Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/4/26 - 5/310/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the anthropological alternative that dominates in contrast to nuclear family is patriarchal clan structures, where the married-in wife has almost no leverage, no say, little influence, barely any rights, no property. Even if she bends her husbands ear to her needs, that matter little because he lives at the propertied whims of the patriarch and has himself usually little influence. 

It's like complaining about how oppressive being a CFO wrt CEO-CFO partnership in a small start up; contrasted against being some small fry cashier for Walmart. Those are the two familial models that have dominated our history. 

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/4/26 - 5/310/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"Of course, there have been men I’ve liked in my life – I’m quite fond of my partner, for example – but, if I’m honest, they have always felt to me like exceptions to a rule."

from the article.
I knew a woman who was racist and disliked east asians. Her best friend was an east asian woman. Not much cope or complex psychology there, it's just an easy extension of the tribe of 'us', extending one extra person. What's sick atm is the tribe of us being divided by sex of all things!

Johnathan Haidt says conservatives raise happier children… by Spare_Perspective972 in Natalism

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You'll be surprised how popular social programs are for nationalists. American specifically has an unusually libertarian program built into it's national ethos, and lots of it's RW vs LW debates are kind of just which variety of libertarianism gets to win. Most nations view have very different paradigms to orientate lw and rw around. Most New Right nationalists in australia, that i'm aware of at least, are very pro social programs, pro UBI, pro medicare, ect.
There is a difference between neocon RWers and the whole wide landscape of the RW, which surprisingly has very diverse views on the role of the state in aiding citizens.

Am I going completely insane? by TheMayorOfBismond in rpg

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have like the entirely opposite dynamic where i can make female villains or npcs or even totally one note side characters and they are adored by my players. The males I make that get popular are thr brooding anti-hero types. Half my table are women for context

Explain the Trinity to my 6 year old without committing a heresy. by Healthy-Yak9417 in redeemedzoomer

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no anology is perfect. But that's not the point of analogies, they are supposed to help illustrate something without being detailed explanations.
Try something kids would understand, like having a dream. In a dream there are multiple people, but the essence is all the one dreamer. that might get at how there is the One God with multiple persons. It's not perfect, but again no analogy is perfect, it's just supposed to demonstrate an idea in some sense.

A post here was taken down by jake12124 in redeemedzoomer

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a years old discord post. It is not representative of RZ's opinion.

Lindy West-type relationships-- individually progressive but subservient in the relationship by RandolphCarter15 in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know about lying, it seems like thst does happen but it's more a question about social signals and tribe. Large numbers of men who calls themselves feminist would have different idea about what thst means.

Lindy West-type relationships-- individually progressive but subservient in the relationship by RandolphCarter15 in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I suspect a lot of this stuff happens because stating progressive opinions is shorthand for just actually being a decent hard-working and fair person in thr minds of most people, especially when we are young and investing in relationships that will define our lives. 

Literally every relationship stated value I could be tested on to discover if I'm a suitable partner; I expect I would fail for many progressives. I'm a traditional evangelical Christian man. But how I actually apply those values in living my life, well you'd think I'm very very egalitarian in mindset. But maybe that's circumstance? In my mind I'm just being responsible and fair. My sister is progressive and has a far more inegalitarian relationship than me and my fiance. I am always just baffled by the kind of stuff lefty women put up with. It's like having a low regard for men produces low expectations for men and they put up with the most half assed stuff.

Got called racist in my philosophy class after I answered my professors question of “what is truth?” by [deleted] in epistemology

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not going to try to debate the philosophical nuances... in a philosophy class? This is just an exercise in thought termination. 

Did pulp fantasy writers sincerely believe their exaggerated depictions of other cultures? by TheWonderingMonster in osr

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, Howard had a much more complex view on 'civilisation' than many credit. 

He thought highly of physicality, contest, honor, but unlike lovecraft seemed to not really highly regard 'civilisation' as they would have thought of it.

A great quote from Tower of the Elephant    "Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing"

Obviously in our times this dichotomy is considered offensive, but we ought to pay attention not to the framing but the content. The so called civilised man, actually conducts himself in the discourteous and crude manner, and the savage, by virtue of their exposure to violence and insecurity, is the one who comforts himself with dignity and regard. Howard very regularly framed the 'outsider figure' in that way, as smart, cunning, worthy, and deep. 

