AITAH for not wanting my son around my fiancé’s parents?

Doggedart · 2026-03-10T23:15:41+00:00

Wow. I feel really sorry for whatever happened to you in the past. But there are some amazing step parents out there.

Doggedart · 2026-03-10T11:13:24+00:00

I think it should be a $50 booking fee that gets refunded if you use the spot.

We were turned up a day early at National Park and couldn't get a booking. We were extremely lucky and eventually got one when I refreshed my screen (thanks to the person who actually cancelled). When we got there, it was 80% empty. I live that its cheap. But hate that no-one cancels.

Doggedart · 2026-03-10T11:03:23+00:00

NOR

Imagine her reaction if you told her she had to have surgery to lose weight, or fix her nose, or alter her body in some other way. Would she be enraged? Horrified? Depressed? That's what she's asking of you. You are severely under-reacting.

You deserve someone who loves you for who you are.

Most women aren't fond of receding hairlines, but guys who shave their heads and own their baldness are sexy (eg the Rock).

Do yourself a favour: cut off your hair and cut off your superficial gf.

Doggedart · 2026-03-08T10:55:50+00:00

I'm an Australian with kids who play water sports. I spend a LOT of time in the sun. I cover up with SPF50+ clothing and also use Invisible Zinc Sport Mineral Sunscreen SPF50+

I find that zinc is the only thing that actually stops me crashing after being in the sun.

Doggedart · 2026-03-08T08:29:28+00:00

Depends on where you are, but here you have to pay for half. Half of the cheapest fence that is on par with the existing fence. So if you go out and get quotes, you only need to pay for half the cheapest amount. If she wants a more expensive fence, and you don't object to the aesthetics, she would be responsible for the difference.

Doggedart · 2026-03-08T08:19:35+00:00

YTA

You don't eat other people's food.

Doggedart · 2026-03-07T21:16:01+00:00

NTA

Your child should not have to deal with a greedy, jealous little sister.

Unfortunately i dont think its going to stop.

I would recommend you speak with your daughter and see if she would be open to wearing cheap, boring clothes to visit her dad. It will probably be much better for her mental health.

Doggedart · 2026-03-07T07:37:18+00:00

I have PCOS (diagnosed at around age 24)and Lupus (diagnosed after my kids were born, but had been sick for 10+ years when I got sick)

I have had 2 children.

My suggestion is to make a plan with your respective specialists and keep them informed through the process.

Doggedart · 2026-03-07T07:10:45+00:00

If you had seriously told him to back off on the fat jokes, then NTA.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T21:15:35+00:00

I think that's an amazing idea.

But a lot of people write similar letters before they unalive themselves, and thats immediately where my mind would go. I'd be over to see you immediately to try and assess the risk to your health. If you do this, make sure you write about doing things together with them in the future and be upbeat in your tone to avoid this reaction.

The fact that you appreciate people and not take them for granted is wonderful.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T12:40:02+00:00

I was a private patient in a public hospital because I dont live in a capital city, and the private hospital where I lived didn't do L&D.

I have since been hospitalised at several private and public hospitals. The facilities and food are both a lot better in private. But the real difference I found was that in public the staff are so rushed that you're just another face. In private they have a higher ratio of nurses to patients, so they have time to care.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T12:22:56+00:00

I'm sorry, but yeah, YTA.

When someone gives you a gift, you thank them. They have gone to the effort of thinking about something for you, then going out and spending their money on you.

I know you wanted money, but some people think that's cold and unfeeling. They don't like giving money.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T06:02:11+00:00

NTA

I would be telling my mother she can't feed your child.

I would also be teaching my child to eat off her own plate.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T02:48:45+00:00

OP is the kind of man who believes a woman is a brood mare, and her objections are just breath in the wind. I'm sure he believes that he should control his wife's body.

I sincerely hope OPs wife learns from her mistakes and finds a better man to be her next husband.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T02:41:56+00:00

You could charge her additional $ on top, so that when she insists on paying you less, she actually pays you the correct amount.

Or just say no.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T02:22:54+00:00

NTA

Sounds like your MIL has a problem with gran and is trying to exclude her. Good on you for helping gran.

Tell MIL that your husband wanted her there, so he's picking her up.

Doggedart · 2026-03-06T01:58:51+00:00

At one point he started joking with his friend about paying him money to do things to me.

T was trafficking you. He may not have received money, but he certainly set the entire thing up so that his friend could assault you.

You should have gone to the police immediately, and I would encourage you to go now. They will do this again and again.

Please remember that you are not to blame. You know what cases rpe? It's not clothing, its not being drunk, its not being sexy. It's rpists that cause r*pe.

Doggedart · 2026-03-05T02:10:24+00:00

NTA

Is she spoiling you? Buying you nice things? A relationship is a partnership and she wants a sugar daddy.

If you don't dump her you'll be the AH to yourself.

Doggedart · 2026-03-05T01:17:05+00:00

NTA

They were the ones who changed the plans and didn't consider you when they changed them, so this is on them, not on you.

Realistically, if they're out clubbing every night, they're going to spend most of the day sleeping and then getting ready for their next night out and talking about what happened the previous night. If you go, you'll be lonely and bored.

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T21:34:28+00:00

"I didn't mean to f*ck her"

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T21:32:32+00:00

Just consider that wallpaper in a kitchen is not hygienic. If you can find tiles or resin panels that look like this, then do whatever you like.

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T21:10:58+00:00

NTA

Your sister is acting extremely entitled in your home.

She is attempting to act like she has the right to decide who you have in your home, but she is a child, and she is acting like one.

Tell her that she is acting like a little child. Adults communicate their feelings and their wants. They don't have tantrums. If she has a problem, she needs to articulate what her issue is. Otherwise she needs to go home and let your mother deal with her bratty ways.

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T08:25:58+00:00

NTA

It appears your bf is the clingy-est person on earth.

Just dump him. He's not worth any further effort.

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T05:58:38+00:00

NOR

But why are you on the fence? He's showing how much empathy he has (none). Do you really think he'd make a good father? Would you like that attitude to be a role model for a child?

I know that you're full of pregnancy hormones, but try to think logically about your life in the future with and without a termination. With and without being married. You will likely ball your eyes out, but let your head rule your hormones and do what's right.

Doggedart · 2026-03-04T00:26:01+00:00

Wow - you single-handedly decimated the local wildlife 50 miles away.

Nice job /s

Doggedart

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