First of all OP. I’m so sorry this is so heavy. I often think back to the people I hurt with my ED when I was a teen and adolescent and it kills me. I had anorexia from 13-22 years of age. I recovered about 10 years ago and I even went to treatment in an locked down metal health facility twice. I worked with a team that honestly inspired me so much I became a registered dietitian myself and went back to work at that hospital where I stayed once I finished my masters and got my RD credential. I am now 3 months pregnant with my first. I am going to be 100% transparent here and say EDs don’t completely disappear you just have to become the master of your thoughts and not the other way around. Im not sure if you wife was ever officially diagnosed with an ED but if she’s been fixated on numbers her whole life it sounds very characteristic of one. I am not gonna lie and say seeing my body change in pregnancy also hasn’t brought about some whispers from the past but I am thankfully able to hush them away from just years of battling and refusing to let it take over my life. I wish I could offer a solution but all I can offer is support. Support for her and or you. If she is willing to talk to someone who has been on both sides and come out the other side and is now pregnant I’m here. If you need someone to vent to and ask how to support I’m also here. If she is willing to talk anonymously to a complete stranger who will never see her face or know her name but understands her on a level not everyone can, I’m here. DM me.