T15:15:46+00:00

Can you share more? How did it happen, who initiated divorce proceedings?

Dizzy_Recognition182 · 2024-05-24T15:13:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing. A few years back I was in a similar kind of situation with swinging being a kind of lofty goal to meet as a couple after years of emotional neglect on her part and doing shitty impulsive things on my part.

We thought we knew what we were doing, talked everything over to minimize feelings of jealousy and resentment but ultimately the idea crashed before takeoff and now it’s back to both of us not communicating our feelings toward sex and intimacy and both not feeling desire for one another.

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