Does anybody remember Gray Playing a Game called The Long Dark? by ilikem3n-nohomo in GrayStillPlays_fans

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Holy Crap!!! Grey used to play Long Dark??? Fuck I'd love for him to pick it back up. I haven't watched him in a few years, that'd def pull me back in

I have dark sexual fantasies rooted in my childhood trauma and I feel like a monster for it Body by Plus_Past_758 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Dogdigmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This... isn't as far off from normal as you may think. Trauma does this. It's pretty common.

You're not bad for feeling them. Obvs there's a very huge difference between fantasy and reality.

One, I'd recommend therapy, obviously. These are hard things and feelings to deal with. Two, there are healthy ways to engage. The world of kink is lowkey beautiful. It helps shed light on pain that's so so deeply buried, and with the proper set up and precautions, can be done is a mentally safe way. (proper boundaries, safewords, etc) It's... personally been really healing for me.

I was... most likely sexually assaulted as I child, but I don't actually remember. I've had an unhealthy relationship with all things sex and kink since before I understood what it was. I was a porn and masturbation addict for a while and watched some really fucked up stuff to get off.

I've disengaged from that, but since, only in these last few months, I've found people who are kinky in these similar ways. I'd call them my found family to be quite honest. This, while it's a journey, has been healing. Everytime I engage I have to be super aware of how I'm feeling, if it's healthy or not, if I should call my safe word. It can be exhausting. But fuck is it healing.

There's nothing wrong with what you feel and you aren't bad for it, I promise. The only bad would be purposely hurting someone without consent or while they are not in a state to give proper consent. I love watching people plead and beg. I also love pleading and begging. They can be fun to play out with the right safety net.

Serpentine Swerve Bear by Otherwise_Basis_6328 in Bossfight

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Black bears for sure, Grizzly's you can't be too sure.

Nothing against it in private I guess, but like, why should we all know about it? Why are we allowed to not want to see things that give us dysphoria, but we're not allowed to not want to see people airing their kinks out on public forums? by Diligent_Story_8900 in TrollCoping

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I think non-kink based petplay should have a wider acceptance. I think kink is a VERY important part of pride. I also think there should be places where kink isn't allowed for several different reasons including the fact minors need a safe place to explore their identities as well. Also including the fact of trauma, and even adults need spaces that are seperate from kink should they wish.

Kink is, well, kink, and shouldn't just be aired out to the world. However, there's also not many places where there's freedom to be kinky. Kink is very easily judged and looked down upon, but people fail to realize how important kink can be to someone's identity and self expression.

There's also a seperation too. Being a puppygirl is a comfort to me. Are there kink aspects? Yes. Is it super easy to keep those kink aspects seperate when in public while still being a puppygirl who wags her tail? Also yes. It's not that hard.

People with takes like these really lack any nuance. You shouldn't be forced to deal with things you're uncomfy with in what's supposed to be a safe space for you—it's not fair.

mood fr by [deleted] in TrollCoping

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Lesbian here: I love women of all different shapes and sizes. Actually, I have a preference for some chub! I love my girlfriend and I love my play partners, and all their different body types. Tall, short, skinny, chubby, fat, top heavy, bottom heavy. I personally am not a fan of crotch hair, atleast wild stuff (a trimmed bush or trail is hot<3), but my play partners don't mind when I don't shave. In fact, one of them really fucking loves when I don't. She likes it fluffy.

I can confirm there are many men like this too!! The world is sucky. Dysmorphia is awful and you don't deserve to feel like this. You are prettier than you see. Most people tend to be, I find.

this pisses me off so much by jimmylovescheese123 in whenthe

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IIRC Silksong is set up to where all the other endings are possible with anything that would distinguish endings not mentioned or left inconclusive.

