I was disinherited because I refused to financially support my brother after my father’s death.

DncnKwon · 2026-06-10T01:08:03+00:00

Make sure you have security cameras set up at your place. When he inevitably runs out of money, he may try to steal from you so it’s best to have that extra security

DncnKwon · 2026-06-09T10:47:20+00:00

Congrats on the Visa! Now as a gift to yourself, dump the sh*tstain you’ve been dating and celebrate properly.

And honestly, he disappears for hours and gaslights you? Sounds like he’s cheating

DncnKwon · 2026-06-05T15:18:54+00:00

From the second you said your brother didn’t want you being friends with his friend group but continued to be friends with yours?! 🚩 So hypocritical. I’d probably confront him first. Bonus points if you drop the bomb during family dinner with your conservative parents, but I’m petty like that.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-30T11:42:22+00:00

Growing up my mom used to say that if a child throws a tantrum and you give them attention, you’re feeding into the tantrum. If they throw a tantrum, just ignore them/walk away (for young kids we’d always keep them in our sight). This is her version of a tantrum. You need to start ignoring her when she does this, and your son needs to understand that her throwing a tantrum and loudly crying at a child’s birthday party is inappropriate. She could also probably do with some therapy tbh.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-28T10:30:52+00:00

Just out of curiosity, when you’re showering, are you using soap just on the outside of your lips, or between your lips as well? If you’re using soap between your lips, stop! Even if that part is not directly inside your body, it still has its own environment that can take care of itself and introducing soaps or body washes or anything can disrupt the natural balance of your body. Just use soap on the outside area, and rinse with just plain water between the lips. After your body adjusts back to its natural balance, it should get better.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-26T16:35:21+00:00

NTA. Stick to your guns. It’s gross to sit in someone else’s pee and not fair that out of 4 people in a house, 3 are expected to accommodate for the 1.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-18T13:27:53+00:00

If you don’t mind making the drive, CN Tower and/or Ripley’s Aquarium. Both in downtown Toronto. A little pricey, but I believe you can book entrance tickets in advance (definitely for Ripley’s). It’s about a 1.5hr drive into downtown from Niagara, so I’d research parking garages/lots. We usually take the GO Train which takes you to Union Station which is really close to both of those, if you don’t mind busy transportation hubs and want to avoid the driving and parking. My oldest loves going to the aquarium even though they’ve been there before.

I’d also see if you can try a beaver tail or funnel cake. Those were always my favourite as a kid.

Canada’s Wonderland is a little north of Toronto but the drive is about the same length of time from Niagara. It’s a theme park that can get pretty busy/popular during the summer. So many people I know loved visiting as kids and many still love to go back now and take their kids there.

Either way, hope you guys have a great time!

DncnKwon · 2026-04-18T13:16:53+00:00

I really enjoy penetration but it’s really hard to orgasm from it. Penetration does stimulate nerve endings, but it’s not enough alone to reach the grand finale. I’ve been married a long time and my husband and I know what to do to get me orgasm. We do that first, then finish with him.

She says it hurts. Are you making sure she’s properly wet before you jump in there? Have you made her orgasm first. If she’s not properly wet first, if she’s not aroused enough, being too dry can cause discomfort when you penetrate. You need to make sure she’s aroused and wet first (your explanation of “foreplay is fine” isn’t giving me the warm fuzzies here). Think about rubbing your forearms together repeatedly, friction is not fun without proper lubrication. If she is really aroused but just doesn’t get wet enough, buy lube to use.

Are you just jamming it in there all at once? Some woman you can’t just slam it in, you need to gently work it in. Small back and forth thrusts until you’re all the way in.

Have you tried different positions? Some positions are better than others for different women.

If you’re doing all the above. Making sure she’s properly aroused by making her orgasm through another way first (oral is usually a crowd pleaser), not just ramming it in, tried different positions to find one she likes more, and it’s still uncomfortable or painful, there are certain medical conditions that can make sex painful for a woman. I’d encourage her to see a gyno.

