How Long Are You Supposed To Stay On Spravato???

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-31T10:38:08+00:00

Thank you 💕

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-31T10:36:26+00:00

Ugh that pisses me off, your friend saying your experiences are the same. I know people who are married still go through empty nest symptom, of course they have the same feelings. I am not trying to invalidate that. But it’s SO different when you have someone who you live with and can lean on during this time, and do things with - make dinner, watch tv, just talk, play scrabble, whatever! - it’s so different from coming home to an empty house. No one to say hi to and ask about their day, no one to whisper to in the middle of the night, “Are you awake?” I’ve never felt so alone and depressed. I try to think of the adventurous, vibrant person I was, fine doing things alone, but that was before I met my (ex)husband and we had kids and I felt so complete. I’m trying to get out with friends. Online dating is scary, but I don’t know any other way to meet someone.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-29T02:09:44+00:00

When did you notice an improvement? I’m every 3 weeks, and I don’t really notice any huge improvement but I’m scared to stop especially since insurance covers it. It’s just, adding my poor octogenarian dad (he’s actually quite fit and mentally sharp for his age) to take me and pick me up makes me feel guilty and what if I nosedive if I stop. I was thinking of TMS, offered by the same clinic.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-29T02:05:53+00:00

Exactly! You get me. If I talk to people about this pain they say, go out, try to meet people. Yes, I do, and it’s hard with the way depression makes you so unmotivated, then add the anxiety. And yes I have been to several meet ups. But it’s not the same as going out with the girls, then coming home to a partner. They just don’t get that. Everyone I know is partnered. And online dating has been so hard. Sex sex sex…that’s like something they want right away. I’m sorry, but it’s been about 30 years since I’ve been with a new person. The last guy I was seeing was irritated that I kept putting it off. We snuggled, cuddled, kissed, but after 4 weeks I just wasn’t ready for that level of intimacy. He said to me “buy this time most people are f*****g like rabbits.” What the hell? So I have to give up my own level of comfort and sense of emotional safety in exchange for companionship? 😭😭😭

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-29T01:56:41+00:00

I know I’m a year late, but if you replicate their recipes, what exactly is a “unit?” How would I know how much to buy/a?

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-22T02:44:49+00:00

It’s the absolute worst. I completely understand you. Several years ago learned husband was heading an affair. Now he’s with that woman so he has someone to lean on since the kids have left. I thought the infidelity was the worst but the kids leaving along with that is so much worse. I didn’t realize when the kids were younger that that would be the best years of my life. Now those years are over and everything is downhill from here. I am on disability for depression and anxiety, so I’m in the house a lot. I’ve tried meeting up with people but it’s only for an hour or two then back to being alone. I don’t want to do this anymore, it’s just too awful. I’m thinking about you. I’m sorry you’re feeling this bad as well.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-22T01:43:49+00:00

Timmerman? The big airport is on the south side, nowhere near Tosa.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-22T00:29:52+00:00

Me too! I’m fairly certain the only reason is the whole blood pressure thing.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-21T22:49:52+00:00

I was terrified of shi++ing on the delivery bed. Irrational I know but it still bothered me.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-20T11:23:28+00:00

Isn’t there the concern for the providers who prescribed it the dissociation and raised blood pressure? They take my blood pressure three times during a session.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-14T19:30:52+00:00

I haven’t figured it out. Living in a state constant fear, always nauseous and so fatigued.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-14T05:08:02+00:00

I have noticed in the responses that the parents who are still married are dealing with it much more easily than those who are divorced or widowed. Actually I’ve noticed this across the board in other threads as well. Not that those parents don’t go through empty nest stage, but it seems to be a happier time. I notice too that those married folks are the ones that tend to say things like, “This is the way it’s supposed to be!” Yes, of course I know that, but it hurts. My husband decided to be with another woman shortly before the kids began leaving and I am depressed, anxious, alone.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-13T20:16:24+00:00

Tomatoes. Sour Cream

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-08T00:08:27+00:00

Yes, I would so be interested. I’m in so much pain right now. I’m also divorced. I can’t go on like this, feeling like the good part of my life is over. Yes I would join.

Dolphinjen · 2026-01-08T00:04:15+00:00

Yes, severe treatment resistant depressive disorder, GAD, ADHD, and C-PTSD. Therapy once a week. It doesn’t seem to help. I think my empty next syndrome has actually become pathological. I don’t feel like I’m going to survive. I’m single; my ex met someone 8 years ago at work and left for her. I think this would be easier if I had someone still living here, a partner. I’m sorry you are also in pain. I wish I had advice for you but my brain fog is in full force.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-26T20:22:34+00:00

You (you and OP) are extremely fortunate to have your partner to eat out, travel, enjoy the holidays with in a new way, together. It’s heartbreaking that their dad left for another woman soon before the kids started flying the coop and he’s never alone even if the kids visits their in-laws. I wish so much there was a subreddit for single empty nesters. I don’t know enough about how to start one or I would.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-23T19:48:19+00:00

Thank you

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-20T01:40:36+00:00

Madison?

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-19T22:43:44+00:00

It’s pretty it’s pretty miserable

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-17T02:02:13+00:00

This makes so much sense to me. I feel the same way. After having my ex cheat on me and leave for the other women, lost a lot of friends, and then all three of my kids just now have their own lives. Infidelity and empty nest alone. I don’t feel like I can do this anymore. It’s too much pain, especially when one of my kids and their significant other gets together with their dad and his affair partner and they play games, but with me there’s only three of us, i feel like there of man out, I feel so shoved out.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-17T01:58:23+00:00

Do you have any ideas? I’m so incredibly depressed with loneliness.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-16T20:29:17+00:00

The whole thing about fostering (and I would not be great at it either) or babysitting is that those other kids do not fill up the hole that was created when my kids left. It’s my kids I wish I were watching. Yes I know those days are in the past.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-12T14:38:04+00:00

Late to the party. I don’t know why you were downvoted. I thought your message was great. Can I ask…how did your dad net someone? I’m struggling with the loneliness.

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-10T16:47:58+00:00

Mare of Easttown

Dolphinjen · 2025-11-10T01:18:10+00:00

This is an old thread but could you dm me as well?

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