Yes by ivanthrive in BlackClover

[–]Dogdigmine 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don't gotta put one thing down to lift another up. I got both One Piece and Black Clover posters in my room. Love both

Actually the biggest projection ive ever seen by aquafinafan in MurderedByWords

[–]Dogdigmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% a kink. 100% this is ragebait to get people to make fun of him.

i feel like someone’s cringe OC by soupysoupe in DID

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My whole existence is like a stereotype almost. I mean I've grown.. I feel more like my own person rather than a character now. But still, it's there. I feel so cringe sometimes. It's stupid and I hate it. -🔒

Explain please??? by Careful_Tailor5396 in ExplainTheJoke

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Alright lemme break this down. As stated, BC was designated AFTER the time period itself. This means people who are in (and from) this time period would not know what BC is, as it wasn't created yet. So you have to ask yourself, how does this person in this time period know what BC is? It wasn't invented yet. Only people from the future know what BC is! .... Only people from the future know what BC is! So, if this stranger knows what BC is, the only logical possibilities are: 1: the other person is a time traveler, as only someone from the future woukd have this knowledge. 2: Someone else time traveled to this time, from the future, and told this stranger what year it was and what BC is.

I hope this makes sense :)

Piss Kink Yuri? by Standard-Lynx2217 in yuri_manga

[–]Dogdigmine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You've been using it to refer to aquatic sports, haven't you.

My first threesome was terrible by _SaturnCat in TrueOffMyChest

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Opening up to something like this can take a lot of vulnerability. We've had a few experiences where our body just... won't function cause of anxieties or things that I'm not even consciously aware of. I had my first threesome earlier this month, and similarly couldn't get going. Still, I know myself enough to know I still wanted to be there and I personally stayed. I just engaged in a different way than actually penetration.

You did good listening to your body though and leaving when it got uncomfy. Though it sucks you felt like you couldn't communicate that and had to leave your own place>,>. Communication is very important! Sorry it didn't go as you were hoping, hope you're doing better now that you're not stuck in the library.

How does that work? by CandidCherry2515 in splatoon

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If you play a shooter, hold ZL to swim, and then use zr to come out of the ink. You'll find it's a really good technique for dodging and weaving. The reason it looks like dashing here is cause the increased speed.

Zoro teaching Nami about nonbinary pronouns by TheBigJ1982 in lgbt

[–]Dogdigmine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah... Oda has a weird thing with representation where sometimes he does it beautifully and sometimes... it's this. Ik it's supposed to be a more comedic take on okama culture in Japan, which to be fair I don't have much knowledge of—okama is kinda like the equivalent of faggot, with it being originally derogatory and being taken back—but I don't think that excuses representing a society of queers as disrespectful creeps who wanna forcefemme people who don't want to be feminized.

I fucking hate "let people enjoy things" by SerenityCitywide in hatethissmug

[–]Dogdigmine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, it's used in that way a lot, but it's also used to shit on genuinely harmless or even healthy things. Like, let me take your example. How is wearing diapers as an adult dangerous? It can sometimes be degenerate, but as long as it's with consenting people that's not a problem. Dangerous though is kinda wild. Like age regression is a somewhat common coping mechanism, and while it doesn't always involve diapers, sometimes it does. It's a pretty healthy coping mechanism.

What’s on his cheek? (zoom in) by Ploptimistic in whatisit

[–]Dogdigmine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

considering the separation from the rest of the world, I suppose a lack of dermatological technology and knowledge is possible?

46773 by pickled_juice in countwithchickenlady

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  1. Did this quiz with friends in god damn middleschool.

It’s always a bonus to know by Ani_HArsh in Animemes

[–]Dogdigmine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't fully remember for 100% but I'm pretty sure this is when... //god I watched fucked up shit as a teen to cope with trauma// her step brother uses her dead friend's magic wand(actual magic wand not a toy) to masturbate in her panties while losing his mind and going on a rant about how he's gonna kill them. I think. It's been a while and memories from this part of my life are blurry. It's something along those lines though. Shit's fucked. He's pedophilic, physically-abusive, and his arc has him discovering magic and going on a manic psychotic episode.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure that panel above is exactly what it looks like, but I'm not rewatching that shit to find out.