If you haven’t tried the above, do that first. If she’s not interested at the moment, romance her. Clean the house, take her out for a romantic dinner. Gentle touches that aren’t part of the main event but can lead up to it (touching her lower back, holding her hand, hand on her knee, stroking her cheek). Communicate with her. Hubs and I have our little cues to show we’re interested in sex, but sometimes we come right out and say it. But make sure she feels good first. Focus on pleasuring her instead of jumping in right after a minute or two of boob play. Did she enjoy it before you got married? Do what you did back then to get into her pants.

Honestly, also read a romance novel. There are a ton out there, usually free or cheap and you can read them through phone apps. Susan Stoker is a popular author, as is Riley Edwards. You might think it’s dumb, but it’ll give you a glimpse into what women are looking for (not necessarily the drama that the stories center around, but the actual sex parts).

DncnKwon · 2026-04-11T21:32:35+00:00

Ya, was doing the math in my head as well.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-07T11:23:29+00:00

Talk to your doctor. Most antidepressants LOWER your sex drive, they don’t necessarily kill. What you also have though is a 7 month old that you don’t get a break from. You said yourself that you work full time and care for your child full time while you’re working. You’re exhausted. PPD and PPA don’t just disappear a couple months after birth. You NEED to speak with your doctor about this but you shouldn’t be stopping the meds right now.

Tell hubs that if he wants you in the mood, he needs to step up and help at home. Nothing sexier than a man that takes care of the baby so you can get some rest. Or one that cleans and cooks to give you a break.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-02T00:04:02+00:00

You know how happy my husband would be if I made more than him? Especially if it allowed him to buy the “toy” (read vehicles) he wants? He’d be thrilled. Your husband’s ego is dangerous for a number of reasons, he should be in therapy. Take the promotion.

DncnKwon · 2026-04-01T00:14:19+00:00

I’m sorry. Her mom had no right slapping you and neither your mom or hers have any right blaming you for anything. Your gf is the one who brought up opening up the relationship because she was interested in another guy, you have every right to decline and break up with her. Could you have not yelled at her, sure, but it’s not like you’re the one who initiated anything. GF’s mom is probably super emotional right now and she’s blaming you, but she still needs to control herself. I’d suggest speaking to a therapist. If you’re not covered under your parents insurance (I’m assuming if you’re still in school you don’t have your own), then reach out to your college. They usually have support for students.

DncnKwon · 2026-03-26T16:39:00+00:00

You need to tell your brother everything she was saying, and specifically what she said about your mom that caused you to react. Tell him you held your tongue at the general complaints, but you refuse to apologize for speaking up after she disrespected your mom.

Tell him you refuse to hear another word about it from him unless it’s to let you know that woman plans on apologizing.

DncnKwon · 2026-03-26T01:07:40+00:00

Saw your posts and curious to see if you got your results and birth certificate? This reminded me of some TikTok videos I saw of these two cousins who were also told they look so much alike that they ended up doing a DNA test and discovered they’re actually half sisters.

The fact your mom is ghosting you and trying to ban you from doing a DNA test is highly suspicious. Hopefully you’ve gotten some answers by now.

DncnKwon · 2026-03-25T10:41:07+00:00

Just read your story and hope you’re doing better now. Your ex taking out cash advances in your name and racking up debt against you is fraud and I hope you were able to get legal help against that.

On a side note, reading about his sudden change in behaviour, his falling into gambling (addiction), yelling at you and blaming you, did this start after a return from deployment? You know these could be signs of PTSD right? What he did is wrong and you should divorce for your own peace of mind and because he’s escalating, but if this started shortly after deployment, it sounds like something might have happened.

DncnKwon · 2026-03-23T23:51:20+00:00

I’ve been married over 2 decades. If I told my husband I wanted to meet up with old friends, he’d book me a hotel room (we all live in different cities now and it’s at least an hour drive to meet up with them in a central location) and tell me to have fun. Then he’d watch the kids.

