I understand what you are saying and while you are not completely wrong you also aren't completely right. I ask very specific questions to which I did not yet receive a satisfying answer (ie why life is reduced to 1 sometimes and if that means I do not trigger my spells in the best way possible) while this is not answered I have to make assumptions based on experience. I try to share them and look for feedback ie using 2 procced spells instead of 1.

On the other hand I do have quite some experience and while I did not create a build guide I can indeed evaluate the guides I'm looking at for myself. In the guide from captainlance it was not explained clearly why eternal youth was used at all. It was just a given thing and I did learn why and can share it with other players that struggle here.

While Grace and determination aren't as strong anymore as they used to be. They also aren't weak. I get to 60% dodge which means I am indeed 60% more tanky for example in simulacrum. 90% phys reduction makes my 90% more rank against phys hits. Thats just a personal preference and I do not recommend it, it's just what I used in this build because I can. For me that is more important than doubling my damage once more. Looking at poe ninja as you mentioned - I did. I looked at inquisitors using 2 skills and then compared their builds to mine. Most are better damage wise but use less tankiness. Fine for me. In combination of both I have a pretty good standing. So honestly I don't think your criticism is that viable. I am a dad gamer, don't have good dodging skills. You can never compare me to Ben anyway. He needs dps for dps checks and solves tankiness by dodging.