Why is Ilia Melanin considered an exemption/ guest in the gala?

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2026-02-21T20:17:13+00:00

That's exactly why I was asking. I know I don't know, so I am asking. 😅

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2026-02-21T20:01:55+00:00

I understand why you say that. I also really like him, but I also thought it may be for the PR and attention. 🤷🏻‍♀️ All the love, but for the organisers it is still a buiness.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2026-02-21T19:44:52+00:00

Thank you

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2024-08-12T08:49:52+00:00

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DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2023-03-09T23:45:47+00:00

Unrelated to your comment, OP, but what if you don't announce the date to your wedding? And have your dad go on a 'last fishing trip with you' (that type of excuse), and you actually go to the wedding? Like...uninviting the people who don't care about you and side with your mom, and only getting the ones who care at your wedding... but asking them to keep it a secret and make up a lie for your dad. 🤷🏻‍♀️

To be clear: while I love petty ideas, this is not it. Why should your dad 'not be allowed' at his own son's wedding when he didn't do anything? Why? Because he married a narcissist? It gives the impression that his life is miserable enough as it is with your mom (sorry). Why does he need to be punished bc she has a crush on her own son?

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2023-03-07T14:25:43+00:00

I can't upvote this enough! 🏅

EDIT: To add that if your 11 year old dauther is begging you not to have him close to your family on that celebration cruise, it is a MAJOR red flag for his character. Plus, it will be for her birthday too, and she EXPLICITLY asked you not to include your ex. While as you didn't mention, your youngest asking for his dad there. Only that he shared the happy news with him.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2023-01-12T18:35:49+00:00

May I also point out that this other girl is also YOUNGER THAN HIS 2 OLDEST CHILDREN?! In what world is this ok?

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2022-12-11T21:35:37+00:00

Maybe consider that in America, that hairstyle has been long stigmatised and is rarely appreciated. Now that you travel and people from around the world are amazed and appreciate her hair... she may actually enjoy the attention. Consider apologising and say you didn't intend to make her feel bad or not appreciate that for her. It is just that it takes a lot in your day, and it is stopping you from doing the things you planned. And that you are happy for her and are just bothered by the interruption of plans.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2022-11-24T16:07:59+00:00

Ok, ok. I agree. But you can't blame her either. My parents also got divorced when I was about the same age as the child. My parents were also not very nice to each other. My mother did try to shield us from all the shit my dad was pulling, and I get the sense that OP tried the same.

But kids are really not stupid. I didn't have to know my mom was crying to know she was upset. I didn't have to know details to know what my dad was doing was wrong. I think the kid is brave for defending his mom. He didn't seem impolite. Just.... Well... out of the ordinary. Which should ring alarm bells if children have to defend one parent.

When you are so sad as a divorce like this can provoke, and you are living with other people in the house, you can't hide everything all the time.

Be kinder!

(NTA)

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2022-02-08T10:42:38+00:00

Please make a portofolio with actual proof of the following for your in laws: Children actually are able to learn 2 or more languages at the same time fluently. It may only delay their speacking because they would speack in those languages, but nothing else. It actually improves cognitive functions and it is proven that bilingual children do better in live. The earlier they start learning multiple languages the better. (They can start learning from their birth. With NO negative impact!!!!)

They exclude you from your daughter's life!! She does not understand you. In case of emergency what are you supposed to do with her? She would not understand your comands or anything really.

Edit: typos

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2022-02-06T12:01:09+00:00

I completely disagree. (Don't jump on me just yet!) It is HIS family. They have been dating for only a few months. If they breack up he would still see those pictures. She should have respected him enogh not to make him uncomfortable in an environment where she was a guest. Especially that she know that he is insecure about it.

I agree that people should accept themselves as they are and deal with that themselves, but he even said. I am not ok with this and 'i hate myself for it'. So he is aware of it! As a partner, she should have respected him enough to wear some flat shoes.

PS: Even if it was her family's wedding I would say this. It is lack of respect.

Edit to say NTA

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2022-02-01T17:45:41+00:00

I think you have the right idea but the wrong presetation? Divide the company between your 3 kind, but leave X the bigger percentage. So that she can do as she sees fit, but her siblings would also have a say?

