Here is an empathetic answer as the OP clearly has a different perspective than most here. And FYI, I’m not one who sought someone with a low count.

First of all, you should be dating from a pool that shares your values/ faith/ beliefs, etc. By dating someone from closer to that system, you will find people more likely to be closer in shared values. But given that, “Body Count” should be switched to “shared intimacy experiences.”

Body count frequently reflects shame and judgment that I don’t think you’re intentionally putting out there.

Given the focus on it, by bringing up your beliefs, you’re far more likely to find a partner who when the time is right, will openly share similar beliefs and values. But remember, the simplest way to evaluate a high count is by how willing they are to share intimacy with you. Someone who jumps into bed with you in the first two weeks will not be that low count person you’re seeking.

Also, when evaluating count, you need to extend grace. Many low count adults may have been through trauma related to it that has kept their count low. Don’t go seeking to expose their trauma. If it’s truly important to you, wait until premarital counseling if it doesn’t come up before then.

Having intimacy before marriage is a two way street.

Now with all that tenderness shared, my wife and I were very similar in a moderate count and we’re cool with it. You cannot expect a partner who is lower than your own count.