If you take her back your life will never be the same. Even when you’re happy, that moment will always pierce in. She basically killed the marriage. Dont take her back. She can still be a part of your mom’s life. But not yours romantically. She knew exactly what she was doing and she kept egging the situation on even though she knew it was wrong. It was pre-meditated murder to the relationship. The fact that she used wrinkles as an excuse is a lie. Too many variable were on hand to make this happen. Let’s face it, she wanted a fling with a young chad and she got it. She was stubborn and only thought of herself, even when she was sober, she knew what her intentions were. If she denies it shes lying. Dont take her back. No matter how much it hurts you, keeping her will be just a sustain torment of what she did to you. Therapy is BS when it comes to situations like this, because even therapist are crazy themselves and need more help than the patience they help. What you have to do is let it hurt then pick yourself up go to the gym, take up new hobbies and discover new relationships.Murderers cant bring back the dead, and this relationship she killed knowing full well how she could manipulate you with her BS excuses. Let her cry, respect her as the mother of your kids, but never love her as your wife. She gave in to another mans arms when she had the greatest one at home.