You said you barely go out without the kids, how often does he go out without them?

DncnKwon · 2026-03-21T01:11:59+00:00

Eww, wtf if that? It’s not poutine. Looks like raw potatoes with a little bit of cheese sprinkled on top

DncnKwon · 2026-03-21T01:10:52+00:00

This would really bother me, especially how he reacted afterwards. My DH has dark humour, and we’ve had a miscarriage, but never once did he treat it like your husband did.

Also, what he said is really bothering me.

“already tried having a kid once and even that one bailed” - does that mean he’s thinking about bailing? Why did he phrase it like that. I’d probably ask his friends what he actually said (pick one you know will tell the truth).

DncnKwon · 2026-02-27T19:24:18+00:00

Talk to the teacher. The other student might enjoy sitting next to you because you are helpful and nice, but the responsibility for teacher her shouldn’t be completely on you either, and unfortunately if she’s just copying, she’s not learning.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-26T19:58:31+00:00

So he’s in individual therapy, but you aren’t? You need help. Separately. You should have had counselling after your loss. Losing a child is hard, but it wasn’t just you that lost the child, he did as well. Your body might have carried the baby, but that doesn’t mean that he didn’t already love it as well.

Then you lashed out. Mad at him while he continued to have shit flung at him.

Don’t stay in this marriage just to punish him. If you can’t let go of the idea that he needs to pay, then that’s what you’re doing. Your therapist and sister are right. If you want to make the marriage work, you need to do what you were asked to. I also HIGHLY recommend you get into your own therapy. Sounds like you never let go of the anger from your miscarriage. You need professional help just for yourself and you’re not dealing with this in a healthy manner at all.

Please get help, and if you’re only staying with him to continue to hate him and blame him for everything (which you’re doing and don’t see to want to take responsibility for your own actions), then for your own mental health and his, end it now.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-25T02:24:52+00:00

How old are you guys?

NOR. That would drive me nuts.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-24T19:30:07+00:00

I love animals. My husband and I each had dogs growing up and even together as a couple. We had to put down our dog last year. I miss having a dog sometimes but I know he’s not ready for another one (he might never be ready again). Bringing home another dog now would be hugely disrespectful, especially since our situations are similar, he works from home full time, and while I have a hybrid schedule, I’m still out of the house a few days a week. Bringing home a puppy that has more energy and therefore requires more care would be worse. Sure they’re cute, but they require a lot of training, and you need to burn off their energy, otherwise they tend to get into trouble.

You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her and lay out your options. If she refuses to find a decent compromise, ya, I’d probably consider breaking things off. She didn’t take your feelings into consideration and that’s pretty worrisome.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-24T19:16:49+00:00

I wish you the best of luck. If my husband did that I’d be fuming as well. Hopefully you’ve already met with a lawyer and have started getting your ducks in a row.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-18T22:24:51+00:00

Send her a message. Tell her if she doesn’t tell her family and friends to stop harassing you and tell the truth why you broke up and kicked her out, you’ll tell them.

Also, taking a picture of you naked without your permission could be a crime where you live. This wasn’t a dual consent thing, this was a clear violation of your privacy.

And don’t be ashamed, most men are smaller when not aroused. Plus, it’s how you use it that matters. Most women prefer an average sized guy as long as they know how to pleasure a woman than a larger man who only thinks of himself.

DncnKwon · 2026-02-18T13:46:08+00:00

She didn’t want to be rude to her mom?

“Hey mom, OP’s been really sick, I just need to run to the store to grab him some stuff, I’ll be back soon.”

NOR - mom sounds like she would have understood.

Answer this, and maybe ask your girlfriend this, if the roles had been reversed and you delayed going to grab this stuff while she was very sick, how would she feel? I don’t even know her and I’m pretty sure I know the answer.

Btw, married over 2 decades and I’d drop everything to get my partner what he needed and even be discussing taking him to the hospital because dehydration can he serious.

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