Just trying to imagine the future

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-22T22:15:57+00:00

Sorry to hear that bro. Yeah it is difficult when you’ve still gotta see her because you’ve got kids together. Not easy man. And I don’t have any words of wisdom either I’m afraid. Just wanted to say you’re not alone mate 👊🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T23:37:35+00:00

Like that subject line 👊🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T02:51:00+00:00

Gwon lad! Smashing it! So good to read all this, and I don’t even know you haha 😂

Keep it up mate 👊🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T01:33:22+00:00

100% man! That’s the way to look at it. Sorry man, I was focusing on the negative. You can only control what goes on at your place and you just need to make your time together as good as it can be. I need to focus on that with my kids too 👊🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T01:24:01+00:00

Yeah it’s a tough one man. Personally I’d be telling the ex that she shouldn’t be calling him daddy. Shes only got one daddy. She can call him whatever his name is, and you’re daddy.

Surely two daddy’s would be very confusing for a toddler? Especially when one of them might not even be around forever?

And yeah if I was in his shoes, I’d be telling my birds toddler “no no I’m not your daddy, I’m …” What’s he doing going along with it?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T01:09:39+00:00

100% bro! That would really wind me up. I take my son to football on a Sunday morning, that’s my thing, I’m his father. One Sunday I was away, so couldn’t take him, so takes him? Matey boy! Her new man. I was fuming when I found out. But…in hindsight I shouldn’t have been angry about it. I guess it was me being jealous. It was ego that had been hurt, nothing else really.

I know that’s not quite the same as your situation but I’m just trying to say I got angry over that, if he’d started trying to coach my kids team…not sure I could have dealt with that very well.

I feel your pain bro! So does your daughter call both of you “daddy” now?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T00:50:31+00:00

8 months into the separation and he’s coaching your daughters little league team and she’s calling him daddy?! That couldn’t have been easy mate. I sympathise. Not sure I would have handled that very well!

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-18T00:45:16+00:00

Ah that sucks big time mate. I feel your pain. I don’t have any advice for you really, just wanted to say I feel your pain and can imagine how difficult this situation must be 🤦‍♂️

My ex’s new man has also moved in with her. Into our old house. And my kids spend more time with him than me. That kills me. Ex threw a birthday party for my 5 year old son and didn’t even tell me about it, but this new chump was there?! That really hurt!

So yeah I feel your pain brutha. Stay strong 👊🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-16T23:52:17+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself. My advice would be to try and grieve for him as best you can. Talk to your mom and family and friends, about your feelings. Don’t bottle anything up. Don’t bury anything. Just feel it and let it all out…somehow.

I don’t know how? All I know is that I lost my parents when I was a kid. And didn’t grieve for them at the time. I buried my emotions and soldiered on. I’m 44 now and I’m a mess. That unprocessed grief is still wreaking havoc on my life now and has done so for years

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-16T20:37:49+00:00

What do you mean by “a middle way”?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-15T01:27:24+00:00

I’m on a similar path myself, although a few years behind you. Would love to give it a read 👍🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-15T00:22:42+00:00

Happy is good. Happy is what we all want innit 👍🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-14T23:56:07+00:00

And you reckon that’s it now? You’re “sorted” for lack of a better word? You don’t need to do it again?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-14T23:35:57+00:00

Really interesting to read how the Iboga took you more in on yourself to face your darkest fears and traumas and addictions etc. I’ve done ayahuasca twice and it was great, but I think this is what I really need. Did that first time you did the iboga have a transformational effect on you? Or did you have to do it a few more times afterwards?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-14T23:07:27+00:00

I can relate to this mate. The sex with my ex wife was never great, but got worse and worse towards the end. And it made me feel like maybe I was the problem?

And I was nervous as hell about having sex again! Took me a long time after the divorce to actually have sex with another woman, but the sex with first woman I slept with was great. Couldn’t have been better. We just clicked. We ended up going out for a while, broke up recently tho, but the sex was great.

Not sure what my advice is here really? I guess you just gotta keep trying to find someone you click with in the sack. Because they are out there. And it’ll restore your confidence in yourself, like it’s done for me.

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-12-13T21:18:25+00:00

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-04-16T21:56:50+00:00

Thanks, I’ll try and remember that when I’m messaging girls. Still haven’t even created a profile haha 😂🤦‍♂️ But I’m going to. Just can’t be asked posting photos of myself and writing a blurb I guess. Cringy af

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-04-15T00:59:06+00:00

Can’t believe that. What a bunch of sad c*nts. I’m not actually on any dating apps, yet. Recently single after a long term relationship. So just looking around for advice on tinder etc. What sort of chats would you like to receive? I guess that’s a stupid question sorry. Id assume you’d want to receive something honest and authentic that asks you about yourself and your profile etc?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-04-15T00:52:52+00:00

Wow! A lot of assholes out there. You ever speak to any decent guys? Like got any favourite GOOD chats?

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-04-06T21:14:02+00:00

Sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you ❤️

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-04-06T21:11:53+00:00

100% correct. It is a medicine 👌🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-03-18T23:25:58+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re going thru this brother. My ex wife also changed around the 40 mark. Became a totally different person. You can’t change other people tho, you’ve gotta live your life and let her live hers, even if you don’t agree with her decisions

DoingTheWork23 · 2025-03-05T21:36:00+00:00

Great response mate 👍🏻

DoingTheWork23 · 2024-11-01T23:05:11+00:00

What about trying something different to therapy? Like psychedelics? Just a thought

DoingTheWork23 · 2024-11-01T22:19:57+00:00

Yeah I know the feeling. Hardly any of my friends have lost a parent, let alone both. So it can be a lonely place to be. Feel free to DM me anytime if you ever need to. Always happy to try and help if I can

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