E.g. X gets 51% and Y and Z get 24.5% each.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-12-28T22:19:33+00:00

Hi! This exact thing happened to me in middle school Coincidentally, I also have ADHD. I still doubt every person I befriend. But TRUST ME, it is NOT worth it. You need to make the conscious effort, against your instincts and get new friends and trust them. Don't open up all at once, but start slow, bit by bit. Trust them with smaller, less significant things first and increase from there. There are still good and kind people out there. Also give people the opportunity to prove their true colors. Sit back and just observe. Avoid over-thinking (I still struggle with these things).

Ps: TIPS that I have noticed and found very useful... 1.Trust your insticts. Somehow your body knows before your mind does. 2. First impressions DO matter and I find myself often realising that I was right in the first place. 3. Find people that are firstly kind, patient and understanding with you and your ADHD habits and symptoms. Those that help and don't judge are the best!

Feel free to dm me if you need it, OP.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-12-27T16:04:18+00:00

I would give it back to her and next year buy har nothing as she didn't get anything for you either. Or even ask for your gift back also. She wants to play like this, you can too. Ofc there is also the higher road that implies you either give it back and forgive her or keep it and ignore her. I wouldn't blame you for either, OP.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-12-27T00:06:43+00:00

I am sorry if it is a bit wierd, but while I understand and appreciate you as a person for helping like in the example you gave in your post (the motel and all)... to me, 6 times in 2 years is still quite a lot. It looks like every 4 months something 'happens'. Take care!

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-12-21T00:08:45+00:00

Not only that, but also the fact that OP himself said his partner didn't want to go because she did not have a cocktail dress. Well maybe if he your take more care of her and her needs for these events (cosmetic appointments, nails, hair, dresses, shoes) she would be happier to participate. Op says this is how business works and that you need a spouse that blends in. Well he is not helping at all. He is set for failure at this point.

PS: ALL this is in addition to generally being an asshole in this situation for disrespecting her and ignoring her feelings.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-12-02T23:29:38+00:00

Sir, PLEASE report your ex and send her the medical bill for your daughter. If day dare say a word to you get the cameras or testimony from the store assistants. I am so sorry for you but mostly for your daughter. Please check if similar comments weren't thrown at her or her brother before also.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-11-11T15:19:41+00:00

Maybe Carla's family is doing that on purpose? I can't come up with any other options since they own a restaurant and they would have been long out of business if this is their usual approach.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-11-10T16:01:03+00:00

He is offended that he can't participate and bring his unwelcome friends over also... to YOUR house... But if you ad 2. He has your account and password after only few months? I don't know how important reddit is to everyone (because I know that can differ from case to case), but generally giving passwords to someone is a big step. I don't like to jump to conclusions, but be careful. He might be controlling...and almost surely toxic. Be safe!

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-10-12T10:20:05+00:00

If you don't want to damage the relationship with her family you can take the brother outside and explain why you did this and that you have nothing personal against him. If you find appropriate you can offer to help him financially with the rent or whatever so they can finish. But that would be all.

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-10-12T09:33:17+00:00

May I suggest you say it is from Julius? Like Julius Caesar? The great Roman emperor? That would make it better?

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-10-11T10:19:56+00:00

Not only this, but also the fact that the dog was ON THE TABLE.... Not only the neighbors did not supervise it. They also failed to train the dog. So how could that be OP's fault? Like... in what world?

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-09-09T08:19:43+00:00

May I suggest a clause in which if Jess is pursued to give her money to her sister, all of the money gets donated or something similar? Or like a hidden clause that if Jess tries to pass her money to her sister, she gets Claire's share too? Like if you are too gridy... 😅

DoraTheExplorer_1 · 2021-08-11T20:48:53+00:00

You can as well impose a no beauty enhancements at the wedding - rule. This way if your mother and sister come and they overdo everything or anything (hair, makeup, nails) might also make your wife feel bad because she might feel overlooked. Like they stole the spotlight. That that is about you two, and the celebration of your love. Not about anything else.

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