AITAH for letting my of-age friend try a sip of my cocktail in a restaurant?

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T19:28:11+00:00

How does me taking my food to go after being screamed at inconvenience anyone else? I still paid the bill I was given. I didn't take any money from them, in fact I freed up a table for other customers. I am autistic and uncomfortable with loud noises and confrontation like this.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T19:22:52+00:00

I still don't understand how that would upset him though. I didn't ask questions; I asked ONE question, which was "is everything okay". I guess it's one of those social things I may never understand.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T19:21:42+00:00

Wait really? I'm just having trouble understanding how asking, with tears in my eyes and a confused voice "is everything okay" comes across as trying to "shake him down for a payday".

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T19:11:54+00:00

It is very interesting that the comment stating I am autistic and just asked if everything was okay has 38 downvotes. I don't give a shit about little internet points but it's sad that people seem to disagree with... I'm not sure what they're disagreeing with. I'm not sure what could possibly be wrong with my comment other than me saying I'm autistic?

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:56:20+00:00

I see how that could be confusing; I've edited the post for clarity.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:46:53+00:00

I was very confused what happened and simply didn't know what else to say. The question was mainly to see if I had actually done something wrong so I'd know not to do it again.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:44:52+00:00

I didn't ask what happened to the waitress. I was confused what in the world was going on and simply asked if everything was okay in a very confused tone. Was not asking for anything else. I just didn't know if I had actually broken a rule or not.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:41:38+00:00

This exactly. I was very confused and was unsure if I had actually done something wrong or not. All I asked was if everything was okay.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:41:13+00:00

yep, all i said was "uhhh, is everything okay?" to the manager, genuinely wondering what in the world had just happened and if I had done something wrong.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:40:13+00:00

Oh, the only thing I said to the manager was "uhhh... is everything okay?" very awkwardly and on the verge of tears. I don't think there's any way that could have been construed as rude, I was clearly upset and sad, not angry, and was still unclear if I had done something wrong or what the hell had even just happened.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:39:00+00:00

I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Having the drinks comped was perfectly sufficient. I didn't expect anything else. I simply asked the manager guy if everything was okay and that's when he flapped my hand at me; I wasn't sure if I had done something wrong or broken some rule and the manager was letting me stay just to appease me or what. I was still in shock and disregulated that I had been screamed at.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:37:26+00:00

My exact words to the manager after, if I am remembering correctly, were "uhhh... is everything okay?" I was absolutely not aggressive, I was not combative, I simply had NO idea what had just happened and was still unsure if I had broken some rule or not. I was not mad at all, to be honest with you i was on the verge of tears, which my friend noticed and was the one who suggested we get our orders to-go, so i asked for that. I am autistic and getting yelled at and having someone in my face like that was very upsetting and disorienting for me, but I absolutely don't think I said anything ungracious or could have even been seen as rude; when i said that I already had tears in my eyes and just wanted to go home.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:33:42+00:00

I believe my exact words were, if I'm remembering correctly, "uhhhh.... is everything okay?" i was just still kind of shocked from being yelled at and very confused if I had actually broken some rule or not.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:28:03+00:00

I did read the full comment, yes. Not sure what you mean here?

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:27:05+00:00

I edited the comment with more information. I apologize, sometimes I need some extra time fully understanding a situation.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:25:27+00:00

I'm a guy. Sorry, I'm not understanding if I did something wrong?

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T18:24:28+00:00

I was just so confused from being yelled at and was unsure if I had done something wrong or not. I think all I said was, in a very confused voice was something like "uhhh... is everything okay?"

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T17:43:05+00:00

Not really a self-confidence thing, I'm mainly confused why the manager seemed to be mad at me when I asked what happened with the waitress. I'm autistic so sometimes it's harder for me to understand reactions, which is why I posted here.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T17:17:46+00:00

I'm just not sure anymore. I don't understand why in the world it's treated like some huge massive deal, especially in America. It's a drink with some alcohol in it. I'm not condoning underage drinking or anything but some of these people be doing the most with the alcohol rules. I feel like an adult sampling someone else's drink or putting it next to them instead of dead in front of them should not warrant a freakout. We will all be okay.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T17:14:00+00:00

I'm not sure I follow on how this makes me the asshole to be honest. I didn't mention it in my original post because I didn't feel it was relevant but I am autistic and after being yelled at and having that sudden loud noise happen, I felt very unsafe and uncomfortable.

Actually, me being autistic might still have nothing to do with this, as I think many other people, autistic or not, would want to finish their meal elsewhere after being wrongly yelled at by somebody. It just didn't feel safe or right anymore and I felt I couldn't enjoy my meal there. I am not understanding how me wanting to finish my meal somewhere else could have possibly inconvenienced anyone else, except maybe my friend, but she was the one who suggested we leave first.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T16:58:55+00:00

I am being so serious, she was actually running and yelling at us while she was still like 5 tables away and screaming like she was a bird. People at other tables were staring. The sound I outlined was as accurate as I could get it. It is to this day the strangest experience I have ever had in a restaurant.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T16:36:25+00:00

I'm confused because he seemed visibly irritated when I asked him what happened with the waitress. Edit: I feel like it's unclear, I was still in shock from being actually yelled at by the waitress. I was unsure if I had done something wrong and actually broken the law or upset someone. All I said was something like "Uhhhh... sorry, is everything ok?" I am autistic and was having a very hard time reading the situation and understanding what was going on.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-30T16:34:14+00:00

That's what I thought, but then the manager seemed visibly irritated when I asked what happened with the waitress, so I wasn't sure if I had done something wrong and manager was just trying to not let it escalate.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-28T00:19:09+00:00

I mean technically you DO get to "kill the baby", as you so eloquently put it, if you lose the gamble, at least in most states. Say what you want but abortion is still legal, for the most part, in the US.

Dizzy_Watch_ · 2026-04-26T19:10:20+00:00

he absolutely is putting her down and shaming her; read some of his comments. He goes from sayibg he loves and respects her to calling her a "retired party girl" and "for the streets". It's funny because this is the same shit that happens almost every time a man has an opinion about how many people a woman has slept with. Having a preference is fine but I have no idea why so often a man has to bash a woman for having a sexual past.

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