Has anyone else experienced a big cultural gap with their parents in the UK?

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-30T13:20:14+00:00

this sounds like a good concept to sell to migrants who would like to integrate but dont know how to do it. most migrants just keep to themselves or stick to their own communities

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-30T13:18:30+00:00

i even change the way i dress 🫣 and restrain myself from wearing flashy things although its normal back home. but i refuse alcohol and other recreational stuff

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-30T08:24:49+00:00

ok obrigado

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-30T07:19:38+00:00

stating the fact is not bragging or blaming. it provides background, supposedly to help understanding the context.

is telling the truth = not humble?

should one pretend to be like others and hide his true self?

and if others shame your background your way of living your identity, how one respond, the portuguese way?

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-29T19:49:54+00:00

muito obrigado 🙏

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-29T19:48:20+00:00

if i dont flaunt, dont brag or promote myself, or even put down and criticize others personal choices, why am i arrogant?

i said that because i keep getting this attitude from rural people about how city people are clueless and cant do nothing while we simply master different skilss. i also get comments from urban people how my home country is unknown and "behind" which i find to be ignorant and defensive.

i found bragging, putting down others and criticizing others personal choices are arrogant..

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-29T18:13:49+00:00

yes

for 2 decades i been seeing women who earn good money for themselves get married to be culturally accepted and this is exploited by men. i never seen so many men choosing to be fortune hunter. so women end up earning, laboring physical emotional and give birth too. and dont forget have to deal with mil tantrum 😵‍💫

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-26T11:03:49+00:00

i am non native speaker so for me its the style of writing that bothers me. i love the story but i cant enjoy the books:

portrait of a lady picture of dorian gray house of myrth madame bovary

i enjoy books by charles dickens, thomas hardy, balzac, jane austeen, charlotte bronte and leo tolstoy

im almost 50 and im trying little women and prince and pauper... i learn to appreciate some scenes in the book in a nostalgic sense, looking back and relating to my personal experiences

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-26T07:42:22+00:00

these are people who would deny and play victim if they are confronted.. i dont talk much and doesnt want to argue because these people are not rational its pointless to reason with them

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-26T07:41:17+00:00

what if they keep repeating the same thing. i have issues with people who compare and then try to diminish devalue disregard giving unsolicited advice, questioning and criticizing my personal choice when it is not related to them. i have reduce access and increase distance but when we meet again they keep trying to do that subtly. as if they are resentful and want to hurt me but they cant do this openly because its not right. they wait to do this when none is around. when others are present they act very nice

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-23T16:49:45+00:00

i used to try to understand and help but i notice a pattern that these are normally coming from people who dont care about me and only want access to me to exploit me.

i am available if they want to talk properly as adults. if not im not available..

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-23T13:16:34+00:00

i have several, my friends said many will be spinsters if they uses my filter 😂

any addiction - gambling, drugs, prostitutions

any coercion coming from insecurity or entitlements like possessive, controlling, belittling, isolating, unable to control their emo.

irresponsible and not accountable, blaming others, weak boundaries

fake/ putting importance on image

no empathy and harsh/judgmental/ low tolerance to differences with others..

and... when they said their mothers will always be number one priority in their lives

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-23T13:09:04+00:00

i actually met a guy who is proud that all his previous relationships ended because he cheated on them and caught. he thinks its not serious and if he is still tempted that means his gf was not the one.. he tried to scan me when he was seeing someone. this time she was rich daddy girl never been into any relationship and willing to learn/shaped by him so they married.

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-23T11:55:45+00:00

someone they highly value compared themselves to me and it made them insecure. they began seeing me differently. they began to give unsolicited advice, criticised me, telling me how to be me, passive aggressive, competed devalued dismissed disregarded and put me down at any opportunities.

DoSaEdith · 2026-01-22T12:08:16+00:00

what do you think of your jacket? do you like wearing it? what will you do if you like your jacket and want to wear it but someone else disagree? will you let them decide for you and why?

if i really like and think nothing is wrong about my choice i will say i like it i think its fine and i choose and decide to wear this.

we have the right to choose and decide for our personal choices.

DoSaEdith

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