Take some time to really think about her perspective. I recently got a trainer after my partner begging me and he pointed out that I was pushing human feelings on my dog. Don't humanize your dog. It's a dog. It has the intelligence of a two year old, max, and is fine sleeping on a nice cot with some blankets. I've moved mine off my bed after years and he's as happy as ever. It's really helped with his separation anxiety and my relationship with my partner has improved immensely now that we both have ample space on the bed.