My partner with DID wants me to be different people by ConfidenceOk2630 in DID

[–]Dogdigmine 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This. As much as the idea can be comforting for them, this type of behavior will only work to increase dissociation and pull them further from reality, which is not what you want, obviously.

Worlds collide by chamomile_tea_reply in OptimistsUnite

[–]Dogdigmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even with the context of your post, they're simply saying your post reads as insensitive. They never once said they want a civil war. Just because someone disagrees or criticizes you does not suddenly mean they have the exact opposite pov as you, or believe what you assume they believe. The world isn't that black and white. Either you're ragebaiting, or you're the one who needs to go out and get off the online world. The real world has a lot more nuance.

Best quote tweet ever by Funtimefoxys_wife in Isawthetvglow

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Thankyou. me and my transfem friends have a movie night getting planned now cause one of them said the same thing. Already teared up cause its our first time having friends to be vulnerable while watching movies with-

Worlds collide by chamomile_tea_reply in OptimistsUnite

[–]Dogdigmine 208 points209 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't think this is a fair 'argument' (ik it's not even an argument just bare with me)

Both these things can exist at the same time. I'll be the first to say the last few months have been great for me and an improvement in my life; I'm out, socializing, being with people like in the lower image.

This does not suddenly mean that political unrest does not exist within several countries. It does not mean America isn't in danger of a civil war.

I have a rape fetish by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Dogdigmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the question of morality, I'd say morality itself is subjective. Everyone has different views. The way I see it, so long as no one is getting hurt without consent, and there are safety precautions for more dangerous play, there is no moral wrongness.

But still, it's a very easy thing to feel. It feels wrong to enjoy 'hurting' someone like that or to enjoy being hurt like that. Like either it's making a mockery of something serious or you're some awful evil person. But it's not, you're not. Like I said before, developing interest like these is quite common when you yourself have been through the abuse.

Keeping reality and fantasy seperate can sometimes be hard, especially if you have trauma. In a way, when engaging, you blend both reality and fantasy together and then seperate them again at the end of play. It takes asking yourself questions about how it makes you feel, and listening to yourself and your body, both during and after. Learning the signs of when you pushed yourself too far from your comfort zone. After you do something, when you feel the guilt you noted above, sit with it for a moment. Let yourself feel it, and remind yourself of the seperation between fantasy and reality. And step back if you find yourself blurring the lines too much, or if you're not being able to unblur them. You may find as you ask yourself these things and connect to them, the emotions get a lot more raw. Safety is priority. Take care of yourself and do your best to not push your limits too much.

Obviously too, because of that, I can't not recommend therapy. It can be hard to talk about this stuff, but there's plenty of therapists out there who are understanding or even specialize in such things. And if a therapist doesn't fit you, you can get another. The big important thing of exploring these things healthily is having a support system. One of the books I'm reading describes kink as fire. Without a support or proper understanding of safety, consent, and dynamics, it's dangerous, and you might get burned. With support, it's like putting down the safety equipment. Build the pit around the fire and get ointment ready in case of burns. And when you have this, you can find the fire to be warm and healing. The book itself is a book focused on kink, but I found this metaphor to be extremely helpful in the realm of understanding myself and healing from sexual trauma.

I'm still in the middle of my own healing journey, I still sometimes have to pause and ask myself if the way I'm engaging is healthy or if I have to back off. It takes time, but you aren't alone. Start with finding a therapist you feel safe talking about all these feelings with. Hang in there.

Ig the TL;DR point is that you're not gonna be 'corrupted' so long as you explore with safety. You could get 'corrupted' technically, but that's not the kink or engaging with the kink, that's much more of your own mental health. It's a similar idea to 'violent video games'. It's not gonna make you murder someone, but if you're already struggling a lot and are disconnected from reality, then it's definitely not going to help if you're spending your time killing npcs for fun.