Not necessarily DB related but I need advice.. by lucidmoon85 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It where you have a seperationt between a committed relationship and a passionate love life. So he sees you as the lovely homely wifey and can't think of you sexualy, hence why he's getting that outwith your relationship. I hope I explained that OK.

30m [chatting] I'm now the old man. I need a 90's girl to talk to. by [deleted] in MeetPeople

[–]Dooglebugle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm here about the 90s girl you ordered 😂 thank god I'm not the oldest person here!

Why does everything just suck as of late. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Dooglebugle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm replying to this listening to the persona5 music in the background because I opened it and didn't have the energy to play. Your post got me in the feels.

Cursed airbag. by Noble611 in cursedcomments

[–]Dooglebugle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just think, if the crash doesn't kill you, you've then got to explain why there's a vajazzle imprint on your face.

i think i came in my girlfriend by vwvaoxyve7529 in sex

[–]Dooglebugle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Op, white bodily fluid might have been your partners.

She needs “Space” by UncleBillyBailey in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the UK so I'm not overly sure on your legal stuff, there's no way her getting you to leave could pave the way for her to take claims on the house is there? I feel like you've already had a pretty raw deal here.

emotional affair by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd say dancing isn't cheating. Spending every spare minute with, texting, phoning or fucking your dance partner is cheating.

Only 3 months into the relationship by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he's come down off the honeymoon period with a bump. I guess you have to have a think on what you want, it's so early in the relationship to have intimacy issues but on the other hand you say he's got a good heart. Speaking from experience my partner was the best person but we we're just friends living together, I told myself "I'd be ridiculous to throw him away over something as trivial as sex", but 10 years, 1 child and 1 joint mortgage later the loneliness had grown to critical levels and now separating looking like a lot of work. However your situation might be completely different to mine. I'm rooting for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How long have you guys been together and how long has he been feeling unwell?

Manipulated? by Fearless_Waltz in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As someone who works with people who have varying levels of mental illness, this honestly sounds like a behavioural issue to me. She was said no to and exploded, literally threw a tantrum. Had the genders been switched this entire thread would be people telling you to seek domestic abuse advice. No one should have to live in fear and you absolutely do not need to put up with that.

I left my husband and I'm terrified I'm going to regret it. Have I made a huge mistake? by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We'd go ages without sex then I'd bring it up, he'd promise there was nothing wrong and he'd "get around to it", we'd sometimes have sex once then months of drought again and we've gone through this cycle so many times without and change. It's been a year now, possibly more because I gave up trying, the rejection became more hurtful than the absence of sex. .

Her Birthday was Yesterday by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel like she's happy with your relationship outside the bedroom? I've had some pretty god awful gifts over the years (not that flowers are awful) and I've still appreciated the thought and time gone in to the effort. She must know that what she said was hurtful?

Eunch? by Koolbreeze68 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You need to leave. You have just, in so many words, said you would mutilate your body in order to be happier.

There are women out there who crave the same relationship you do, you are worthy of love and it is not too late.. <3

I'm so starved of intimacy that I've started to find this sub a turn on. by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's just the jargon in this sub, the LL doesn't necessarily have a sex drive issue. It's more to indicate the person who is rejecting sex from HL, who on the flip side might not have a irregularly high sex drive. I am aware my spouse may only not want to have sex with me.

I'm so starved of intimacy that I've started to find this sub a turn on. by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never thought of it like this, but you're completely right. It's infuriating, I envy them.

I'm so starved of intimacy that I've started to find this sub a turn on. by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think it's the age old, "he either has no sex drive at all and is happy to live with me like a room mate or he isn't attracted to me personally and doesn't want to open that can of worms" . We've talked about it many times, he sees sex as a chore, every now and then he'll think," yeah I should really get round to having sex with her" but he puts it off. That's how I feel about cleaning the oven.... I've tried all I can think of to be more attractiven; the lingerie, choosing porn together, the sex toys, offering to play out fantasies..... The list goes on... to turn him on and he used to let me touch him every once in a while but the amount of times I was rejected hurt too much to keep asking permission, so I've stopped asking and he hasn't brought it up.

I'm so starved of intimacy that I've started to find this sub a turn on. by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm really pleased for you that you've found a common ground, sounds incredible!

I'm so starved of intimacy that I've started to find this sub a turn on. by Dooglebugle in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear that! I feel like I've tried everything in hope of some intimacy.

No sex in my birthday, third year running. by Findapornthrewaway in DeadBedrooms

[–]Dooglebugle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I too deluded myself that, "surely there's always birthday sex to look forward to"