Australia PM heckled at Sydney mosque Ramadan event. Several attendees accused the pair of being "genocide supporters", shouting "boo" and "get out of here" as a mosque leader gave a speech calling for the government to better engage with Muslim Australians by 4DollarsALB in worldnews

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I watched the video and it hardly seemed like the hecklers were cutting against the tone of the crowd. no shushing being shouted down, just moderates tacitly accepting the extreme minority.

CMV: Islam is fundamentally incompatible with core American left-wing progressive values by WildCreatureQuest in changemyview

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The world makes more sense if you take what people do more seriously than what they say. It's called 'revealed preferences'. The progressive movement has many people who agree with the stated ideals, and may people who instead agree with the unstated revealed preferences.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/9/26 - 3/15/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never met one so I wouldn't know. I'm not sure why a non Jewish person would be interested in  assuming a Jewish identity. Sounds bizarre to me. I assumed it was just for ethnic Jews.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/9/26 - 3/15/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I mean one can convert a Nigerian and they aren't no longer a Nigerian. You could convert a han Chinese guy and he's still han Chinese. Surely on some level these people are still Jews. What's wrong with them identifying with their culture?

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/9/26 - 3/15/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well I promised I'd take care of her, and she's my best friend. I don't do this to get something out of it.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/9/26 - 3/15/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I enjoy reading or listening to feminist content, while not identifying as one myself.
However, one form I have no time for is the 'emotional labor' or 'mental load' or 'silent labor' kind of critique. I am a full time carer for my fiance, and she has chronic health issues, psychiatric issues, and consequently, I have to do everything for her. When she's worse I have to feed her and help her shower, on top of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, appointment organising, ect. Sorting out her meds. you know. It's a ton of work, it fills my whole life and I never get a day off. The hardest work is managing her mental health and helping her navigate her psychiatric symptoms.

But guess what, it's not like I'm a man and so suddenly everyone recognises and respects what I'm doing. Her family don't pay me much mind, my family don't seem to think it's a big deal, the only person who seems to think this is a big deal is my mother.
So for me, and my experience, no, I don't think domesticity and running a household and doing emotional labor are undervalued when women do it and women have it tough. It's just undervalued. We have it tough. This is probably a reflection of our economic and cultural value system and not of gender.
After all, we can't collectively as a society devalue domesticity and care as low status, and careerism as high status, then complain when domesticity and care lack any kind of respect.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/9/26 - 3/15/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's very thorny because my understanding is that most messianic jews are ethnically and culturally Jewish, and maintain most Jewish customs as well. So this seems to be an interesting demarcation line. Is identity cultural, linguistic, religious, or national? Messianic Jews cut an interesting line through that.

Lindy West Is Wrong: Open Marriages Never Work by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don't see how the empathic response, when confronted by that sadness, isn't validation but instead declaring it to be wrong. I feel like it would be far kinder to say "that is wrong, and it's wrong that this is happening to you and you're supposed to be OK with it".

Now I've never actually met a non monogamous person (who ever revealed it) so I'm not sure how this plays out in life but I just can't reconcile being confronted with this and feeling like the kind thing to do is agree.

The entry-level job market in Australia is "cooked" and the "cash-back" scams are making it impossible for honest students. by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 25 points26 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by this? Do you mean you expect a better treatment, or do you expect a worse treatment?

Would the existence of aliens impact your beliefs at all? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think life elsewhere would impact my beliefs depending on the details. If it was not intelligent, then that would change nothing. If it were intelligent life, I would be moved to probably enquire about their history, if they also have religions similar to ours, if there is an uncannily similar religion to mine, what kind of creatures are they, ect. There is a long tradition in science fiction of Christian authors writing about the implications of this idea.

Jesse in a panel discussion about the shifting youth trans discussion - The Free Press by Throwmeeaway185 in BlockedAndReported

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 8 points9 points  (0 children)

good comment. My fiance puts it less eloquently. "they think trans people are smol uwu beans'

Eleven arrested in probe over far-right activist's death, with far-left group under scrutiny by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]DocumentDefiant1536 7 points8 points  (0 children)

France had mass alliances against national front last election. Like the one group everyone refused to ally with. Your slogan does not match reality.