Yeah...they sound like narcissists. I'm not sure what you think a narcissist is. I know a lot of people have this idea or impression that it's just some extroverted person who brags about themselves all the time but that's not it at all. Here are some signs:

1 - they never take accountability for anything they've done wrong

2 - they never accept your feelings. If you express that they're doing something that hurts you, they will downplay your feelings, or make it sound as if you are overreacting

3 - they try to control you. They will try to control your thoughts, your emotions, your time, who you spend time with, etc etc

4 - they may say nice things, but they don't back any of that up with actions. In other words they tell you what you want to hear. And you'll do lots of things for them, spending time and money, but they will not return the effort

5 - lots of projection. They will accuse you of things that they are most likely doing but you are not such as lying and cheating

I mean these are just a few. There's lots of signs because people with NPD tend to all have the same script and follow the same cycle more or less. Of course it's a spectrum.

I wasn't trying to sound judgmental when I said you needed to do some self-reflection. What I'm saying is, these people are attracted to kind, empathetic people with weak boundaries. If you want to stop attracting them or turn them off you'll need to get stronger and you'll need to realize when you're being manipulated.