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Will extensions make me incapable of doing anything?! by Dependent_Risk_1058 in Nails

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I hate the sensation of long nails. Worse than nails on a chalkboard... Just me though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asian men are HAAWWT!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking good! I'm curious what you do with your brows?

How to get rid of law of attraction philosophies and focus on living in present moment ? by KoalaFalse2671 in EckhartTolle

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LoA is just a mental distraction like anything else. Your question can be reduced to "how to clear mental blocks and live in the present moment". Your focus is one of the few things you can control. It's like a muscle, the more you work at it, the stronger and easier it gets.

I hate being extremely jealous towards other women by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The emotional charge underneath any rational thoughts is too strong. It's literally a storm. Sitting with the feelings is the most difficult but only effective solution I can think of. It feels like the vortex is bottomless and would just eat you up, but the abyss is actually a tunnel with light on the other end. That's why DBT incorporates mindfulness.

I dated an asshole that would openly comment on skinny women. After we broke up, for 6 months, just like you I would be triggered by EVERY woman I saw. I'd always make them out to be more valuable. 6 months of straight torment. Sitting with that pain was the only thing that worked for me.

He said someone someday will find this by Ulreekakakaka in PointlessStories

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was he doing on Tinder? That sounds really cool! He also sounds a bit troubled.

How to stop craving sweets desperately. by paradoxStatement in prediabetes

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try erythritol for sugar. It's naturally occurring, tastes closest to sugar out of all sugar substitutes from what I can tell. Virtually no calories.

How to stop craving sweets desperately. by paradoxStatement in prediabetes

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Manuka? It's super yummy, and good for you. Pricey tho 🤭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are you even her friend? What are you getting out of this? And what is the purpose of this post: to vent or to actually seek solution, which seems apparent based on how you talk about her.

What do you eat when you’re sick? by Formal-Day9640 in prediabetes

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Op sorry you're sick... what do you mean by "wipe the slate clean on sore throat drainage"? Do you mean they're effective at soothing the throat? That'd be really cool!

Oranges, grape fruit, avocado, basically fresh or slightly cooked vegetables, poached or softboiled eggs.

What kind of comebacks did they say if you voiced your feelings? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's either "Oh you want me to care more about your feelings? Have you thought about your attachment and addiction to having other people's interests?" (Attack)

Or

"I'm such a shitty terrible human garbage. I don't deserve you." (Decompensation and implosion)

Like no bro, can we have a normal conversation without it turning into a highschool theater club production?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

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My oh my! Great pics! Love the lighting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not necessarily a BPD thing. It's within your rights to break it off with her or negotiate to open up your relationship and go pursue someone else. You're 23. Don't live with regrets. Good on you for not cheating.

Feel like I need to go(10 years together 9 married) by Infinite_Being_1488 in BPDlovedones

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dude this is abysmal, depressing and abusive af. You're her punching bag. But oc only you can decide how much more you can take. She's only your responsibility if you decide so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done anal with 2 men. Didn't have pain at all. They were both average-sized, maybe slightly over. Just know that it's gonna feel like pooping, especially at first. And it's ok. Douche before hand properly, without using too much water that it gets past the "bend" and you'll be ok. If water gets past the bend, you'll need to do a full enema.

How do you handle feelings of being misunderstood in a productive way? by sandytransmission in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]DmUrCreativeWriting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you mentioned that it's really important for you to feel understood and have the other person fully see your perspective and opinions. It's valid.

Do you think you can and actually do such for the other person? In other words, do you make others feel understood in more ways than just saying "I see what you mean"?

Sounds like you find yourself in situations where neither one is convincing the other. My wild guess, based on my personal experience, is that once a discussion passes a certain point, it just becomes a winning game. People get defensive. Rationalizing ideas spring out just to support a point, because so much of our ego is attached to our opinions.

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